Rhythm can sound like that elusive thing. Sure, other families can have a rhythm and routine to their day, but it seems so unattainable, some parents say. Yet most parents I know desperately WANT a rhythm and routine in their household. They want things to run peaceably and they know rhythm is a key to that; it is indeed a key to the functioning of the human body! Just imagine if our heart decided to beat irregularly or our lungs just decided to not breath for a few minutes. Rhythm is the well spring of life, for the body and the soul.
The top five reasons some mothers have told me they just cannot get a rhythm for their family going, even though they want to:
- “I hate rigidity” – A rhythm can be flexible; it can have a flow to it without times attached to it. Rhythm actually helps you be MORE flexible because what is essential to getting done will get done and you will have more time for sponaneous helping of neighbors and for having fun!
- “I am unorganized” – All the more reason to have a rhythm; rhythm is a great collector of the soul. A rhythm will help you and your family feel safe, secure, and grounded.
- “I am so stressed out” – Rhythm helps take away much of your stress because it acts as an aid to rest and sleep, an aid to gentle discipline, an aid to getting the essential things done, and an aid to helping you take care of yourself.
- “I can’t get a rhythm until X, Y,Z changes” – Rhythm is for where you are right here and right now! Things may not be perfect in your life or in your home environment, but having a rhythm come first can be a big help in taking baby steps toward other goals because you can build time toward these goals in your rhythm.
- “I am always behind and can’t get ahead”- Rhythm is a great help in order to break things up into small bits and pieces that feel mother-sized, rather than overwhelming.
I find an easy place to start is often with rising times and going to bed times, and then build rhythm from there. Some families find it easier to start with meal times. Whatever the case, you can start small and tailor it to your own family. Baby steps!
May this be the season of rhythm and renewal for you!