Using Main Lesson Dot Com

Some mothers have been asking me how I personally use www.mainlesson.com

I use it to find seasonal stories to tell on  baking and gardening day, and I have also found several Saint stories on there I have used as well for my Second Grader.

Here is an example of what I used off of this site during November for my Second Grader and Kindergartener:

  • “Saint Martin” for my Second Grader on Martinmas
  • “The Story of the First Corn” on Gardening Day before Thanksgiving
  • “Saint Gerasimus and the Lion” for my Second Grader for a story during Handwork

In December, I will be using:

  • “How the Fir Tree Became the Christmas Tree” for whilst cookies are baking
  • “A Christmas Legend” as a Gardening Story
  • “Mrs. Santa Claus” on Baking Day
  • A story about Holly and Saint Nicholas on Saint Nicholas Day
  • “Silvercap, King of the Frost Fairies” on Gardening Day

Hope that helps some of you see the potential use of this site,

Carrie

Favorite Books For Gentle Discipline

Specifically Regarding Anger:

  • “When Anger Hurts Your Kids” by Mckay, Fanning, Paleg and Landis
  • “love and anger the parental dilemma” by Nancy Samalin with Catherine Whitney

Under Age 9:

  • WALDORF:  “You Are Your Child’s First Teacher” by Rahima Baldwin Dancy
  • WALDORF:  “Beyond the Rainbow Bridge
  • WALDORF:  “Heaven On Earth” by Sharifa Oppenheimer, although I cannot recommend the references to time-out.  Those of you who read this blog know I oppose time-out.  Many parents do love this book though!
  • WALDORF:  “You’re Not The Boss of Me!  Understanding the Six/Seven Year Transformation” available through www.waldorfbooks.org
  • WALDORF:  Donna Simmons’ Audio Downloads  on “The Changing Face Of Discipline” and also “Talking Pictorially and Living Actively with Your Young Child” – can be found here: http://www.christopherushomeschool.org/bookstore-for-waldorf-homeschooling/audio-downloads.html
  • WALDORF“The Challenge of The Will” by Margret Meyerkort and Rudi Lissau
  • DEVELOPMENTAL:  For understanding realistic expectations for each age, I still like The Gesell Institute books “Your One-Year-Old” “Your Two-Year-Old” etc.  They are available at many libraries and are also easily picked up used.
  • DEVELOPMENTAL/LOVING GUIDANCE:  “Mothering Your Nursing Toddler”  by Norma Bumgarner
  • ATTACHMENT PARENTING:  “Attached At The Heart”  by Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker (one chapter of discipline)
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  La Leche League’s “Adventures in Gentle Discipline” –this also has a part about time out as mentioned by parents, which I oppose.    The voices of many mothers are throughout this book, so you will have to pick through what resonates with you.  Particularly if you are also a Waldorf family, the “talk talk talk” of some of the families with their tiny children  may not resonate with you!  There is however, a good section as to what “gentle discipline” is and isn’t in the beginning of the book.  A good place to start if you are new to gentle discipline and equate it in your head with children having no boundaries (which is NOT what it is!)
  • ATTACHMENT PARENTING:  “Connection Parenting”  by Pam Leo
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Easy To Love, Difficult To Discipline”  by Becky Bailey
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Playful Parenting” by Lawrence Cohen
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Discipline Without Distress” by Judy Arnall – you can search through this blog for chapter summaries of this book, not all strategies in this book are compatible with a Waldorf approach but overall a helpful book
  • And may I ever so humbly recommend this blog?:)

Over Age 9:

  • WALDORF:  Specific to the Nine-Year-Old Change:  Donna Simmons’s Audio Downloads on Third Grade and also “The Changing Face of Discipline for ages 9 and up”
  • WALDORF:  Specific to the Nine-Year-Old Change:  “Encountering the Self” by Hermann Koepke
  • GENERAL PARENTING:  “Hold On to Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Kids Are Worth It!” by Barbara Coloroso.  Has some good examples of how to “hold the space” in it. 
  •  GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Loving Your Child Is Not Enough:  Positive Discipline That Works” by Nancy Samalin with Martha Moraghan Jablow
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Raising Your Spirited Child” and “Kids, Parents and Power Struggles” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka  (I put these here because the strategies essentially involve emotion coaching and I feel that is better for an older child).

 

Over Age 12:

  • WALDORF:  Specific to the 12- Year -Old Change:  Hermann Koepke’s “On the Threshold of Adolescence”
  • WALDORF:  Also, several of Steiner’s works are now available for education and observation of the adolescent:   http://www.waldorfbooks.com/edu/adolescence.htm
  • WALDORF:  “Between Form and Freedom” by Betty Staley
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Kids Are Worth It!”  by Barbara Coloroso
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Kids, Parents and Power Struggles” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka and “Raising Your Spirited Child” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
  • GENTLE DISCIPLINE:  “Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids” by Naomi Drew
  • COMMUNCICATION:  “NonViolent Communication”  by Marshall Rosenberg (and to me, once your child hits 15 or so, why not attend a NVC Group together and practice?)
  • COMMUNICATION:  “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk” and “Liberated Parents, Liberated Children:  Your Guide To A Happier Family” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

 

Let me be clear, one can certainly read the gentle discipline books for the older children when one’s child is younger and gleam things from them, but some of  the approaches are best saved for when your child is older!

And finally, some gentle books for the mother:

CHRISTIAN:  “The Power of A Positive Mother” by Karol Ladd

GENERAL/BUDDHIST: “Everyday Blessings:  The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting” by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn

WALDORF/GENERAL:  “Mitten Strings for God:  Reflections For Mothers In A Hurry” by Katrina Kenison

Blessings,

Carrie

Saint Nicholas Day in The Waldorf Home

Yes, Saint Nicholas is often celebrated in Waldorf Schools and within the Waldorf Home.  And before one worries about Saints being associated with the Waldorf curriculum, I urge you to remember that Saint Nicholas Day is widely celebrated all over Europe.

In the book “An Overview of the Waldorf Kindergarten” as edited by Joan Almon, this is written about the role of Saint Nicholas during Advent:  “(Saint Nicholas) is an archetypal figure of heavenly wisdom and is the forerunner of Santa Claus, whose very name is reminiscent of St. Nicholas. Santa Claus, however, is a more earth-bound, incarnated figure who dwells with elves in the North Pole.  Though he, too, if full of love for the children, his gifts are more of a material nature, even though he comes on Christmas Eve, a time of profound spiritual giving.  One can understand how he arose in our more materialistic, secular age, and one can hold him a positive way for the sake of the children who love him so, but one can also create a place in the Advent season to bring the original, more heavenly St. Nicholas to the children.”

I guess because I have German/Polish/Norwegian/French roots and my husband has Danish/German roots, we love Saint Nicholas Day.  Our oldest daughter goes to German School on Saturday mornings and I love to see it celebrated in the community there as well.  They leave their shoes out and whilst lessons are going on, Saint Nicholas is busy filling the shoes up with goodies. 🙂

Saint Nicholas Day is on December 6th, although I do believe my Dutch friends celebrate it on December 5th.  In Holland, Saint Nicholas comes with “Black Peter” and distributes gifts – some families use a “Sinterklass sack” (did I slaughter that, my Dutch friends??!!)  Sometimes he comes with a Golden Book of names to read the names of the good little children!

Saint Nicholas was born either Syria or Turkey in 3 A.D. and eventually became the Bishop of Myra in Asia Minor.  There are many stories about Saint Nicholas out there for telling – some involve the provision of a dowry for three daughters, some involve Saint Nicholas bringing food to the starving, some involve calming the seas.  He is the Patron Saint of prisoners (Saint Nicholas was persecuted for his faith and spent time in prison), children, sailors and is the Patron Saint of Russia.

Children typically leave out a clean shoe (we leave out wooden clogs from Germany and Holland on our hearth) along with hay and carrots for the horse of Saint Nicholas.  I believe some families also make honey cakes and leave those out as well.  Usually in return the children receive nuts, candy, chocolates and sometimes gifts as well.  Saint Nicholas Eve is the major gift-giving occasion in Holland.

This is a holiday that leads us deeper into Advent, and is one of great joy.  If you are seeking more information regarding Saint Nicholas, I suggest you try the Saint Nicholas Center here:http://www.stnicholascenter.org/Brix?pageID=23

Here are some Saint Nicholas crafts:  http://www.stnicholascenter.org/Brix?pageID=122   Every year we crack walnuts, hot glue the walnut shell closed and then hot glue that onto a piece of red felt that has been made into a cone shape.  On top of that we place the famous Bishop’s mitre and hang it on our tree.  Lovely!

Here is a Saint Nicholas story from Main Lesson Dot Com:

http://www.mainlesson.com/display.php?author=olcott&book=holidays&story=purses

Blessings,

Carrie

Advent EBook

The Advent EBook from Seasons of Joy is here!  Please follow this link to Annette’s site to order:  http://naturalfamily.50megs.com/custom2_1.html

I have not seen it yet, but I am sure it will be a gift for the holidays!

The EBook  is centered around the famous verse of Steiner’s that we all know and love:

“The first light of Advent is the light of stone–.
Stones that live in crystals, seashells, and bones.
The second light of Advent is the light of plants–
Plants that reach up to the sun and in the breezes dance.
The third light of Advent is the light of beasts–
All await the birth, from the greatest and in least.
The fourth light of Advent is the light of humankind–
The light of hope that we may learn to love and understand.”

Many blessings,

Carrie

Part Two of Advent In The Waldorf Home

In Part One of Advent In The Waldorf Home ( https://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/11/23/advent-in-the-waldorf-home-part-one/)     we talked about the view of Christmastide as a holy mood.  “All Year Round” reiterates this in saying, “In the depths of winter, when the lower kingdoms of nature have withdrawn, it is possible for us to awaken to a rich experience of the world, to raise our hearts to the glory of God on high, and to celebrate that spiritual revelation which is, at the same time, a goal for all humankind – the birth of the Son of Man….With the coming of Christianity, a new force enters the world – the power of resurrection.  The Christian Festivals which stand at the four cardinal points of the year – Easter, St. John’s, Michaelmas, Christmas – each bring their own spirit of resurrection, of new life, and they bring it always a few days after the ancient nature festivals……At Christmastime we celebrate the new life of the earth’s own sun – the Light of the World- that which, through the good will of men and women, forever shines in the darkness, and will not be overcome.”

The Nature Table at this time can take on hues of snow white, pale mauves and blues, crystals of calcite, quartz and amethyst, glass vases, glass candleholders.  Paper stars and snowflakes are lovely, and a tabletop Advent Garden can be added with a way to count down the days until Christmas.  The Advent Wreath is also lovely and it can be hung from the ceiling or  placed on a table.  Christmas trees are also customary, as are Advent calendar (I prefer the chocolate-less kind for the children!)

Advent begins the new Christian calendar each year.  It begins on the Sunday closest to November 30th and ends on December 24th (Christmas Eve, also known as Adam and Eve Day).    “All Year Round” says “We move from a season of remembrance for the dead, into a time of preparation for that which is to be born.”  So Advent becomes about getting ready – crafting, baking, making things with our hands, firelight and candlelight.

One way Waldorf school typically mark this time of preparation for the new, this time of inner contemplation in the darkness, is through the Advent Spiral or Advent Garden.  Our Waldorf homeschool group does this every year, and here is a post regarding last year’s Advent Spiral: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/12/07/advent-and-other-winter-celebrations-within-the-waldorf-home/ 

Typically the floor of a large room is cleared out, and an evergreen spiral is made with a small tree stump in the middle with a large central candle on top.  Beautiful representations of the different kingdoms are set in the spiral and soft flutes or lyres are played for music.  The room is lit by candlelight.    During the music, each  child walks the spiral with an unlit candle tucked inside an apple and then takes a light from the central candle for their own previously  unlit one.  They then walk out of the spiral, placing their candle and apple on a gold star laid out on the spiral.  At the end of this ceremony, the spiral is aglow with lights and is truly lovely.  Then all quietly leave the room. 

Here are some links regarding the celebration of Advent within a Waldorf context:

http://www.waldorflibrary.org/Journal_Articles/adventmemories.pdf

http://www.waldorflibrary.org/Journal_Articles/GW0549.pdf

http://www.waldorflibrary.org/Journal_Articles/GW3212.pdf

Many blessings as you prepare for Advent,

Carrie

Advent In The Waldorf Home: Part One

Advent can be a more challenging festival for some people, depending upon one’s spiritual and religious orientation.  The book, “An Overview Of The Waldorf Kindergarten” edited by Joan Almon has this to say:

“December brings special challenges to the Waldorf Kindergarten teacher, for Christmas is a vivid part of our culture and a festival that brings deep joy to children.  However, there is a tendency to be so overt in one’s celebration of Christmas that the kindergarten comes to feel more like a Christian Sunday School than like a Waldorf kindergarten.  This brings great pain to our non-Christian families, but it is problematic even for the children of Christian background.  Within the Waldorf kindergarten the festivals are not meant to be “taught” but are offered in a light manner, much like telling a fairy tale, which allows the children great freedom to come to the festival as they will.  When offered in a spirit of gratitude and with a sense of wonder and awe, something of the essence of the festival can speak to children.”

Steiner spoke of “Christmastide” in his lecture “The Christmas Festival In The Changing Course Of Time”:

Seeking souls have every reason to ask themselves:  “What can this “Christ festival” mean to us?”  And in their hearts they can admit:  Precisely through Spiritual Science something will be given to humanity, which will bring again, in the fullest sense of the word, that depth and greatness which cannot be any more today.  If we don’t succumb to illusion and phantasy we must admit that these can no longer exist at present.  What has become often a mere festival of gifts cannot be said to have the same meaning as what the Christmas festival meant to people for many centuries in the past.  Through the celebration of this festival the souls used to blossom forth with hope-filled joy, with hope-borne certainty, and with the awareness of belonging to a Spiritual Being, Who descended from Spiritual heights, and united Himself with the earth, so that every human soul of good may share in His powers. Indeed, for many centuries the celebration of this festival awakened in the souls of men the consciousness that the individual human soul can feel firmly supported by the spiritual power just described, and that all men of good will can find themselves gathered together in the service of this spiritual power.  Thereby they can also find together the right ways of life on earth, so that they can mean humanly as much as possible to one another, so that they can love each other as human beings on earth as much as possible.”

Steiner goes on to say in this lecture that Advent provoked a specific mood within the people”:

“The essential thing is that a mood prevailed during the Christmas season, the days and week surrounding the Christmas festival, to which the heart was given over, a mood in which the whole village would participate, and which enable people to take in with simple immediacy all the representations that were brought before their souls.”

Later in the same lecture he says:

“Now I ask you, please notice what this means:  to call upon Nature in such a way that one greets everyone whom one wishes to greet with a certain mood in one’s heart, a mood which arises from:  “the roots, large and small, which are in the earth, many and all.”

So my thought is thus: even if you do not celebrate Advent, can you work to bring some of this reverent mood to your home during this Season?  Can you be connected to the holy, the great, the spiritual?

Many mothers ask me about inner work.  I would like to offer you a series on Inner Work for Advent.  Stay tuned!

Many blessings,

Carrie

My Notebook

I started out a long time ago with a “Control Journal” as suggested from Flylady (www.flylady.net).  This is essentially suggested to be a binder with your household routines and such in it.    I still have it, and mine is mainly  now divided into sections for phone numbers,  directories for the neighborhood, some deep cleaning routines/checkliststs and dinner menu plans I printed out from my membership at www.cookingTF.com

Then I read this book during the last trimester of my third pregnancy  (“Becoming The Woman God Wants Me To Be” by Donna Patrow):http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Woman-God-Wants-Me/dp/0800730720/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1258915978&sr=8-1.  I cannot say I loved all of the advice in the book.  As a physical therapist and someone who took many, many college-level nutrition courses, I was particularly and seriously concerned about the exercise and nutrition advice offered in this book.  But, this book did instill a further inspiration for that “inner work” we are always talking about with parenting and Waldorf homeschooling.  All of us need a “nudge” to keep on track!  I pulled out two other books that were inspiring to me in the past, “The Power of A Praying Wife” by Stormie OMartian ( http://www.amazon.com/Power-Praying%C2%AE-Wife-Deluxe/dp/0736919899/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1258916244&sr=1-3)  and this one, The Power of A Positive Mom” by Karol Ladd ( http://www.amazon.com/Power-Positive-Mom-Revised/dp/1416551212/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1258916301&sr=1-5) .  These two books provide me much inspiration when I need it. I combined some of the things from those books along with the idea of making a binder as mentioned in “Becoming the Woman God Wants Me To Be” and made a sort of household notebook with sections that also fulfill my penchant for being a prayer warrior and my inner work.

So, when you open up my binder, the first thing you see is my Personal Vision Statement and our Family Mission Statement.  The entire first section is “Power Tools” of inspiring quotes, Affirmations, a page of Scripture Memory Verses, prayer lists for people outside our immediate family and prayer lists for the immediate family.

The other sections are:

Personal:    Our weekly rhythm, Cleaning Routines/Checklists, Evening Routines, to-do list

My Husband (I have personalized daily prayers there for my husband based upon some of the areas mentioned in “The Power of A Praying Wife”)

My Children (separate prayer lists for each of the three children)

Household (seasonal deep cleaning checklists, menu for the week, recipes for the week)

Projects (typically this includes lectures of Steiner’s I have printed out and am in the midst of reading)

A Section for Melisa Nielsen’s “Be A Beacon” Program

I use this binder two to three times a day or more as I pray for people and take some moments in the midst of our busy day to connect to my Creator.

Inner work is so important; if you make this a priority you will reap many benefits in your parenting, your homeschooling and your life!

Blessings,

Carrie

An Anthroposophic View of the Second Year

We looked at the first year here: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/11/07/an-anthroposophic-view-of-walking/  and now we are on to look at the second year.  My main source for this perspective is Karl Konig’s wonderful book, “The First Three Years of the Child:  Walking, Speaking, Thinking.”

Konig points out that speech is something that separates Man from Animal.  “Cries, screams, moans, or other sounds expressing the woes and joys of existence are not speech.  Speech is not merely expression, but naming.”

Anthroposophists see speech unfolding in a three-fold manner:  expression, naming, and then speaking.  “The life of the speech organism begins at the moment of birth.  The beginning has been made when the air current is drawn into the body and tone formation is accomplished with the first cry.  During the embryonic period, this speech organism was at rest, being built up and formed, but at birth its activity begins, enabling the child gradually to learn speech as well as speaking.”    The other three-fold way to look at speech is to see syllables as building the expression, words building the naming, and sentences building the speaking.

Speech is also seen as having two sides:  the motor side (speaking) and the sensory side (hearing).    Speech develops in a three-fold manner:  babbling, meaningless imitation, meaningful reaction to the words addressed to the child. 

Konig makes an interesting point on page 37 and writes:  “  Though the growing baby seems to take in the words and sentences addressed to him with increasing understanding, his comprehension does not yet constitute a word understanding in  its true sense….the word or spoken sentence is not of importance to him, but rather the accompanying gestures and actions, the inner approach.”

From the eighteenth month through the twenty fourth month, the child is typically in a stage of naming.  Everything is named and the child is a joyous discoverer.  The child also becomes what Konig calls a “conqueror” because that which the child can name can also belong to him and become his property. 

The child then moves from naming  into simple, sometimes jumbled sentences into the use of one’s native language.  “Only in talking is the true acquisition of one’s native language accomplished, and this is possible only because the child grows up in a speaking environment.  Speech speaks with the other speakers and expresses the personality of the child.  Speech assumes a social character and the child grows into a language community, that is, into the community of his people.”

Konig’s last point in this chapter is to point out that speech pathologies are actually the “falling apart” of the three-foldness of speech and the lack of harmony between expression, naming and talking.

Happy pondering,

Carrie

Waldorf Pure?

This actually goes with this post:  “Are You Moving Forward Or Just Treading Water?’”( https://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/11/16/are-you-moving-forward-or-just-treading-water/).  I think this is one thing that holds people back from Waldorf homeschooling, this notion  that they are not “pure” Waldorf.  I find it rather odd we preface conversations about Waldorf in this manner, when we don’t seem to about any other form of homeschooling.  Are you Montessori pure?  Classically pure?

Roberto Trostli  points out in his book “Rhythms of Learning”  that there are “three salient features”  of Waldorf Education:

“1.  Waldorf education is based on a developmental approach that addresses the changing needs of the growing child and maturing adolescent.

2. Waldorf teachers strive to transform education into an art that educates the whole child- the heart and the hands as well as the head.

3.  Waldorf schools are committed to developing capacities as well as skills so that their students will become self-aware, compassionate individuals with a sense of responsibility for the Earth.” 

Doesn’t sound that crazy, does it?  So where do we get so hung up?  Maybe we put much of the dogma on ourselves.  Steiner was all about the individual, and creating one’s own path within Waldorf Education.   He was all about teachers evolving and creating their own things out of Waldorf Education and their own inner work, arising to meet each individual child. 

Many people “mix” Waldorf with different things….Donna Simmons writes somewhat  of this here in her post entitled, “But Is It Waldorf?”  http://christopherushomeschool.typepad.com/blog/2005/10/but_is_it_waldo.html

Her point is if one understands the Waldorf curriculum then one can choose to work from that and make that work for your family even if you deviate here and there from what a Waldorf school would do in accordance to what works best at home.  Let’s face it, there are some things that work well in the home environment that don’t work well in the school environment and vice versus.  But let’s celebrate that and stop perceiving it as some kind of inferior being to do Waldorf Education at home instead of at school. 

Can you mix Waldorf with other methods? Sure, many people do.  Donna Simmons has an audio download here specifically about Unschooling and Waldorf:  http://www.christopherushomeschool.org/bookstore-for-waldorf-homeschooling/audio-downloads.html

However, I will say this:  Waldorf is a philosophy of education, not just a mish-mash of this reading program, this math program, this writing program.  While many homeschoolers are out searching for the “best program”, Waldorf homeschoolers continue to work within a distinctive approach for each seven year cycle and what subjects really speak into the soul of a child who is seven, eight, nine, ten, etc.  It is a fundamental difference. 

And I do think “mixing” can be harder in the very Early Years.  To me, either you work within that first seven year cycle and accept that the right time for more pure academic work is toward that six and half or seven years of age or you just don’t.  And it is not that the Waldorf Kindergarten is anti-academic!  But it is anti “shove it into their heads” at that stage.  We use the body at that stage for such academic concepts of acquiring language and writing (oral, through the ears and the voice as we listen and  re-tell stories and verses in three different languages), math (orally and through the body as we play, skip, count in verses and being outside), science and nature education (through bodily movement outside using all 12 senses), artistic sense (by doing and creating, not  by looking at pictures in a book of masterpieces and analyzing the book). To me, though,  this makes sense for a small child – does it to you?  Some people are concerned about a “slow start” – I personally am more concerned about bringing in the information at the time when my child is going to understand it and want to learn it best.  Are you?

Many people are afraid if they stick just with Waldorf their children will miss something.  Aren’t you more afraid they are missing something by skipping around and changing programs all the time?  In Waldorf every single thing builds upon itself and it is all covered in its due course.  Trust in that!

Every teacher has to pick and choose the best way to illuminate a subject for a particular grade, this is true in public school, private school and Waldorf school.  It is also true in homeschooling.  There is no way to “cover everything”.  Part of homeschooling is teaching your child how to find information, synthesize information and problem-solve, not just regurgitate facts.  Waldorf homeschooling really does excel in this area.

What you want is to have time to ENJOY your family – you should be able to have time to hike, bake bread, paint, pick berries, cook and love and enjoy each other. 

Simplify your life, and yes, pick what works best for you and your family.  I really do think Waldorf is enough, but if you understand what Waldorf is then you can decide where you are comfortable to insert a different approach to help your child.  However, my plea is for you to give Waldorf a chance alone instead of automatically assuming  it is not enough 🙂 or that it is too “dogmatic” for you to make it work.

I am sure this will generate a lot of discussion!  Looking forward to it!

Blessings,

Carrie

Are You Moving Forward Or Just Treading Water?

Do you have family or friends where the same issues keep coming up over and over and over?  Someone who has health problems, for example, yet does nothing to help himself or herself get better?  Someone who constantly has issues with basic routines of household care but who cannot seem to pull it together despite talking, planning and help?  Someone who wants to change something and complains about said something but just cannot seem to change it?

What is holding them back?  What holds you back?  How can you move forward instead of just treading water?

1.  Get support!  I think this is the number one way to become accountable. For years I was involved in lifting weights, and it was always so much easier to go the gym at 6 AM if I knew someone was there waiting for me.  The same is true for developing habits!  Get support, get a partner, get accountable to someone besides yourself.

2.  Develop your own inner will power.  This is difficult, but sometimes the only way to do something is to just do it! Sometimes in parenting and in life we have to do things we don’t want to do. Don’t want to get up early? Put your feet on the floor and sit on the edge of the bed a minute.  Don’t want to knit?  Do ten stitches.  Work in those baby steps and if you fall get back up again.

3.  Stop using excuses. They only limit you!  Work toward solving the problem, not going around and around about why you can’t. Low on cash and need Waldorf curriculum?  Save 5 dollars each week from the grocery money, save spare change, ask for books for holiday gifts, sell something you own, scour the used Waldorf curriculum list, look on the Internet for free resources, join the national Waldorf Yahoo!Groups and ask questions.  If you want it badly enough, you will work to make it happen!

4.  Make a decision!  Sometimes you just have to stop researching and gathering information, and start doing.

5.  Know when to let go – we cannot be responsible for anyone but ourselves and our own household.  Know when to lighten up; know when to respect other people’s ideas even if it is not what you would have picked or done.  And know when to let go.  If someone feels the need to bring up “that thing” which they love to complain about but have done nothing about, respect that they may only want a listening ear (and it is okay to not have it be YOUR listening ear!)

Keep moving forward toward your dreams!  You can do it!

Carrie