More About Melisa Nielsen’s Workshop

Some more interesting points from Melisa’s workshop that  I attended over the weekend that I am still digesting:

She talked at length about getting comfortable with the idea of Spirit/Source/God as a foundation of your Waldorf homeschooling experience and what that might look like in your home and family life (Please see the post entitled “Refreshed and Renewed” for more details about that!)

She talked at length about reading Steiner for yourself and/or listening to the audio archives of Steiner’s available on the Web as the second part of your foundation for Waldorf homeschooling.

She talked at length about taking care of yourself, your family, self-care for the homeschooling mother, the role of the father, finding alone time, how to handle chores for children of different ages, allowances, feeding the whole family.  How to get all this done so you have time to homeschool, LOL!

Melisa talked about the question of is it possible to combine Waldorf homeschooling with Unschooling or with Classical approaches.

She talked about the differences between providing a Waldorf education at home based upon Steiner’s indications versus attendance at a Waldorf school.

There was so much more that was so interesting, but it might be thought-provoking for you, dear Reader, to look at some of those topics above and think about how you feel about those things, how those things look in your family.

If you have comments, please do leave them in the comment section.  I would love to hear what you  have to say!

In Peace,

Carrie

A Mother’s Job in the Waldorf Homeschool Kindergarten

It is not your job to be teaching academics quite yet; but it is your job to be laying the healthy foundations for later science, math and reading and writing through multi-sensorial experiences, festival experiences, outside time, nature walks, and gross motor skills.  It is also your job to be developing your own skills so you can show your child how to do things throughout the grade school years.

Lovey over at Loveyland (http://lovey-land.blogspot.com/)  and I brainstormed this list quite a while ago, but I still think it provides some direction and perhaps a plan for mothers who are trying to learn about the different practical elements of Waldorf education:

Child Age 2

Mothers should be working on:

Inner work

Strong rhythms

Storytelling

Puppetry (sewing skills)

Singing

Verses for transitions

Preparation for festivals

Discovering how to get your child into their body – this is VERY important; see post on this blog about this subject:  https://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/01/10/getting-children-into-their-bodies-part-one-birth-to-age-2-and-a-half/

Child Age 3

Mothers should be working on all of the above, plus:

Baking and cooking

Wet felting

Learning a foreign language, preferably songs and verses in a foreign language

Child Age 4

Mothers should be working on all of the above, plus:

Wet –on -wet watercolor painting

Modeling

Woodworking

Child Age 5

Mother should be working on all of the above, plus:

Gardening and preserving food

Simple plant, animal and tree identification  (this will not come in until grades three and above, but it is hard to make up a story about a Willow Tree Fairy if you don’t know what a willow tree looks like or if one grows in your area).

Dollmaking  – some children make a simple doll as a more complex project for the 6 year old year

Child Age 6

Mother should be working on all of the above, plus:

Pennywhistle

Drawing and coloring with block crayons (you will need this for First Grade)

Knitting (will need in Grades One, Two)

Crocheting

Work on memorizing longer, more complex fairy tales for this year and subsequent years.

Hopefully that gives you a place to start,

Carrie

Refreshed and Renewed

I attended a workshop today given by Melisa Nielsen of A Little Garden Flower (www.alittlegardenflower.com) .  It was excellent, and I hope all of you get a chance to hear her at some point in your Waldorf homeschooling journey. 

She made many wonderful points and provided so many examples and practical, real-life ideas from topics as diverse as chores in the home to dealing with media to Waldorf second grade to Waldorf homeschooling multiple ages of children. 

One thing she brought up at the very beginning of her workshop that I thought was excellent is her idea to get comfortable talking about “the Source” – whatever that means to you, whether this is the Universe, God, a deity, a higher being.  She talked about the importance of a family, including Dads, connecting in the morning by lighting a candle and either saying a verse together or praying together before the day begins.  She talked about the idea of getting comfortable with talking about Saints, not because Waldorf teaches them within the context of the Catholic Church, but because Waldorf teaches them within in the context of the Saints being other-worldly people who did extraordinary things.  She talked about exploring your own ideas of faith and spirituality because as things come up through the grades in Waldorf, you need to know how you feel about things to guide your child.  Are you and your husband on the same page spiritually?  What virtues does your family live by?  What are you so uncomfortable about and why?  Perhaps you need to explore that, so you can be clear with your child as he or she progresses throughout the curriculum and studies  – the Waldorf curriculum studies the teachings of nearly all the major world religions and religious/spiritual figures.  She outlined resources and suggestions for inner work throughout the grades and provided many examples of her own spiritual work.

I brought up to her that in the past I have had atheists ask me if they could work with Waldorf education at home.  My answer has always been that Waldorf is based upon the acknowledgement  that the child is a spiritual being on a spiritual journey in this earthly place.  I think if one does not believe in the spiritual dimension of human beings, this would be a difficult curriculum to work with.  Melisa brought up that if a family is drawn to Waldorf but has no professed spiritual beliefs at all, perhaps that family should examine why they are being drawn to Waldorf education.  Many families that are drawn to the Waldorf curriculum have been hurt by organized religion in the past, which is unfortunate, and Melisa pointed out the great capacity of Waldorf education to heal the whole family.  We talked about how our religious baggage should not be passed on to our children.

For those of you contemplating the role of religion on the Waldorf curriculum, the best article I have seen regarding this was from Renewal.  At first I could not find the article, but then I finally tracked down a copy of it here on Donna Simmons’ website:  http://www.christopherushomeschool.org/article_is_waldorf_education_christian.htm

There were many other thought-provoking discussions at this conference.  There will  be an audiotape of this four-hour workshop in Atlanta available for sale through Melisa’s website at some point.  I highly recommend you all get it and listen to it as she tackled so many important subjects that will truly influence how you parent your children, take care of your husband, and set the tone in your home.

More to come,

Carrie

SpankOut Day USA

SpankOut Day USA is coming on April 30th!  It is a wonderful chance to educate and show teachers, parents, and others that spanking is harmful and positive alternatives exist.

To find out more information about SpankOut Day USA,  please follow this link:

http://www.stophitting.com/index.php?page=spankout

To find out where corporal punishment is still allowed in the United States and steps you can take to stop this, please follow this link:

http://www.stophitting.com/index.php?page=cando-main

I have many posts on this blog related to no spanking and positive discipline if you hit the “no spanking” tag in the tag box on the right of the screen.  The Center For Effective Discipline has this book on their website in PDF format that may be helpful to some of you – it looks at NORMAL development stages, long-term goals in parenting, the concept of warmth and setting structured, loving limits.  Here is the link:

http://www.stophitting.com/pdf/PositiveDiscipline-WhatItIsandHowToDoIt.pdf

Happy Reading,

Carrie

Sixth Grade Main Lesson Books

Did you all see these amazing main lesson book creations over here at Loveyland?  For those of you with small children, check it out and be amazed at where your child will go with the Waldorf curriculum as they mature and grow!

http://lovey-land.blogspot.com/2009/02/main-lesson-books.html

Carrie

Celebrations of Spring in the Waldorf Home

“Children relate to the world around them primarily through what is seen and done.  It is only later that they easily grasp abstract ideas.  So in preparing festivals for children we give priority to the visual presentation and to the accompanying activity.  We have found it best to avoid completely the temptation to explain in words anything to do with the meaning or background to a festival.  It could be many years later that illuminating connections in thought are discovered by the child- but this will be a personal discovery and therefore all the more precious and inspiring.”

-All Year Round, page 42.

Here are some ideas for celebrating Spring within your Waldorf Home! (I did not include Passover and hope to find you a blog to link to with Passover ideas – Loveyland, where are you??)

Karneval/Mardi Gras:  Probably not a true Waldorf tradition celebrated within the Waldorf school, but Karneval is a season of fun in many regions of Germany !  You could consider celebrating at home with cutting out chains of colorful paper dolls and hanging them up, celebrating with  a Karneval party where the children dress up (not in scary costume, but colorful costume!) and there is dancing and singing and food.  Some regions of Germany celebrate with a special kind of  jelly-filled donut for Karneval.

The season of Karneval typically culminates in Shrove Tuesday, the day before Ash Wednesday.  Wikipedia has a lovely entry on all the different foods people in different countries eat on this day before Lent.  See this link for further details:   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shrove_Tuesday   In my region of the United states, this night is known to many in the US as “pancake dinner” night for “Fat Tuesday.”

There are many pancake rhymes out there, here is one I remember that I believe is Mother Goose:

Mix a pancake

Stir a pancake

Pop it in a pan

Fry a pancake

Toss a pancake

Catch it if you can

You could have a pancake tossing race as I am told they do in England!

In some Protestant traditions, families make pretzels on Ash Wednesday, the first day of Lent.  Here is a recipe I found:  http://www.rca.org/Page.aspx?pid=2601.    I also found this link regarding pretzels and their role in Lent from a Catholic perspective:  http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/religion/re0535.html 

Lent: 

According to the book, “Celebrating Irish Festivals” regarding Lent:  “In older times people were expected to abstain from all animal fats during Lent.  This meant no eggs, butter, milk or meat, so the people ate simple meals like porridge, with black tea for breakfast; and potatoes, herring and seaweed for dinner………..In the 19th century the custom changed so that only Ash Wednesday and Good Friday were strictly observed fasts.  There was a prohibition on dancing and singing during Lent.  Visiting friends was frowned upon, as were card games; and still today many people decide not to visit the pub during this period……Nowadays, many people choose to give something up for Lent.  This can be a habit, or something like chocolate or sweets.  You could also choose to take up some spiritual discipline during this time.”

I personally like to do more intensive inner work during the 12 days of Christmas and during Lent.  One thing that I have been using for my own adult inner work during this season of Lent is the contemplation of my role  in Social Justice.  I have been using these devotions as found here:  http://images.rca.org/docs/discipleship/LentenDevotional.pdf  Food for thought. 

Maybe you would like to join the Anthroposophical Society during this time to further your foundation for Waldorf homeschooling.  Maybe you will intensify your yoga practice or prayer or meditation life.  I am sure you  will find the thing that speaks the most strongly to you.

Other thoughts for during Lent include Spring Cleaning, and also cleansing your body with such herbs as dandelion and nettle.   There are many wonderful recipes for this in many of the festival books.

The book “All Year Round” has this to add regarding the celebration of Lent with small children:

In what ways can we develop an appropriate Lenten mood for a younger child?  We could sit together for a few minutes each morning, listening in silence as the birdsong  gains strength from the ebb of night.  We could take time to watch for the moon as it unfolds its rhythmic process between darkness and light.  There are many small, quiet ways in which the adult can offer certain pictures.  We do not mean art reproductions of the Crucifixion, which children can find disturbing, but pictures taken “out of the book of Nature”, or presentations of a symbolic quality.    For example, if an unlit candle stands on the dining room table each day instead of flowers, this can make a very deep impression…….”

St. Patrick’s Day:

The book “Celebrating Irish Festivals” discusses the life of St. Patrick and provides a story about Finn MacCool and St. Patrick, which would probably be suitable for eight-year-olds and up. 

Some children wake up to find a St. Patrick on their Nature Table.  Many families celebrate this day by having green food (yes, the dye, the horror!), making shamrock rolls, hunting for shamrocks outside, sewing little green felt shamrocks to pin to a shirt.  Celtic music is great fun as well.  Some mothers sew a small little green shirt and pants and leave them somewhere for the children to find in the morning, or have a scavenger-type hunt for gold.   I have known parents who even went so far to use green food coloring in the toilets even, LOL!

I don’t know how “Waldorf-y” any of this is, but it sure is fun!

Spring Equinox:  A great time to change the scene on your Nature Table!

Some families set up an egg tree especially for the Equinox and some families do one tree for the Equinox and one for Easter.  Some families wet felt flowers and when they are dry, tack them to their shirts with a safety pin.  Some families use the Equinox to leave out special gifts for the birds to build nests with or make birdhouses or Mason bee houses.  Wet-on-wet watercolor painting on paper cut out in the shapes of chicks or rabbits also comes to mind, as does those simple pipe cleaner and coffee filter butterflies.

 Easter

Palm SundayAll Year Round recommends making a cockerel to hang over the breakfast table for the children to wake up to and includes directions.

There is also a thought that if you have been using an unlit candle on your table, then you start lighting it on Palm Sunday.

This can also be a day to sow grass seed or wheat grass or start a Lenten Garden in a dish.

For the time between Palm Sunday and Easter Sunday, you could make an Easter Pole as a family.  The pole usually is made from a branch that you can bend into a hoop at the top, decorate with streamers and a bread rooster.   Some families also do an Easter tree and decorate it with blown and dyed Easter eggs. Even a small child of age 4 or 5 may be able to take a large-eyed needle to sew some yellow felt together to make Easter chicks for the Easter Tree.

Maundy Thursday may be a day of a simple meal.  In much of Europe, this is a day to eat green food such as herbs and salad.

Good Friday is ideally the day to make Hot Cross Buns and also to dye Easter eggs if you have not done that before this day.  There is a lovely book regarding Easter Crafts, titled simply “The Easter Craft Book” by Thomas and Petra Berger that may give you other ideas.

Some families also plant things on Good Friday, and seeds are nice gifts in the Easter baskets.

Holy Saturday/Easter Sunday:  A day of waiting, stillness, anticipation.  Some families make a bread ring for Easter morning that has “pockets’ in it, and on Easter morning the children wake up to dyed eggs being in the pockets.

All Year Round” has a simple explanation about the Easter bunny versus the Easter Hare and remarks, “May we make a plea for the reinstatement of the Easter Hare?  He is fast becoming an endangered species, owing to the increasing popularity of the “Easter Bunny.”  The rabbit, with its established communal life and reputation for timidity, presents a very different picture from that of the hare.  The hare is a loner, creating the most transient of abodes.  He is said to be a bold and courageous creature, and his upright stance is characteristic.  His long ears suggest a wide and intelligent interest in the world, and in legend and folklore he is invested with the virtue of self-sacrifice.”

If you are searching for Easter stories, Suzanne Down’s “Spring Tales” has a story about the Hare, the book “Festivals, Families and Food” has two separate tales about the Easter Hare .

As far as Easter baskets go, I know many Waldorf families who put small trinkets in the basket as opposed to candy.  Homemade items and toys are always especially wonderful.

Earth Day:  I don’t know if this is celebrated in Waldorf schools, but it may be fun to celebrate our love for the Earth and the home we share by marking the day in some way.  I have looked at a number of links on the Internet about Earth Day and small children and have not found any of them to be especially appropriate for the under-nine child from a Waldorf perspective.

Waldorf approaches the challenges we are facing in the environment from a perspective and realization that the young child is ONE with the environment; with all the trees, the animals, the birds, and the plants. As Waldorf educators, we work hard to foster reverence and wonder for the great outdoors.

So, my suggestion would be to take part in hiking that day, planting a tree, or if you have seven, eight and nine year-olds, possibly participate in helping to clean up a trail, park or river –IF you can keep the “gloom and doom” out of it and just simply say, “We are helping to keep Mother Earth neat and clean.” No guilt about what the human race is doing wrong yet! 

Remember, holidays and festivals the Waldorf way are about DOING, not the words or the explanations.  DOING.

Yours till next time,

Carrie

Waldorf Homeschool Music Curriculum

My friend Jodie is working feverishly on a Waldorf Music Curriculum for the early grades specifically tailored for the homeschooling parent with little to no music background.  Please see the details on her blog here:

http://homemusicmaking.blogspot.com/2009/03/music-curriculum.html

Happy Music Making,

Carrie

Science in Waldorf Homeschooling

Okay, I have to start this post by admitting I love science – I love biology, I love comparative anatomy, I love chemistry, ( I took college-level physics one and two but I was not a physics whiz!).  I have done a whole semester of cadaver dissection for physical therapy school, and enjoyed biochemistry and two or three college-level geology courses.  All of it fascinates me.  My husband is a tech guy, and also fascinated with astronomy, and anything and everything to do with space.

So, as you can imagine, science was an important consideration when choosing a method of homeschool education for our children.  I think Waldorf does a wonderful job in creating bright science graduates.

For those of you unfamiliar with the Waldorf approach to Science, it is very much based upon a Gothean approach. You can read further about this approach by following this link:  http://www.natureinstitute.org/scied/index.htm

This talks a great deal about how science today often requires students to take theories at face value, rather than examining the theories close up and personal and in a hands-on way.  In this day and age, where many educators count “science” as worksheets or reading a book about nature, Waldorf counts science education as DOING.  This is an extremely important point, and an essential foundation for a future scientist.

Barbara Dewey writes this in her introduction to “Science As A Phenomena”:

Western culture has created a powerful wealth of scientific knowledge, based on total objectivity.  The objectivity  means that the observer must be isolated from the observation.  It also means that we must ignore, as scientists, a humanly meaningful occurrence such as “a warm smile.”  To measure it instrumentally would be ludicrous, because all meaning would be drained from it……

In the earlier part of this century, it was truly believed that science would be able to solve all of the  world’s problems.  Anyone who criticized this belief was considered a crank, and yet, as the dawn of the twenty-first century approaches, it becomes very clear that science has created as many problems as it has solved, largely because science, and the legislation based on it, have failed to take into account the human aspect of life on earth.  Our materialistic philosophy causes us to believe that “having” is more important than “being.”

 

Science in Waldorf education is phenomenon-based; it is experiential; it is seeing things whole to part and within the original context of environment.  It shows the relationship of the Earth and all of its glorious inhabitants in relation to man.  True environmental education at its finest.  It is also a very observant and artistic way to sort through natural phenomenon; we would expect nothing less with a Waldorf education.

Waldorf Science throughout the grades looks somewhat like this: (this was taken from the above-mentioned Barbara Dewey booklet and also Donna Simmons’ “From Nature Stories to Natural Science”):

Kindergarten, ages 3 through age 6:  No memorizing of science facts!  Remember, we are still protecting the child up to age seven in order that he or she uses his or her body!  Nature stories, being outside every day, using natural materials, building things, observing the seasons and the physical changes that come with the seasons and the festivals are essential.  Cooking is an activity that brings in much foundation for later chemistry.  The Nature Table is another highlight of seasonal change.  Fingerplays and gardening are also of great importance.

The important thing at this age is to NOT make these experiences a series of factoids.  The facts will come later when the child can understand and make those connections.

Remember, while this approach goes against much of the way we are currently teaching young children in this country, we are NOT doing well at the middle school and high school levels  compared to other nations in high school science scores.  We are not doing well when we look at the number of American graduates, particularly at the PhD levels in science, compared to other nations.  It is time to stop explaining the nitty gritty of photosynthesis to a small child and let them wonder and explore in a hands-on way.  It sets a much better foundation for science education as they mature!

A very important part of Waldorf is training the child’s senses, and that looking at phenomenon from whole to parts; forget the microscopes, telescopes and magnifying glasses for the under seven crowd and help them develop their senses!  The classic text for this is “Sharing Nature with Children” by Joseph Cornell. Check it out; it deserves a place on your bookshelf!

First Grade, for the seven-year-old:  Much of before, nature stories.   many times Form Drawing is drawn from stories about nature; I started my first grade year with my eldest with an entire month of Form Drawing from River life (otter, beavers, turtles).   Some families choose to devote a block to the four seasons by telling stories and doing activities regarding the seasons.  Some families do a block  study of backyard nature.   Some families also work with a weather tree with symbols for each day.  Gardening and cooking are still very important.

Second Grade:  Much like First Grade, although now we may see more direct stories about the animals as tied into the fables.  The fables present human qualities in animal form.  Some families will introduce the fables within a three-day rhythm by talking about the animals in a story form, tying in poetry about the animal or a hands-on experience about the animal the second day, and then the third day telling the fable.  This was a suggestion from Marsha Johnson, and she has a wonderful free file about this in her second grade FILES section on her Yahoo!group.

Other nature resources for second grade include all the wonderful Thornton Burgess stories.  There is also the book “Animal Stories” by Jakob Streit, available through the Rudolf Steiner College Bookstore that some families draw from.

Some families and teachers have also done a block on the Four Elements.  There is a wonderful book entitled, “Earth, Water, Fire, and Air” by Walter Kraul that involves toy-making that would enable the child to feel and experience the Four Elements.

Donna Simmons suggests you could do a Weather Block either in the Second or Third Grade that would include poetry and simple definitions of meteorological terms.  However, don’t forget that much of this would include going outside and feeling the different types of weather, observing the clouds and then drawing and painting.

Other ways children work with nature in second grade includes gardening, cooking, care of pets, outdoor play, festival celebrations, toy-making, observation of the sky  and weather with the naked eye.

Third Grade:  Continued Gardening, a Farming block, Cooking, a Homes/Building block, Clothing and (in the US a block) on Native Americans.

Donna Simmons writes in her book regarding the Farming block:

It is a central theme of Waldorf education that one always starts with the Human Being, and relates what one is studying to the human.  With the Farming block this is obvious – What does the Farmer do?  How does he affect his surroundings?  Waldorf teachers carefully present a picture of the Farmer as the mediator between Heaven and Earth, as one who molds his surroundings but is also subject to them.

Many projects abound with farming – going to work at a real farm or real CSA; tracing the path of fleece to yarn, making butter, picking berries, raising small livestock.  Many Waldorf students read Laura Ingalls Wilder’s “Farmer Boy” during the Third Grade year.

Fourth Grade:  Man and Animal block, where the student looks at  relationships of Man to the animals.  Barbara Dewey mentions Steiner’s “Study of Man” and Roy Wilkinson’s “Man and Animal” as essential reading for this block.

Donna Simmons talks about also looking at amphibians, reptiles, and fish as part of the Man and Animal block with such projects as ant farms, beekeeping, collecting frog or toad spawn, setting up a fish tank or pond.

She has many more wonderful tips for this year, do check out her book!

Donna Simmons mentions another possible block for this age could be an Ocean Block, and gives suggestions for how this could span multiple ages and grades.

Fifth Grade:  Botany block (there may be one botany block or two blocks).  Barbara Dewey summarizes the study of botany during the fifth grade in this way:  “The study of Botany at this level is really the study of four journeys: 1) the plant from seed through the seasons, 2) the vegetations of earth from the poles to the equator, 3) the vegetation of various altitudes from the tropics up to the mountain top, and 4) through the ladder of the plant kingdom, from simple to complex.”

Remember, much of this is done outside.  The students draw in their Main Lesson Books from plants they are squatting down and observing in the plants’ natural environment.  The plant is not ripped out and brought inside a schoolroom for the children to see how a plant grows!

Drawing and painting are essential components within the artistic observation of botany.  This is also a time where exact drawing for form and accuracy is important. 

Fifth Grade may also contain a Zoology block.

Sixth Grade:  Physics, including the study of color and acoustics (building on those experiences from the early years that the children are so familiar with!);  Earth Science including mineralogy and geology are studied, including minerals from a social and historic perspective; astronomy.

Donna Simmons also suggests several blocks that are not typically done within Waldorf schools but may work well at home, including habitats/ecology; biographies of naturalists; and inventors and inventions.  Inventors and inventions could also be taught in earlier grades as well.

Seventh Grade: Physics, possibly focusing on mechanics; Health and nutrition as it relates to human physiology; chemistry of combustion with a possible second block on the chemistry of foodstuffs:  fats, oils, proteins and carbohydrates.  Barbara Dewey also mentions a block on the heliocentric theory of the solar system.

Eighth Grade:  Physics again; Human anatomy; Meteorology; Chemistry including the study of the photosynthesis of plants and the study of sugars, including the history of sugar.  Computer technology is also typically taught in this year.

Donna Simmons also suggests a block on Alternative Energy not normally taught in Waldorf schools but which may work well at home. 

High School:  Donna Simmons mentions possible studies for high school include not only continuation of geology, physics, botany, and astronomy, but also topics such as metallurgy, meteorology, genetics, archaeology, zoology, and embryology.

In future posts I hope to outline and share some of the approaches I took in creating science blocks for first grade and into second grade so you can see the flow and will therefore be comfortable creating your own wonderful Waldorf science blocks.

I would love to hear comments from Waldorf homeschooling mothers who have children in the higher grades!  Please leave your comments in the comment section below; I value your readership and your thoughts.

Peace,

Carrie

Things That Happen On the Way To First Grade

The six-year-old year seems to be a make or break point for many parents as they sort through their homeschooling options, and it is an age where many parents give up on Waldorf, doubt they can do Waldorf in First Grade, or just decide Waldorf is not right for their six-year-old and forge ahead with academics (usually in a Classical style).

Some parents I have talked to fear their child is “getting behind” because in the United States, most six-year-olds are in the first grade.  If the parent keeps the child in “Waldorf Kindergarten” another year, not only will they behind in homeschooling, but suppose they ever have to transfer to public school?  Then they will be behind and everyone will know it!

If you go back and read the series of four posts on the six-year-old, I think you will clearly see by BOTH traditional developmental views and anthroposophical views, six year olds are DOERS, not deep thinkers.  They may be ready for “more” but that can easily be satisfied with real projects, real work, longer stories, more physical activity.  It does not mean that the early six-year-old year is a time for stringent academic work.

I remember a time in our six-year-old year where my eldest, who was just over  six-and-a-half at the time,  really did seem to want to do academics.   It was near the end of our school year, (our last year of Waldorf Kindergarten), so we started to look at math in preparation for the fall.  Her urge to do “real math” lasted about a week.  I didn’t push it, and let the issue fade away.  Some six-and-a-half year olds may be ready for Waldorf first grade, but mine was not.  Someone asked me what I would do if she did that in the fall ; what would happen if she would quickly loose interest at that point, when it was time for real work.  I guessed that she would not lose interest, that she would be seven then and would be ready.  And she was.

Some parents feel their first grader will be bored in Waldorf first grade because the child can read and write already, and he or she already knows the numbers or even beginning mathematics.  This has been addressed again and again in the section of “Waldorf First Grade” in the tag section.  My eldest was reading at a fourth grade level when we started first grade this year.  The stories of the first grade are designed to speak and live in the hearts of the first grader, the almost seven-year-old, to come out in their play.  It is not all about the academics, and while the academics are important, there certainly are many ways to adjust Waldorf first grade for children who are “ahead” or “behind”. (Oh, how I hate those terms in our homeschooling vocabulary!).  In our case, we did do all the things anyone else would do in first grade, we did many hands -on things for our main lessons, lived into our bodies and into art and music.  My daughter read books for pleasure at her reading level, and did not feel it beneath her to not have to write volumes of words about the fairy tales.  She enjoyed learning about the qualities of numbers. This is because this is where the child is developmentally.  The American method of pushing early learning has not speeded up the process of learning, and has in fact put our children further and further behind at the middle school and high school levels when compared to children of other countries who start their formal learning later. 

Your six-year-old child is still little, just crossing over the bridge into the land of authority mixed with imitation as they approach first grade.  Waldorf first grade for the almost seven-year-old  should be this, should be a three-day rhythm, a  wonder of art and main lesson book drawing, of music.  Is your six-year-old truly ready for that?  And should your little six-year-old be doing this?  It is our job to protect the six-year-old, their senses until they are ready for first grade.  Waldorf is about unfolding, and protection in these early years, not pushing.

And I know this view will probably irritate my eclectic Waldorf homeschoolers, but here goes:  as far as parents forging ahead during the six-year-old year with Classical studies, I do feel there is a crossroads there.  Doing arts and crafts and wet –on -wet watercolor painting does not a Waldorf homeschooler make.  Doing arts and crafts to “balance out academics”, as I have heard some parents say, does not a Waldorf homeschooler make.

  In many ways, either one agrees with the seven-year-cycles as a viable theory of childhood development and adjusts the schooling to meet the child’s developmental needs, or one decides that the seven-year-cycles, the Waldorf way of teaching whole to parts and all the ways Waldorf introduces math, letters, and science in the first grade is a bunch of crock.  Choose and decide.  You are the parent, and you do the best for your own family and your own child, but sometimes you do actually have to make a choice. 

  I think there are  ways to mix topics of interest to your child and Waldorf, but it is much harder to mix Classical and Waldorf.  Donna Simmons has a post about this on her blog, perhaps it will provide food for thought for you if you are at this crossroads of deciding what is best for your child.  This is a decided pro-Waldorf view of comparing Classical and Waldorf methodology:

http://christopherushomeschool.typepad.com/blog/2006/10/the_well_traine.html

Another blog post that can help one sort out how other methods can be integrated into Waldorf can be found on Donna Simmons’ blog here:

http://christopherushomeschool.typepad.com/blog/2006/01/the_waldorf_vie.html

If you need some inspiration, I humbly refer you to my blog post about why we chose Waldorf as a method to homeschool:

https://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/11/06/wonderful-waldorf/

Many parents feel Waldorf homeschooling requires so much of the teacher, and feel  Classical homeschooling is much simpler, much easier to look at definable progress with their children.  The goal of Waldorf education is to encompass the whole child, the whole being, to lay a solid foundation for the future health of the child in the adult years.  I honestly think once one reads Steiner, sees examples of blocks and starts to think, it is not any more difficult to create teaching plans in the Waldorf style than it is to open up a bunch of workbooks for your child.  It is just that this creative way of looking at bringing academics and morality to our children is often not the way we were taught, and seems so foreign to all of us. 

If you make a commitment to try Waldorf First Grade, in the true Waldorf way, for six months, and then open up and look at the dryness of the workbooks and textbooks your child would be using in the First Grade with other methods, I think you will see there is no comparison.  Waldorf is alive and bringing all that humanity in a developmentally appropriate way.  Waldorf does cover the Greeks, the Romans, all the history that the Classical method covers but at a later time where Waldorf feels the child is developmentally ready.  Waldorf is extremely academically rigorous, and the quality of work, understanding and knowledge is outstanding. 

If you feel as if you are drowning in the six-year-old year, my thought is you are probably putting too much pressure on yourself and your child for this year.  Enjoy the gift of the six-year-old year as you use it as the transition it is for First Grade.  Make sure your child can handle the longer stories, memorizing longer verses and songs, can handle projects that span several days.  Your child will need these skills in the First Grade.

If you are concerned that your workload will be too great (and do see my post about Waldorf Homeschooling planning – if you start now for only 10 or 15 minutes a day you could have your own open and go Waldorf Syllabus by fall, created by you, for your own child!), then do check into Melisa Nielsen’s open and go  first grade curriculum at http://www.alittlegardenflower.com/store/ or Donna Simmons’ First Grade Syllabus at www.christopherushomeschool.org .   Look at the free blocks available in the FILES section of Marsha Johnson’s Yahoo!Group.   It may give you a jumping off point and give you the confidence to do Waldorf at all!

You have to consider what is best for your family, but please do not discount Waldorf education at home before you have even tried. 

Think carefully, act mindfully, and best of love and luck in planning the best educational experience for your precious child.

Peacefully yours,

Carrie

Peaceful Living with the Six-Year-Old

Now that we have peeked at the traditional childhood development of the six-year-old and the anthroposophical view of the six-year-old, it is time to get down to the nitty gritty of peaceful living with the six-year-old.

The first we need to do is establish a framework in which to work.  If you have not read these posts in the past, please do so now and then come back to this post:

https://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/10/29/top-10-must-have-tools-for-gentle-discipline/

https://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/10/16/gentle-discipline-as-authentic-leadership/

https://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/10/05/thoughts-on-challenging-developmental-stages/

There is also a  post on “Anger in Parenting” if you have not read that one.

So now that you are being held within the framework of being an Authentic Leader within your own home, now you are ready to tackle some of the methods for peaceful living with your six-year-old.

Here is a great quote from the article “Meetings with Parents On the Topic of Discipline” from the book “You’re Not the Boss of Me!  Understanding the Six/Seven-Year-Old Transformation” to start us off:

The young child instinctively expects guidance and when it is not forthcoming, the child tends to feel  insecure and frightened.  Growing up without guidance, without boundaries, often translates into being left alone to flounder in a world that the child is not experienced enough to understand.  Constantly being consulted by adults about what the child  wants is not only bewildering, but can create an egoist, unprepared for the world awaiting him or her.  Many parents believe that choices strengthen their child, but, on the contrary, too many choices can undermine a child.

  • So, my first thought for you is to develop your own internal framework for handling Authentic Leadership.  This takes inner work, inner thought and talk with your spouse or partner.  You must also take care of yourself- if you are angry, resentful, not getting enough sleep, eating poorly,  frustrated—all of these things affect your relationship with your child and how well you set the tone in your home for your child.
  • For your six-year-old, you must be the wall  off which your child can bounce.  (In a nice, quiet and calm way, not a mean or authoritarian scary kind of way!)  Six-year-olds will test the boundaries of what is expected and allowed.  You must show them that you are dependable and they can lean on you as they need to as they sort things in life out.  If you crumple and fall, this shows them that you do not hold the authority and answers for life that they desperately are searching for at this point.  Be the calm wall. Choose how you will respond to your child.
  • Six-year-olds are DOERS.  They are not deep thinkers.  They do not need a lot of words.  With something you need done, it helps to walk them physically through what you need with movement and imagination.  Get the child moving before you speak, writes Nancy Blanning, a well-known Waldorf teacher.
  • Remember, a six-year-old can also have direct words to help them – but very short, to the point and POSITIVE.   Again, think of these “rules” as skills they are learning, not just something they must do or if they don’t do it they will fail and need to be punished.  Change your framework.
  • A six-year-old may be picky about what they asked to do, not wanting an activity that is “for babies”.  Think about what you are asking your child to do before you ask them and how your child might respond.
  • Go back to your rhythm. Six-year-olds need a strong rhythm.  They need to know the home for things, that every thing does have a place, so they can put things away for themselves.
  • Do not offer choices if there is really no choice. If it is time to leave or go to the bathroom, it is time to leave or go to the bathroom.  Maybe the choice is they can hold your hand to leave or hop like a bunny to leave, but it is still time to leave. 
  • Use stories to help your child do things, and help your child physically along as you tell that story.
  • Nancy Blanning also writes that from a Waldorf perspective, “Each adult responsibility you take care of for your child allows his or her energy to be available for growing.  We do a child a great service by pre-thinking and pre-planning how things will happen – by creating a “form”- which will support both the child and ourselves, so there is order and predictability.”   My personal  note to this is:  This does not in any way mean the child shouldn’t have to do things for themselves or help the family or help around the house, but it does mean that you, as the parent, have thought through how, when and where the child will take over their own routine or chore or whatever they are being asked to do, and that you have shown them step-by-step how it needs to happen.
  • Pick your battles.  The minute you engage in a struggle with your child, your battle is lost.  Help your child, and come up with ways both of you can win if it is possible.  Use matter-of –fact phrases and say what you need, and wait.
  • Think about warmth; how can you show your child warmth?  This is important when you are in one of those stages where you just are not liking your child’s behavior most of the time.  Try and find something you can say that they did that you actually did like, no matter how small.  Find time for smiles, hugs, kisses, being present to play a game, walks in an unhurried manner and just be there.  It will pay off in your relationship with your child!
  • Give as few direct commands as possible; this goes back to picking your battles and letting your rhythm and order carry things.  Think to yourself, if I ask them this, and they say, “NO!” do I have the time, the energy, the patience, to see this through at this moment and do I want to pick this as my focus today?  If it is very important to guiding your child’s life and future development as an adult, then by all means, go ahead.  But if not, please think about it.  And even if you ask something,  and they say “NO!  Make me!” you can honestly change your mind.  I would not do this too often, but everyone can make a better choice, right?  Even us!
  • A six-year-old will take things that are not theirs and will often not tell the whole truth.  Help them. Ask them how something happened, not if they did that.  Put away those things that are tempting to them to take.  Remember that a six-year-old is restless, can be destructive, often can be at the height of sexual play and may need a bit more oversight than they did before if they are like that.  This is a developmental phase that will not last forever, and as a parent, it is still your job to keep your child safe and your property safe as well!
  • You may consider limiting time with friends, playdates and certainly the size and activities of a birthday party.  Six-year-olds are aggressive with friends, belligerent, go wild quickly and have strong emotions that often ends up with the child in tears.  Keep things easy, small and short.
  • Do not carry around baggage about your child saying “I hate you!” at this age or acting as if you are the most unfair mother in the whole world.  A six-year-old will do this, a six-year-old will take out things on their Mother, and it is not up to them to fill your cup.  Do things outside of your child to fill your own cup.  Be fair, be calm, hold the space and try to think compassionately even when they are not being nice.  You are the adult.
  • Do not get into verbal games – “You don’t love me, Mommy.”  Give them a hug and a smile and move on.  Likewise, you can listen to the drama of a six-year-old for so long, and then give them a hug and say.”I have heard you.  I am going to do the dishes now, and I know how sad you are.  I can listen more to you later. Come and have a snack.”  Be calm and limit your words!

This list was not in any particular order, I hope some of the points were valuable to you and yours.  If you have other techniques that have worked particularly well with your six-year-old, please do share in the comment boxes.  Let’s all help each other!

Your until next time,

Carrie