In our last post on Simplicity Monday I talked about a new regard for inner work in this season of light held so lovingly by St. John the Forerunner. I mentioned taking just ten minutes a day in order to stand or sit in silence.
One thing to consider is the art of daily recollection. In the book, “The Desert Mothers: Spiritual Practices from the Women of the Wilderness”, author and priest Mary C. Earle writes: Continue reading
Well, today is Simplicity Monday on Summer Time. Monday was the wonderful feast of light and cleansing and renewal in St. John, and yesterday I spent time at the horse farm and then at the lake with dear friends, fireflies, live bluegrass music and swimming…so today is Simplicity Monday!
To take up this theme of renewal and cleansing, I think one must be clear: inner work in order to discern what needs renewing and cleansing is so important. The seed of light cannot grow within us unless we take the time to be in stillness. And without that, it is difficult to lead a family, to model for our children what we want them to be if we ourselves cannot do it.
So, for today, create a space in your day where you can spend just ten minutes a day in silence at a rhythmical time each day. More to come on inner work all this week and next.
I think in life sometimes we just need to get down to the nitty gritty of parenting and childhood development. It makes life so much simpler to know the things that are most important to your family, because then you can see what makes sense to do within your days, weeks and months. Does your use of time match up with what you really think is important?
For example, if simplicity is important to you, but you are running your children somewhere every day, does that reflect your priorities?
If you think religion is important, or spiritual inner development is important to you, but you don’t spend any time in activities that reflect that, then does that reflect your priorities?
Too often we start out the school year very strong, and things sort of peter out by the end of the school year. What a perfect time of year this is to look and evaluate where your family is, and where you would like to be.
We enjoy having a Family Mission Statement. This is not everyone’s cup of tea, but it can be helpful in looking at priorities, and making sure everyone is on the same page. Here is a link to a back post on this: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/05/08/creating-a-family-mission-statement/ Our Family Mission Statement involves kindness, integrity, positive attitude, patience, and adventure. Yours will be different, but I think it is worthy project to undertake.
I would love to hear what you are revitalizing in your family life this time of year!
Here in the United States, we are entering the official start of summer with the celebration of Memorial Day. I find this time of year a great time to take stock of my home.
What needs to be decluttered and gone through over the summer before school starts?
How can I streamline errands?
How can I get costs down on necessary items, such as food?
One way I declutter is to sit down with a calendar at the beginning of the summer, pencil in days for vacations and day trips we want to take, and then pencil in what areas in my home need attention on certain dates. I have the garage on my list, plus the school room and other areas.
Recently, I have been attempting to streamline errands by Continue reading
Whilst it is snowing today in some parts of the United States, the end to the school year is coming, and I look forward to Whole Days of Nothing.
Life, and the rhythm of life, moves in seasons. And summer is a perfect time to slow down, re-charge, re-evaluate and take time for the moments that matter. Continue reading
I believe it was in Kim John Payne’s book “Simplicity Parenting” that I read about reducing the amount of toys a child has by about one-third and perhaps one would then be on track to simplifying within the home.
I was thinking about this one-third estimate and have thought about how this might apply to those of us with commitments outside the home.
Whether you work a part-time job, or your children are in sports, or you spend time volunteering, or you spend a lot of time with all the neighborhood children at your home – what would it look like to have one third of that time back in your own home and with your own family?
A simple thought to ponder,
“Many of us parents take our children’s “emotional temperature” several times a day. We monitor their feelings, asking them to describe those feelings, to express them, to talk about them. We expect our children to have a complex awareness of their own emotions, with the insight and vocabulary to convey that awareness. While our intentions are well-meaning –“Honey, do you think your anger at your sister might also be a little jealousy? Can you tell her how feel inside?” — this emotional monitoring has an unexpected effect. It rushes kids along, pushing them into a premature adolescence…..To dissect and parse that, to push and push, imagining that they are hiding a much more subtle or nuanced feeling or reply, is invasive. It is also usually unproductive, expect perhaps in making a child nervous.” — Simplicity Parenting, Kim John Payne
Just for today, think in your head how your child feels and connect with that through Continue reading