“In their consistency, rhythms establish trust. They offer children a sense of order…the joy of anticipation and the security of things to be counted on, every day.” — Simplicity Parenting, Kjm John Payne
This is the time of year when many mothers lament to me that they feel like a failure. “We haven’t gotten enough done in homeschooling! We will be homeschooling in July!”
“My one main goals this year was to establish a rhythm to my home for my small children and I am still struggling with it.”
Or it can be very black and white: “I have a rhythm, I stick to it…but there is no joy, no spontaneity, no room for the unexpected.”
I want to encourage you today. This has been an exceedingly difficult year for me as well, and for my family. And sometimes, in those periods, I am so grateful that I had a rhythm, a consistency to our days established. Those benchmarks of the day help me go along through the day, and through the year.
There are always going to be things that “come up”, but much like how wonderful your own bed feels after you come home from a vacation, coming back to rhythm can be a wonderful, comforting feeling.
I don’t think it is too late in the year to establish a rhythm if you don’t have one. Rhythm can change with the seasons, it should be loose enough to have space and time in it for life’s unexpected, and it doesn’t have to be this completely detailed, has-to-be perfect noose about your neck. You can work with it as a work in progress, as something that brings you and your family joy.
If family is about moments of together, at its heart is a rhythm that binds and unites us in the loving care of one another.