31 Days of the Inner Rhythm of the Heart: Day Five

Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress.  In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you:  courage.  Read on for more…

Real change takes place not only when we acknowledge our challenges, our battles, our triumphs, but really take charge with our will and our actions.  It is not enough to talk about change, but we have to make change.  We must act.

I wrote this post a while ago, but I think it reflects this mood of determination and courage so perfectly that I would like to share it with you again: Continue reading

31 Days of the Inner Rhythm of the Heart: Day Four

Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress.  In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you:  reverence.  Read on for more……

I think reverence is one of the keys to living a life that becomes attuned to the inner rhythm of the heart.  If we apply to reverence in the small ways in life, this blossoms into the bigger areas of parenting and simply crowds out yelling and screaming.

How can you set up your life to be reverent?

One of the first steps to this is to Continue reading

31 Days of the Inner Rhythm of the Heart: Day Three

Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress.  In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you:  attentiveness.  Read on for more……

In our last post, I asked you to consider a partner in accountability if you deem that you are ready to change and focus on a household that does not include yelling.  Another thing I suggested is to keep a journal for five days, focusing on when yelling happens, what leads up to that event, what happens to make things feel settled again, and what the patterns are that you hold.

By this token,  we can only attempt to change that of that which we are aware.  Yet, we also need to provide attentiveness to the other part of this:  when we do something that is in line with how we really and truly want to parent.  Those moments are there as well. Continue reading

31 Days of the Inner Rhythm of the Heart: Day Two

Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress.  In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you:  reconciliation.  Read on for more…… Continue reading

31 Days Of The Inner Rhythm of the Heart: Day One

Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, begins now.  Today is New Year’s Day, and in the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you:  open.  Read on for more…… Continue reading

New Year’s Thoughts

NINE REQUISITES FOR CONTENTED LIVING:
Health enough to make work a pleasure.
Wealth enough to support your needs.
Strength to battle with difficulties and overcome them.
Grace enough to confess your sins and forsake them.
Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished.
Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor.
Love enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others.
Faith enough to make real the things of God.
Hope enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future.
~Goethe

I have a dear friend who shared this with the world on her Facebook page.  What a lovely sentiment.  And here is my New Year’s sentiments from 2009: Continue reading

The No Yelling House

 

I have seen a lot of blog posts recently regarding gentle discipline and how to stop yelling within the home.  Many promise how to look at the New Year with an eye towards creating a no yelling house and parenting style.

Friends, yelling is only the symptom, it is not the disease.  And sometimes to me, the flip side of yelling in parenting is something just as bad that no one seems to talk about:  the passive -aggressive parenting style. 

If yelling or being passive -aggressive is the symptom, the disease boils down to an aggregate mixture of several things.   The basis for creating a no yelling house and parenting style is creating a home where your parenting is based upon love and connection.  Love and connection and an ability to act from this place toward not only our family members but also all of our fellow members of humanity is where to begin to eradicate this disease.  Along the way, we also need to talk about rhythm, simplicity and priorities, and the tools of healthy boundaries and open communication.

Please join me in January for 31 Days:  The Inner Rhythm of the Heart.

 

Many blessings,

Carrie