During this Lenten Season, let’s remember and re-commit to doing well by our children. Depending upon the age of our children and the season of life we are in, it can be easy to grow weary. This particular time of year is a call to renewal and regrowth, and may this be the season to pull things in once again and move forward.
If we acknowledge the individual differences our children hold in the view that all children have gifts and marvels to share with the world, this journey becomes easier. Sometimes it can be hard to hold on to that when a child is struggling socially or through medical or learning challenges or just through a tough patch in development, but the gifts are there are surely as the sun shines. Look for those gifts, and repeat those gifts to yourself.
Let us step back a bit. Our children are capable and trustworthy. We need to trust that our children will makes mistakes, and hopefully the mistakes will be fixable and not catastrophic. However, let us also not become complacent and uncaring. Studies have shown that children who have uninvolved parents have the worst outcomes of any parenting style. Let us also acknowledge that whilst every child is different, there are developmental milestones that all human beings go through in aging. If we can understand childhood development in a broader sense, it helps us hang on and see that many things are shared in the childhood journey.
Let’s re-commit to kindness in our homes. This back post from 2009 outlines several steps for kindness in the home, beginning with ourselves. We cannot nurture our families if we are at rock bottom. Most of us do not have extended family to lean on with our children, and we need to learn how to craft routines that include our own self-care and nurturing. I can honestly say I am only starting to get this now, fifteen and a half years into parenting, but this is a crucial strategy for nurturing the family!
And finally, let’s re-commit to love being the ultimate goal and method of our homeschooling. It can be difficult to feel loving in the midst of trying to help a child write a paper, tackle a hard subject, deal with a child who is not working up to his or her full potential or to not get lost in trying to rush through homeschooling in order to deal with all the things life is throwing our way. Love brings with it an enveloping quiet and warmth, and a soothing quality that can help even the most frazzled of homeschooling situations if only we slow down to remember. Love causes our words to become as pearls.
Here is to a season of growth, renewal, and love.
An amazing post with so much wisdom. As always, the links to your other words are so very appreciated. Rereading your posts from 2009 brings back memories of such good intentions – and your gentle prompt to recommit to those intentions is very welcome. Our beautiful children need words as pearls, kindness, involvement, and oh so much love – even when they are grown and have flown the coop. You must get tired of my thanking you – but still – thank you – thank you – thank you!
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