Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: inner work. (Yes, that is two words, but who is to quibble? ) Read on for more…
A lovely comment on the last post really made me think. The comment was along the lines of, “how do I maintain warmth when I am trying to help a child with boundaries?” Many mothers tell me how hard it is, that the reaction is to be cold, or stiff, or withdraw or pull away.
Some families do wonderfully with everyone going off to their separate spaces and having a little time to calm down before coming back calmly. However, I have seen many small children in particular, who really need you to hold them calmly through their anger or tears or tantrum. Older children and teenagers may need a cooling off period, but they don’t need an icy stance either. What children need to hear and see most often is that “I love you. We will work on this as a team together.” And, this of course, requires, you to keep your ho-hum and your warmth as much as possible.
I find if I am feeling emotions rise, or feeling as if I should withdraw, that something has triggered me and Continue reading