Authority is so necessary for parenting in today ‘s fast-paced world. Authority, sharing its root with words such as authentic and author, gives us the number one way to guide our children into peace.
It is not a big house, or a small house.
It is not the amount of money we have or don’t have.
It is not what activities our children are enrolled in or not.
It is how we connect to our children through authority.
Authority is a special way of holding the space for our children in such a way that the child can enter fully and wholly into the world without anxiety, worry or distress. They do not have to enter into the adult world but can be an innocent in childhood play and the childhood repetition of play, work, being outside, submersed in the rhythm of the year.
The challenge of our times is that so many of us grew up in homes where Continue reading
If you look at my calendar, you will see there are consistent days of the week marked with an “X”. From week to week, those “X”’s are there.
Those “X”’s are a reminder to me that those are my days to be home, and not to schedule something on those days. If someone asks me to do something on those days, then the answer is that I cannot because I have plans. My plans to be home are every bit as valuable as external plans, and in terms of nourishing a rich family life and connectedness, probably even more valuable.
Where are the “X”’s on your calendar as you are planning for fall?
This chapter is entitled, “Watch Your Temper(ament)”, and how Rudolf Steiner, the founder of Waldorf Education, thought that class size was not as important as all of the children’s individual needs being met. And the way he thought this could happen was by understanding the four temperaments.
In fact, author Poplawski writes:
A skilled teacher has something in each lesson that appeals to each temperament and is also able to draw out and develop the special gift of each temperament. Thus the children learn to appreciate the strengths and virtues of those who are different from them……
The other approach to temperament work is equally important but perhaps more difficult. It requires that the teacher or parent take note of and then work on his own temperamental style. Balancing the excesses of this very intimate (and too often ignored) part of who we are constitutes an important path in our self development and has an important bearing not only in our interactions with our children but also in those with our friends, colleagues, and spouses.
Whew! A tall order, to look inside and be aware, but so important in our work with our own children. Continue reading
Homemaking and planning are well on my mind this week and I have a few links to share regarding these subjects. I feel drawn within and am very excited about what is going on within the four walls of my home these days!
Anyway, here are some lovely links: Continue reading
Our fragility is part of our humanity. The fact that our bodies can be so easily broken, our hearts broken, our emotions torn apart, is testament to this fact. The feeling of emptiness, of wanting and longing, is as natural a part of being human as the tide rolling in to greet the shore.
Authentic experiences, no matter how difficult or heart-wrenching, often provide the impetus for change. Continue reading
This month, I am enjoying being with Master Waldorf teacher Lisa Boisvert Mackenzie over at Celebrating the Rhythm of Life’s “Sketch It Out” planning session for back to school. Lisa serves on the Board of Directors of Lifeways of North America and also holds a position on the Birth Through Three Task Force for the Waldorf Early Childhood Association of North America. You can see more about Lisa here: http://www.celebratetherhythmoflife.com/p/about.html Continue reading
In this chapter of “Completing The Circle”, available for free on-line, we are looking at “The Four Temperaments”. Thomas Poplawski writes:
The notion of temperament is very old, dating back at least to the ancient
Greece. Hippocrates, in the fourth century BC, spoke of four qualities or “humors” in the human being—cold, moist, hot and dry. In the second century AD, the physician, Galen, spoke of the mixing or “temperare” of these four humors to yield four temperaments. These in turn were related to the four elements yielding the fiery choleric, the airy sanguine, the watery phlegmatic, and the earthy melancholic.
Poplawski goes on to trace the idea of the temperaments through the ideas of the Greeks, and right into modern times and how the temperaments are used in Waldorf Education. The job of an adult is to help a child break out of their habitual tendencies, and lead them toward balance
Poplawski then goes through all four of the temperaments of children. Continue reading