My guest poster today is a wonderful homeschooling mentor many of you are familiar with: Melissa Nielsen of Waldorf Essentials (A Little Garden Flower)! You can see her website here: http://waldorfessentials.com/
Melissa is talking today about the topic of burn-out, blame and what to do! Melissa writes:
I want to thank Carrie for this opportunity to guest post as this topic is close to both of our hearts and it is so funny how it comes up again and again this time of year. We both felt like it would be a good blog topic.
Burn- Out. As a Waldorf homeschooling consultant, I am seeing more and more of this. More and more moms that I know love Waldorf but some how have decided that it is too hard so they opt for “Waldorf-lite”, falsely believing that is all they can do. I have taken some heat before for saying that I don’t believe in burn- out. I suppose I should qualify that and say that I don’t believe that Waldorf homeschooling is the cause of the burn -out.
Let me back up. This job is hard. It is dang hard. I think it could be harder than giant monsters fighting giant robots like in my sweet husband’s new favorite flick. It is hard. This job takes work. I have been mothering for just over 16 years now. Children don’t come with manuals. They don’t know how to turn off on our bad days. They don’t understand menstrual cramps or a fight with our mother. They are just generally happy to be in their bodies and they don’t have a clue why we want them to stop jumping on the sofa or hitting their brother! In my parenting career, I have been through a bunch – sometimes I stepped in the hole willingly and other times someone dragged me into it. Each time I climbed out, I got up, made breakfast and we walked on. I am their rock. Without me time might just stand still for them.
I knew I wanted to homeschool before I had children. I discovered Waldorf education early on and like most moms that are new to it, I feel in love with the beauty of it. Waldorf is a delight for the senses for certain! Like many of you, I had no support system. I had an husband (now former) who was battling wars I couldn’t join him in. I was alone. I made friends with Waldorf teachers that could direct me. They gave me all kinds of advice on the curriculum, but none of them had really done this at home and certainly not with this many children. I had to figure it out on my own.
A bunch of children. No manual. All alone.
I learned that Waldorf, while it wasn’t easy, it was SIMPLE. I learned that simple didn’t have to be easy. I made goals for each child, goals for myself and then I learned to plan. I firmly believe that it doesn’t matter how many children you have, you can do this. You just have to want it. You have to be ready to wrestle some things to the ground – those things have NOTHING to do with Waldorf and everything to do with you. I found that Waldorf could be this tremendous mirror for me. I learned to take care of myself for the first time in my mothering. I learned to connect with Spirit in new ways. I learned that I was a dynamic person, I just had to find her and let her out. We are ALL talented. We just have to find those talents. As long as I kept my temperament balanced and my inner work in check, then I had the time to do what I wanted and what I needed. Sure there were years when it was not so easy, but those times are short.
Be a family with a purpose.
If you read Carrie’s blog regularly, then you know she promotes living ON purpose. Living on purpose takes effort. It takes a plan. It takes knowing what you want from life for you and your family. Do you have these Continue reading