We when think of simplicity, we often think of harmony….Yet, I love what Kim John Payne notes in his book , “Simplicity Parenting”:
“As parents we must not become “harmony addicted.” It’s tempting to hope that every day might be a sort of “rainbow experience” for our children. Wouldn’t that be nice? If only we could suspend them in a sort of happiness bubble. But they need conflict. As Helen Keller noted, “Character cannot be developed in quiet and ease.” Children need to find ways to cope with difficult situations; they need to learn that they can.”
The important part of this, for children of all ages, is to have parents who are steady and connected to them during these sorts of touch points of childhood. It can be so difficult to comfort our children when they are upset over something that happened at school, or when they missed the catch that hastened the end of a (losing) game. But this is part of parenting, and to never provide your children these moments misses some of life’s greatest lessons.
It is also not just about how you help your children during times of conflict, but how you manage yourself. How did you manage your anger, your stress, your anxiety, your fear, your sorrow, your grief?
Simple doesn’t always mean nothing happens. Life happens, and that is good.