A Parenting Plan – Part Two

I wrote a little while back about creating a parenting plan for each of your children (you can see that post here: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/06/30/a-parenting-plan/)

I have recently been meditating on those ideas.  I have also been envisioning in my mind what qualities are going to be important to my children when they become adults.  How can I work that into my parenting plan in tangible ways? 

What qualities are important to you?  How does the way you spend your time as a family reflect these qualities?  How do the boundaries in your home reflect these qualities?  For those of you with very small children under the age of 7, modeling is much louder than words and instruction at this point.  What are you modeling and how?

Here is a list of a few qualities that serve adults well; perhaps some of these will resonate with you:

  • Faith
  • Perseverance
  • Self-discipline and self-control
  • Integrity
  • Kindness
  • Love of others
  • Good manners
  • Courage
  • Compassion
  • Dependability
  • Honesty
  • Humility
  • Self-respect and respect for others
  • Contentment
  • Forgiveness of self and others
  • Gratitude
  • Patience

What does your list look like?  How are you working this into your parenting and into your homeschool?  What is most significant to you and to your family?

Much love,



6 thoughts on “A Parenting Plan – Part Two

  1. Hi Carrie

    Thanks for the (follow up) post. I saw a doco on the P- drug problem the other night and since then I have been thinking how one can keep your child safe. Their world just look so much scarier than it did when I grew up.
    I have also been thinking about what the kids will need when they are adults, as you mentioned. I do feel that connecting now with the under 7’s, warmth and modelling will be key. I loved your comment the other day about ‘parenting’ the littlies to sleep and that you want them to talk to you before bed time. Priceless.

    PS I wondered if you could write more about the etheric forces – especially in relation to building it up. I am finding that having a (almost) 2 year old and a 3.5 year old is just draining my energy. If I can manage my creative work or even just a bit of knitting everyday I feel slightly better. And sleep is key. But I would like to know a bit more.

    Best wishes for a lovely weekend. Our winter is bitterly wet, cold and did I mention wet?

    • QueenArtLady,
      THere is a post somewhere about building up the etheric – one of the big things is warmth around the chest/neck. Eurthythmy is very physically draining, and eurythmists often do this. And rich food!
      LOL. Hope your winter gets better!

  2. This post came at the perfect time.

    Our daughter has been VERY intense, waking up to 20 times a night for the first two years of her life… and my husband also works as a school administrator AND is in a doctorate program full time, so I can relate to Queen Art Lady.

    We’ve been in such “survival mode” for the first two and a half years of her life, that I don’t feel like we’ve really had a good, cohesive family vision. And, we’ve discovered that if you don’t have positive goals in mind, it’s really, really easy to slip into the negative.

    Both of your parenting plan posts give us something to think about!

  3. Hi Carrie
    Thanks for the reply.
    It is very interesting about keeping warm around the chest and neck. I have been telling everyone who wants to listen that I feel the cold at the back of my neck this winter! Maybe feeling cold has less to do with winter. And of course I always make sure the kids are warm and cared for. But doesn’t always take the same care with myself From tomorrow I will wear my scarves in doors as well.

    I have been looking at the post you mentioned. But as always I get sidetracked by all the good posts.
    One thing I have been reminded of was to “use my words as pearls’ I do think the days that I just go blah, blah, blah is when I feel drained most. Thanks

  4. Dear Parents ,
    I am desperately looking for a number story that will bring out the quality of numbers…please help!!:)
    many thanks and God bless

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