I think sometimes we as parents can really confuse what we are supposed to be doing as parents. Our children need to be able to do things that will help them learn how to make great decisions, that will foster their skills in communication, that will help them become functional adults. There will be mistakes along the way; protection from mistakes and therefore protection from a child developing resilience is not the goal.
So, in that vein, these are the messages that I wish more parents would say to their children when things get hard for the child:
You can do this.
You can do hard things.
I believe in you and I believe you can handle this.
I love you no matter what, but I do expect you to make good choices.
You don’t need avoid the things in life that are difficult.
You can deal with the things that come your way.
It is okay to make mistakes.
It is okay to ask for help.
Taking responsibility is important.
You are going to make great decisions now and as an adult. I trust you.
You are amazing, and you’ve got this. I am here to help, but you really can do this.
Are there any other empowering phrases you wish people would say to their children? Leave me a comment in the comment box!
Blessings and love,