I think sometimes we as parents can really confuse what we are supposed to be doing as parents. Our children need to be able to do things that will help them learn how to make great decisions, that will foster their skills in communication, that will help them become functional adults. There will be mistakes along the way; protection from mistakes and therefore protection from a child developing resilience is not the goal.
So, in that vein, these are the messages that I wish more parents would say to their children when things get hard for the child:
You can do this.
You can do hard things.
I believe in you and I believe you can handle this.
I love you no matter what, but I do expect you to make good choices.
You don’t need avoid the things in life that are difficult.
You can deal with the things that come your way.
It is okay to make mistakes.
It is okay to ask for help.
Taking responsibility is important.
You are going to make great decisions now and as an adult. I trust you.
You are amazing, and you’ve got this. I am here to help, but you really can do this.
Are there any other empowering phrases you wish people would say to their children? Leave me a comment in the comment box!
Blessings and love,
This is so true. I feel like I am this parent. I work in childcare. Last night while at the park. My twin boys decided to climb this metal car that is meant for climbing but I didn’t think that they would be able to do it but with some words of encouragement (and a little bit of help) they were able to do it by themselves by the end of the park visit. I see some parents who scream and run which would scare the child and feel like they wouldnt be able to do some of the climbing or make decisions during their lives. I totally agree with this. Great post. Xx
This is good. Children need to be encouraged in a way where they realize that they are not only responsible, but also because of that they can do better and succeed.
What a great post! I hope that all parents will say this to each and every child. This is extremely important to do in order to raise adults we can all be proud of for our future.
I wrote a post a few weeks ago which has the same topic, and which I was posting today when I saw and read your post. I just added you to the bottom of my post so others are able to go to your blog to read the “enpowering” words you wrote. Let’s all be proud of the children we raise!
Thank you! Awesome!
Always useful, no matter the age of the child (or grown-up) who needs a little extra encouragement!
Exactly ! Every parent should read this..
Thank you, Rajender! Please feel free to share!
Blessings and love, Carrie