Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: together. Read on for more…
“The Barna Group, a national research group devoted to studying the religious sphere, recently published the results of another long-term study in a book called Unchristian……But the single biggest take-away I gleaned from reading this book was the important difference between providing youth activities for children, essentially entertaining them and doing things for them, and actually including them in spiritually formative and meaningful ways or doing things with them.”
From “Orthodox Christian Parenting: Cultivating God’s Creation” by Zoe Press
I am reading this book right now, and this quote really struck me as being indicative of what we have done to the lives of our children in modern society. It has turned into entertaining our children through activities outside the home. We talk to children as if nothing of import can go on within the home and family, but instead we wait for the big day for the child to move beyond the family by attending school, by being able to do x, y and z. And yet, in order for children to have a firm footing in not just childhood, but in the teenaged years especially, we need to be be WITH our children and do things WITH our children. The quote above applied to religious matters, but really also applies to life with children.
If you are having trouble with yelling at your children, then I suggest that you look at TOGETHER. How are you together with your children and are you present? When would that happen? What is interfering in that? Too many outside activities? What do you do together to build positive memories of time spent together? How are you passing your values on to your children through your actions and through time together?
If you are yelling at your children, perhaps you need more time together to solve that challenge, not less.
I invite you to consider this.