Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: self-care. Read on for more…
Many mothers tell me they yell more when they are completely low on the “self-care” meter. It doesn’t matter if this is caused by a mother being single, a mother who has to work full-time and also parent, or a mother who is home full-time and can’t seem to get any time to herself. The result is all the same: a lack of care for the self.
It is not a pretty place to be for most of us. Here are a few points to think seriously about:
Sleep – Sleep is a huge component of starting the day off right. Who wants to get out of bed and get their day up and running before their children if they have already been woken up eight times during the night between multiple children or by one child? The other piece of this is that mothers are less likely to go to bed early if they do not catch any time to themselves during the day. This is a large part of homeschooling if we are not careful – it can really be lessons, making food, more lessons, perhaps play that has to be supervised, household work to be done, more making of food, bedtime routines…and then an exhausted collapse by a mother who really wants some time to just be. Cultivate a rhythm that includes downtime for everyone to do something on his or her own, even if your two year old has to play at your feet to start.
Inner Work – We talked about inner work in one of the last posts, but where is your inner work? How are you doing this and what does this look like for you?
Physical Work – Our bodies were made for physical work. Our bodies were meant to move. We can do physical work at home, we can de-mechanize what we do, but unless one lives on a farm and really is doing hard physical work, we probably still are not moving enough. Get outside, with your children, yes, but also where is your time to vigorously exercise?
Appearance- Do you all remember this post when I talked about how the shelf life for a bra is one year? Mothers everywhere laughed and said there is no time to go bra shopping! How about getting your hair done, or having time to buy a new piece of clothing for yourself, even if that is just at Goodwill?
Hobbies — What do you love to do? Do you ever do them?
Planning – Yes, for homeschooling mothers, I put planning down as part of self-care. Planning is what prevents burnout! Planning makes school life so much easier! We will talk more about planning, but I wanted to go ahead and plant that seed for those of you who homeschool. This time of year is a great time to start looking at next year’s grades, what blocks you are going to bring, and to start making a list of needed resources and supplies.
Food for thought.