Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: re-assess. Read on for more…
We are approximately half-way through our thirty-one days to the inner rhythm of the heart. As a reminder, our words to help us on this journey include reconciliation, attentiveness, reverence, courage, love, relentless, unity, building, time, haven, steady, warmth and inner work.
I have heard from so many of you that have enjoyed this series, although there have not been a lot of discussions or comments made publicly on this blog. I would love to hear about you and what process is working in your life.
So, today is your day to re-assess what is working and not working in your parenting life in regard to yelling. Continual assessment is so important, because this helps us change our attitudes, the rhythm in our homes, our approach.
Assessment is also important because we change as we become older and our children change as they become older. Often we enter new stages within our own inner life and within the lives of our children. What may have worked in the past out of necessity now may need to change. And so often, the challenges we face in parenting as not due to the children at all, but due to ourselves.
Thoughts to ponder.
I have really found this series a good reminder to reflect on myself as a mother. I am not a homeschooler but have a Waldorf background. It seems to me that my own habits and behavior so directly affect my child. If I’m tired or overscheduled I’m much more likely to lash out at my daughter. The reverse is also true. When my child was around 4 years old we went through what I’ll call a “nasty stage”. The nastier she was too me the nastier I was to her. Finally I called her old Waldorf nursery school teacher, thinking that I had ruined my child, for advice. She advised me to slow everything down. Strong rhythm, no playdates or anything after school. Our life was too hectic. Now in a regular private kindergarten it’s a struggle to even get a playdate because all the children have gymnastics on Monday, tennis on Tuesday and Thursday, ballet on Wednesday…. One lady told me her child was lazy! I told her she was probably just exhausted! Anyway, thanks for these insightful reminders to treasure our children.
Thank you so much for this series! Out of all of the parenting books and workshops I have taken; this one for some reason has clicked on many levels. I implement the suggestions with ease. It doesn’t even feel like work. There is no resistance. Also, the one word reminder helps me remember the email very clearly through out the day when needed.
After assessing the last few weeks I feel very proud and I also realize where my hiccups are. I study for my college class at night when the kids go to bed. If I have a project due often I stay up very late. The next day we usually have several challenging moments and my energy inside isn’t as calm when these moments happen. I will be brainstorming some other alternatives so that I can have more of a balance around deadlines.
THANK YOU for all you do!!!
This resonates so deeply with me. The ebb and flow of life is such that I do feel like I have continually re-asses– and subsequently renew my approach, my rhythms and myself. If I get too bogged down, the universe sends a reminder. When we are doing our inner work, we realize that change is inevitable and we are wise to keep that in mind, and dive right into the process. Remembering to do my inner work and self care always positively affects my family life and reduces the need for yelling, by passively creating more harmony. It makes life so much more joyful!
Thank you so much for your work and sharing it with the world. It it alll the time such a huge help to me and my family!