Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: warmth. Read on for more…
Often in our parenting we can end up feeling almost like a victim. “Why won’t my child sleep?” “Why is this so hard?” “Why does my teenager slam and lock the door to her bedroom?” “Why is our family so volatile at times? Why is it so hard for everyone just to be happy?”
We act as if we are the victim and reactive to our children’s whims, mood swings; captive to a child’s thoughts of the moment.
I offer to you as the antidote to this the thought of warmth. You are the sun in your home, and your children come toward your warmth and light. You are calm and steady. You are the queen of your home. You love, smile and hug your children and connect with them.
If things are not going well you do not withdraw your warmth but can warmly smile through the crisis of that moment and say, “I love you”, but also keep so calm that things are defused or everyone takes a break and then comes back to work as a team on the problem at hand.
Warmth is one of the most important aspects of being with children. They must feel your warmth, even if you are upset in the moment. Take a breath, the moment will pass and your warmth will shine through once again. The more you practice this, the better and easier it will happen.
Thank you for the amazing post. I love the thought of being the sun that warms my family. I can get so wrapped up in the problems in life that I feel I am cold as ice to my little sweethearts that need and deserve nothing but my light. Any practical ideas you or others use to show warmth to their family? I’d love to hear them. Thanks and God bless.
Love this exactly what I needed to hear today. Thanks Carrie:)
Oooh, Carrie, “You are the sun in your home” I love that so much and plan to keep that thought at the ready! 🙂
Carrie, how do you stay warm when you’re enforcing boundaries?
I find myself going cold then – both in tone and stiffness of the body.
Practice! I often find if I am triggered strongly by something, then that is my own inner work. Practice, practice, have realistic expectations for the age. Spend time with folks who have children the same age as yours to see the normal behavior for that age and the challenges are not confined to just your child — that helps with perspective!
But practice taking a breath, calming down, getting your ho hum back…It gets easier and easier with practice.