Well, let’s kick off our new book to look at chapter-by-chapter. This book is by Nancy Samalin and Catherine Whitney. Here is a link to this book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Anger-Parental-Nancy-Samalin/dp/0140129928/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1301051202&sr=8-1
I think most of us can agree that staying home with our children all day is wonderful; we wouldn’t want to trade that for the world. Our children are precious, they are funny, and to hear their joy and laughter just makes our hearts feel good. All that love wrapped up in a small package of childhood. I personally have so much gratitude that I can stay home with my children and homeschool them.
But there is often another side that seems to go with parenting these days. I am not sure if it is due to a combination of economic stress, a lack of extended family and other support due to families being more transitory, a lack of a cohesive view toward childhood in our society, a lack of turning toward a religious or spiritual path to help support and guide the parenting journey – but mothers today seem more confused, more stressed and yes, more angry by their children’s behavior than ever before.
There it is, that parental dilemma of love and anger toward our children. I don’t think it does much good to pretend that anger in parenting does not exist or to even strive toward having a valium-calm household. Peaceful and loving household, yes. Sterile and without emotion just so any conflict might be avoided, no. That is not life in my book.
Living with children is messy, noisy, sleep-depriving at times, joyous, fun, wonderful. I have said it before, and I will say it again: parenting will stretch your soul like a yoga pose you can’t get out of.
I have met wonderful parents over my many years of working with parents, parents who were so mature and had it all together and were so self-controlled. They were centered, and calm, and whilst they didn’t always do everything “right” (and what is that anyway?), they seemed to raise children who became great adults.
I want to be like that, don’t you?
So let’s take a walk through the introduction of this book!
In the Introduction to this book, the authors write, “I use this example (there is an opening example of parental anger written by none other than Dr. Benjamin Spock, MD who found himself in a blended family situation) to demonstrate that there are no absolute guidelines forged from our own experiences and the experiences of others. ….This caveat –that no single expert has all the answers- is important to note, for you will not find a series of no-fail solutions in the pages of this book.”
The goal of this book, the authors write, is to “offer practical, positive ways to redirect [that] anger.”
Many blessings as we go through this book,