….is through connection and attachment, not through separation. This is why threats, time-outs, and other traditional discipline methods fail.
Attachment and connection with your child is the number one way to guide a child. You can sure hold them when they cry because Grandma can’t come to dinner. You can sure hold them as they learn it is hard sometimes to share. You can help them adapt, but you cannot help them if you send them into a time-out. You are not changing the realities of life, you are not changing the boundary, but you are recognizing the very human struggle that goes into learning something. You are recognizing the strong bond between the child and the parent.
How do you connect? A young child is in their body – hug them, kiss them, rub their backs, massage their hands and feet, pat them on the back, tickle them, rough house with them, hold them, carry them, treasure them – and do it at the times when things are falling apart. Get down to their eye level and love them and support them, even if you don’t feel they are being lovable.
The relationship with this child is what carries the discipline. Help your child to learn and to grow; you are raising a child to become an adult of brilliance.