A Very Short Must-Read

This very short article by Betty Staley has so much truth in it that it should be required reading for all parents:

http://ijoanjaeckel.blogspot.com/2009/01/b-e-t-t-y-s-t-l-e-y-to-educate-future.html

Read and enjoy!!

Transitioning the Only Child to Older Sibling

La Leche League’s  publication THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING sums up the fear that many mothers have when pregnant with her second child: “The mother who is expecting her second child sometimes finds it hard to imagine that she will feel as close to the new baby as she does to the little one who is already here. Can there be the same strong love the second time around? The miracle of mother love is that it increases with each new birth. It is not diminished, not limited. It is not a pie that must be sliced into smaller pieces to accommodate extra plates at the table. With the new baby comes a resurgence of love for the whole family.”

Attached parents often find that in addition to preparing ourselves for the major transition from more of focusing on one child to focusing on the needs of the family, they would like suggestions for how to help prepare the older child.

THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING states that “generous portions of love and reassurance will go a long way toward helping your older child, the ex-baby, accept the demands that the new baby is making on your time”. It talks a lot about the helplessness of the baby and acceptance of sacrifices within the family for the new baby.

“Encourage them (older children) to remember that the new baby will be the only member of the family who will be completely dependent on you-just as they were at that age. When thought of in this way, it’s easier for a young person to recognize (but not always accept) that baby’s needs must certainly come first.”

”Looking ahead, you’ll find that cheerfully putting the needs of the baby first, as a matter of course, is an example of caring for others that benefits everyone. It’s a good way to educate your children for their future roles as loving parents.

This can be a delicate balance, however.  Some mothers have found that while she is the only one who can nurse the baby, the baby is more than agreeable to receiving diaper changes from daddy, and snuggling with an aunt or uncle after feeding, while a three or four year-old often has strong feelings and preferences as to which caregiver does what things.   A point to consider is many things for a toddler or preschooler is the repetition of “this is who always does these things” so to consider every point within your rhythm and who could do what may be helpful.  On the other hand, a three or four year  old may protest, but sometimes a baby’s truly physiologic, biological need is to be with Mommy while the toddler or preschooler has an emotional need to be loved and wanted by Mommy.  It is a balancing act, and everyone in the family has needs.  Sometimes the needs of one child will take precedence first, sometimes not, but the children are always loved and the needs are met.

Advice for Preparing Your Child for Pregnancy and Birth:

The Gesell Institute books (Your One-Year-Old, Your-Two-Year Old, etc)   discusses what children typically understand about pregnancy at the following ages (and it may be much less than you really think!)

  • 3 years old – Most do not understand when Mother says baby grows inside of her. Many believe that you purchase a baby the way you buy groceries. They can understand the idea that a baby may come from a hospital.
  • 4 years old: May believe that a baby grows inside a Mommy, but may also cling to notion babies are purchased. Asks how baby get out of Mother. May think baby is born through navel.
  • 5 years old: Interested in babies, having a baby.
  • 6 years old: Strong interest in origin of babies, pregnancy, birth. Vague idea babies follow marriage. Interest in how baby comes out of mother and if it hurts. Some interest in knowing how baby started.
  • 7 years old: Intense longing for new baby in family. Associates size of pregnant women with presence of baby. Interested in mother’s pregnancy. Interested in books about baby.

The Gesell Institute offers this wise advise:  “Unless the child asks questions, best delay the announcement till the last few months…The very young child has a very different sense of time from the adult.”

It can also be very surprising to mothers who thought their children really understood everything about the pregnancy and birth to find out as their children got more verbal several years later what they really  understood and remembered from the pregnancy and birth!

What Wise  Mothers Have Suggested:

Read On Mother’s Lap or Dr Sears’ Baby On The Way to older child

Call the newborn “our baby”

Point out breastfeeding babies and that babies need to nurse when you see them

Take  the older child to prenatal visits

Tell the older child their own birth story

Point out older siblings who are helping younger siblings when you see them

Let Dad take over some of the routines for the older child before the baby arrives….Many mothers commented to me that the children that they waited to do this with until after the baby was born seemed to  feel displaced and were not accepting of this change at first….Also harder on Dad, because Dad feels unwanted by the older child whom he is trying to help and assist.

If your child develops separation anxiety during the pregnancy, go with it

Some mothers have their children watch maternity/birth shows or videos – I personally have an issue with this, but that is just my own personal opinion….Please do consider your  child’s age and temperament though!

If your child is still nursing, talk about that your milk may dry up during pregnancy but the baby will bring it back (make the baby a hero :))

What Mothers Say About Including Siblings at Birth:

Write down a birth plan and figure out what you are comfortable with

Prepare your children for the physicality of birth – some children are uncomfortable with the things that happen, even older children. such as 9 year olds.  You must be prepared for not only what you have in mind, but your child’s needs regarding this.

Consider your child’s age

Have a back-up plan

Have drinks, snacks, toys at the ready

Some kids celebrate by baking a birthday cake while Mom is in labor

What Mothers and Other Sources Say About Adjusting As A Family

The Gesell Institute books say, “Downplay the baby. He or she absolutely will not care.”

THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING says:

Regarding Housework:

  1. People before Things.
  2. Simplify, declutter before baby comes
  3. Do “spring cleaning” before baby comes
  4. Rearrange cleaning supplies so they are child-proof but easily accessible
  5. Make your bed or not.
  6. Focus on one or two top priorities for the day.

Regarding Meal Planning:

  1. Advance meal preparation
  2. Simplify
  3. Use a slow-cooker or crock-pot.
  4. Prepare snacks at beginning of day with assistance of toddlers and older children
  5. Use music and sing, make meal-times special.

Regarding Laundry:

  1. Have an ample supply of clothing.
  2. Enlist your husband’s help
  3. Pre-sort and pre-soak
  4. Involve toddlers and older children.
  5. Don’t iron
  6. Find a way children can help hang up clothes.

Regarding Time for Other Little Ones:

  1. Have a nursing corner that will accommodate all children.
  2. Keep an assortment of play toys/ideas for other children that come out when nursing and change the assortment frequently.
  3. Sit on the floor while nursing.
  4. Toddlers love to dust and clean- work together
  5. Enlist Dad to keep older ones busy when you need time with the baby alone
  6. Encourage the older children to think of ways they can help each other, teach then household skills.

Typical Areas of Challenge in Meeting Family Needs:

And every family will come up with different ways to work with these challenges that work for them, but here is a list to get you thinking:

  • Tandem Nursing, or the older child who has weaned who wants to come back to the breast after the baby is born
  • What the older child  can do while baby nurses (or “the minute I sit down to nurse the baby, my older child needs something! 🙂
  • Co-sleeping
  • Older child waking up baby/Baby waking up older child
  • Naptimes and Bedtimes
  • “Alone” time for each of the children
  • When Number One Child  Wants to be the Baby – regression is common
  • When Number One Child  Feels Left Out

What Wise Mothers Say:

  • Try to maintain as close to a normal routine as possible
  • Be prepared for negative feelings from the older child regarding the baby
  • Be prepared that tandem nursing may not work out the way you thought
  • Be prepared for your own negative feelings
  • Try to make time to spend alone with your older child every day
  • Cultivate Dad-older child relationship
  • Let your older child hold and help care for the baby with supervision; if your child is young (ie, 18 months to 2 years of age),  some mothers suggest what worked well for them is  letting the older child touch the baby gently on  the feet and try to steer touching and loving to the feet more than the baby’s face and neck 
  • Try not to “blame” the baby for something your older child cannot do or have at that moment
  • “In any event, it is never wise to leave an untended, unprotected infant with an older sibling under the age of 6 or 7.” (Gesell)
  • “Keeping older children happily occupied, providing for them as rich and full a life as possible, reduces their need to attain emotional satisfaction by feeling and expressing jealousy of brothers and sisters, and especially of a new baby.”  (Gesell Institute)

Advantages to Being the Number Two Child  or more in a family  from author Nancy Samalin in her book “Loving Each One Best:  A Caring and Practical Approach to Raising Siblings”:

Parents are more experienced, less uptight

There are older siblings to teach you the ropes, be your playmate

Parents are less intense and can roll with the punches more

There is more activity and fun!

I personally truly believe that giving your child a sibling is the most wonderful gift you can ever give your child! Watch your family evolve with the addition of more children and, above all, have fun and LOVE each other!!

Hear the Voice of the Griot!

I received this wonderful book from my sister-in-law for Christmas; it was just what I wanted.  This 404-paged book written by Betty Staley is a true gem and deserves to belong on every Waldorf educators’ bookshelf.   It is worth every penny!   The full title is “Hear the Voice of the Griot!  A Guide to African Geography, History, and Culture.” 

According to the Forward of the book, the “griot” of the title refers to the “storytellers of African culture who carried the responsibility of passing on traditions by word of mouth. They were the historians, the educators of moral behavior, who held the legacy of their people and captured the imaginations of the people in the villages.”  In the Introduction, Betty Staley herself expands this idea further by saying, “African have a very strong connection to the Word, to that which passes from one person to another.  The griot carried that responsibility.  Because African cultures have been strongly oral, word of mouth provided the lifeline of the culture.  The griots were oral historians who took responsibility for keeping alive all that had been known in the time before writing.  They often accompanied their recitations with the music of stringed instruments or a drum. The griot was often part of a king’s or chief’s court and told stories as part of the historical record of the people.  He passed on the culture from generation to generation.  More than that, the griot passed on the deepest aspects of the spiritual history of the people.”

The book is divided into seven sections as follows:

Section One –Geography

Chapter One: Longing  for the African Land, Chapter Two: The Baobab and the Acacia, and Chapter Three: The Cheetah, the Hippo, The Chimp and The Ostrich.

Section Two-African History

Africa-Its People and Its History, Chapter Four: Prehistoric Africa (including a biographical sketch of Louis Leakey); Chapter Five: History of Egypt and Ethiopia (including biographical sketches of Queen Hatshepsut, Piankhy, and Frumentius, Aedesius, and Ezana); Chapter Six: Great Kingdoms of West Africa (Ghana, Mali, Biographical Sketches of Sundiate and Mansa Musa, the Songhay Empire); Chapter Seven: Islam (including biographical sketches of Ibn Battuta and Ahmed Baba); Chapter Eight: Europeans in Africa (including biographical sketches of Shaka, Ann Nzinga, Cinque) and Chapter Nine:  The Awakening of National Consciousness in the Twentieth Century, including a biographical sketch of Nelson Mandela.

Section Three -Regions of Africa

Chapter Ten: North Africa; Chapter Eleven: West Africa; Chapter Twelve: East Africa; Chapter Thirteen: Central Africa; Chapter Fourteen:  Southern Africa

Section Four – The Inner Africa

Ancient African Spirituality; Chapter Fifteen:  The San View of Spiritual Life; Chapter Sixteen:  The Bantu View of Spiritual Life and Chapter Seventeen:  Ethiopia, the Seed of the Grail Impulse in Africa

Section Five – Fairy Tales, Fables, Myths, and Poems

Introduction to Section Five; Chapter Eighteen:  Fairy Tales; Chapter Nineteen:  Stories of Monsters and Ogres; Chapter Twenty:  Fables and Myths, including Anansi Spider Man stories from West Africa, Aesop’s Fables and Yoruba Myths; Chapter Twenty-One: More Stories; Chapter Twenty-Two: Counting Rhymes, Riddles, Proverbs, and Poems (including a biographical sketch of Wole Soyinka).

Section Six – Saints and Other Holy Figures

Introduction to Section Six; Chapter Twenty-Three:  Holy Men and Women including Christian Saints, Islamic Saints, and A Holy Man From African Tradition.

Section Seven – Other Aspects of African Culture

Chapter Twenty-Four:  Art of Africa,including Rock paintings, sculpture, masks, textiles, and African Art Experiences in the Classroom; Chapter Twenty-Five: Music of Africa; Chapter Twenty-Six: Songs of Africa; Chapter Twenty-Seven: Games; Chapter Twenty-Eight:African Foods.

This is just a fantastic resource for all ages.  There are suggestions for the teacher with every section, and suggested ages/grades for the stories and activities. 

Africa is a continent I want my children to know about.  I want them to be able to name the countries and understand about the different cultural groups living  there.  I have African friends and enjoy them and the culture they bring to my life. 

What are you doing in your homeschool to learn about the continent of Africa?

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Candlemas Is Coming!

Candlemas is on February 2 and celebrates the beginning of the lengthening of the days, and in some traditions is considered the beginning of spring.   It is my understanding that this day is also halfway between Winter Solstice and Spring Equinox.   This festival began in pre-Christian times as a Celebration of Lights and of the Celtic goddess Brigit (February 1st).  Candlemas  takes its name from the blessing of the candles on this day for use in the church throughout the coming year.  It is also a celebration within the church of the presentation of Jesus in the Temple to Simeon and the elderly widow Anna.   In the Catholic Church, I believe this is also celebrated as the Feast of Purification (of Mary).   This is now also a celebration of Saint Brigid and also a time where we look to the hibernating animals to come out and see if it is winter and whether or not we will have an early Spring.  This is also a traditional time of  preparation  of the fields for later planting. 

In the book “All Year Round” by Ann Druitt, Christine Fynes-Clinton and Marije Rowling it says, “At the beginning of February, when the infant light of spring is greeted thankfully by the hoary winter earth, it seems fitting that we should celebrate a candle Festival to remember that moment when the Light of the World was received into the Temple, when the old yielded to the new.”

For children under the age of 7, the celebration of the festivals is not in the verbal explanation of the day, but the doing.  An answer to a very small child’s question of  why we do this or that for many festivals is just that we do!  As a child approaches seven, there can be more explanation for the reasons behind things, but please do not spoil the magic and mystery of the festival by all the history.

Here are some ways that Waldorf families celebrate Candlemas:

One would be to think of goals and things you would like to see happen in this New Year together, in this time of new beginnings, as the earth becomes Spring again and do something to celebrate that.

Of course, the major activity is usually candle-making in some form – rolling candles, candle dipping, making earth candles outside in the ground and lighting them.  Some families have their candles blessed on this day.

Some families celebrate by tilling a garden plot for March planting.

You could  have dinner in candlelight.

Marsha Johnson over at waldorfhomeeducators@yahoogroups.com recommends making and eating fresh bread, vegetable soup or vegetable chowder and baked custards as your Candlemas meal.  Recipes can be found in the FILES section of her yahoo group.

We can also offer simply made stories and poems about our friends the bees and work with beeswax and honey in some way during this festival.

In the United States, this is also of course Groundhog Day and many families celebrate by going to a groundhog day event.

Some families tell stories about Brigid or read the picture book about Brigid and her cloak.  You can also search for Brigid’s crosses on-line and make those as a craft; they are very distinctive-looking.

Some families have a bonfire on this day.

These are just some suggestions I have read or heard through other families.  If you celebrate Candlemas in your family, please do leave a comment and tell everyone how you celebrate this day…Help someone new to this festival get started!

Getting Children Into Their Bodies – Part One: Birth to Age 2 and a Half

Steiner looked at the stages of childhood development through seven year cycles.  He further divided the first seven year cycle into three parts consisting of the ages birth through age two and a half, two and  half through age five, and age five to age seven.

Steiner writes about this importance in this passage from “Soul Economy” -(my note: for those of you not familiar with “Steiner – speak”, the ether body refers to the body that maintains your life functions.  It is not visible and is not composed of matter but more encompasses life processes within the body.  When the ether body dies, the result is that the physical body dies as well):

“What children learn during this first two-and-a-half-year period is extremely important for their whole life.  They do so through an incoming activity and from what they have brought with them from prenatal existence.  Just consider how children learn to speak and walk during this first short period.  These are two human faculties that are closely connected with maintaining self-confidence, both from a personal and a social point of view.  These two important faculties are being developed while the ether body is still engaged in shaping the brain and radiating into the rest of the organism.”

One of the principal thoughts for the Early Years from a Waldorf Perspective is that small children under the age of 7 should be in their bodies.  We want to do this not through head oriented commands in the home environment or  the head-oriented verbal commands of organized sports, but through movement couched in fantasy or shown and demonstrated through imitation.

So, without further ado, here are some suggestions. Please take what resonates with you and your family.  The suggestions in this post are certainly not meant as medical advice or meant to substitute for individualized plans formed by you in conjunction with your baby’s doctor or therapist if your baby has developmental challenges.  This post applies to those families with infants who are developing normally, whom do not have medical problems and who were not born prematurely.  For further information regarding a Waldorf approach to children with special needs, please investigate Camphill through this link:  http://www.camphill.org/

For Newborn Babies:  This is not so much about getting your baby into its body, but protecting the baby’s body and the baby’s senses.  Lois Cusick, in her lovely book “The Waldorf Parenting Handbook” ( a great read) says this of the child within the first three years:  “Parents need to defend their helpless child from an over-stimulating environment, from too many sense perceptions.  Their role is to supply a protecting, nourishing nest to replace the safe peace and quiet of the womb.  Quiet, warmth and nourishing mother’s milk are what babies need most when they first enter earth life.”

  • As much as you can, create a calm feeling in your home.   Steiner regarded the first seven year cycle as a time when the child is almost akin to an eye – visual memory dominates.   There are many posts within this blog regarding the creation of rhythm in the home, how to do inner work, and  common marriage and parenting challenges.  Read those and see if they spark any ideas in you!
  • One thing to think about is the baby’s sense of warmth, and while not overdressing the baby, making sure the baby is warm and swaddled if not in your arms or on your body.  Generally, babies under a year should wear hats as well.  Swaddle your baby with the baby’s arms by its mouth to add to further protection of the senses.
  • I know it is not always possible, especially if one has older children, but see if you can avoid taking your newborn to busy supermarkets and stores during the first six weeks.  Try to do without the television and all the blaring noise these boxes provide – I am always amazed when I go into a hospital room to check on a newborn and the whole family is enthralled and listening to some kind of noisy, action-packed show with the newborn baby right there!  It floors me!!  These early weeks deserve to be beautiful with beautiful sounds as well.  So instead of the noisy hustle and bustle of life, try to provide your beautiful baby with soft lullabies and your loving, clear, speech.   Steiner was very clear about no “baby-talk” to a small child, but loving, complex speech with all of its shining words and meanings.  If you can play a lyre or flute, that is lovely as well.
  • Joan Salter writes in her book “The Incarnating Child”, “An upright sling is a real help for a baby with colic, for the warmth of Mother’s or Dad’s body and the vertical position is often the only means of comfort.  But the child does not need to be constantly carried, and in fact, if we observe the child we will see that the natural position for the baby in the first six weeks is the horizontal.”  I do see the wisdom in this statement, the part about the infant’s natural position being horizontal – infants being breastfed certainly spend a lot of time horizontal!    Horizontal, however, by its very nature, does not always mean the baby is on its back.  Breastfeeding usually occurs with the infant in side-lying, and reaching in side-lying is one of the first ways infants often are able to try to reach for an object as gravity is eliminated in this position.  Horizontal can also mean tummy-time.   One way a  young baby can gain the concept of “tummy time” that is so heavily promoted these days (for good reason with the Back to Sleep campaign),  is through laying the baby across mom’s lap for burping or when awake.
  • Your body is the baby’s natural habitat.  Study after study has shown the nervous system of an infant to be regulated by the adult’s body, so please do hold your baby skin to skin!  So, perhaps I disagree a bit with Joan Salter ‘s statement above that babies do not need to be constantly carried in this way:  while I do think it is okay to put your baby down, most babies who are breastfeeding are getting a lot of times in arms with mother  in a horizontal position as they nurse (and this, to me, is nature’s plan!).   If you are feeding your baby with love by another method, please do include a lot of skin to skin time with your baby.  If you are breastfeeding, please quit trying to feed your baby through a tiny triangular-shaped hole of a nursing shirt and nursing bra, and get your baby skin to skin!
  • Things to watch for your baby to do within the first six weeks: see how your infant attains a calm, but alert state; visual fixation on you; visual tracking; auditory orientation (turning to sounds out of visual range); and typical  newborn reflexes.   Newborn development begins with the mouth and the eyes, so pay special attention to these two sense organs.

For Babies Who Are Not Yet Crawling  (About Six Weeks to Six or Seven Months):

  • Yes, I am going to keep saying this in every section:  Make your home the most peaceful place to be that you can.  In “The Incarnating Child” by Joan Salter, she quotes Willi Aeppli from the book The Care and Development of the Human Senses saying, “The power of thinking and of judgment which is not yet in existence cannot form a protective dam against the storming in of sense impressions.  Consequently the child is exposed with his whole body to these impressions in quite a different way, in a far more direct way than at a later age.  All sense-perceptions go deeply into the organism and leave their impressions there…”  The young infant and child needs to be surrounded with perceptions that are good, warm, kind, joyful.
  • Your baby is now physically developing from the head down toward the feet, so pay special attention to these areas, as well as the development  of  hand-eye coordination and reaching.
  • Singing and fingerplays (and toeplays!) are so important!  Talk to your baby without baby talk, but do provide a language-rich environment through singing and verses.
  • When your baby is awake provide lots of time to wiggle and move those arms and legs.
  • Do let your child nap outside if your climate and weather is suitable for that; it is a wonderful way to get your baby connected with nature.  Sit outside with your baby and other children and breathe in with all your senses.   Joan Salter writes in “The Incarnating Child”:  “A well-loved garden is much more than merely a collection of plants.  It has an atmosphere that speaks to the child, and often a restless baby will be calmed by being out of doors in such a place.  To sleep in the garden for an hour or so, or just be there watching and listening, absorbing what Wise Mother Nature has to offer, is a helpful and healthy experience for a child from about two months of age onward.”
  • Much has been written on the subject of sleep, but hopefully during this time you are moving toward more rhythmical nap patterns and bedtime patterns; it is very important that you work toward this with your baby.  If you have a high-needs baby, who by their very nature seems to be irregular and without rhythm, it is even more important that you help them work towards what they cannot do themselves.
  • As an infant moves toward crawling, a parents must be very  patient and also have a rather well-baby-proofed house!

For Babies Who Are Crawling, Pulling to Stand and Learning to Walk (About Six or Seven Months to One Year of Age):

  • Make your home the most peaceful, happy place it can be.
  • Work toward a rhythm of breastfeeding, eating, play, sleeping.  Not a fixed, rigid schedule, but a rhythm.
  • Keep the quality of warmth in mind – babies under the age of one need to wear warm clothes, hats on their bald heads!
  • Joan Salter writes in her book “The Incarnating Child”:  “After about six months of age, other senses start to become more dominant.  The child begins to take in the world more strongly through the eyes and ears….This brings us to the immense importance of visual and auditory sense impressions”  Be a wonderful source of right thoughts, right speech and right action for your child to see and imitate.
  • Get into the habit of starting to use songs and verse for transition times within your day; this will become valuable for toddlerhood.
  • Infants learning to walk need times to practice their sense of balance safely; infant walkers or baby bouncers that hang in the doorway are not appropriate developmental tools for this population. If your child is a normal, healthy developing child, they may not need your coaxing or helping or forcing.  They do need practice and imitation.
  • Once the child is able to walk, he or she may have soft knitted animals or wooden animals as per Joan Salter’s “The Incarnating Child”, page 96.
  • Stranger anxiety may occur during this time period, it is common, and not a sign anything is amiss.

For Toddlers (About a Year or a Year and A Half to Two and A Half Years of Age):

  • Once a child can walk and keep his or her balance, the arms and hands are freed.  Bronja Zahlingen comments in the article, “Movement, Gesture and Language in the Life of the Young Child”:  “This is truly unique to the human being, for the animal, still bound to its physical organization, must utilize its front limbs entirely to serve its body – they must carry and nourish it.  We human beings can perform many different kinds of work. We can work with our hands as artists, we can wave and threaten, give and take, pray and bless.”
  • Gesture and the use of gesture precedes talking from a Waldorf perspective.  This also makes sense from a therapy perspective, since therapists know one must have sufficient muscle tone and muscle control in order to produce speech sounds and a good quality of speech.  Learning to talk is a major part of this time period.  Rahima Baldwin Dancy states in her book “You Are Your Child’s First Teacher:  What Parents Can Do With and For Their Children from Birth Until Age Six”:  “But around a year and a half, children’s language abilities explode, so that most start acquiring new words at the phenomenal rate of one every two hours.  By their second birthdays, most children have mastered 1,000 to 2,000 words and have started stringing two words together.”  Clearly, receptive language ability is developed long before expressive ability.    Steiner viewed mastery of a native tongue as a prerequisite to thinking – we think because we have language.  Whole sentences may appear between ages two and three, according to “You Are Your Child’s First Teacher.”
  • Human speech is looked upon as having three parts by anthroposophists: saying (a one word sentence); naming (dog, cookie); and finally talking (which begins a me-you kind of dialogue with others).  Watch your child for these words and speech development.
  • For speech development, it is so important you talk to your child through song, verses, telling stories of simple sentences that you make up.  Some mothers become great talkers to their children, but then have difficulty slowing this down later on.  Think about what you are actually saying to your child before you just prattle on and on!
  • Early in this year, the child may be ready for a very simple doll of unfinished features.  The doll should be soft to cuddle.  Joan Salter writes in “The Incarnating Child”: “As the child grows, the doll will become a friend to be talked to, told secrets, taken for outings and so on.  It is a first step in developing later relationships.”

For Children of All Ages-

Most of all, protect your small child from overstimulation.

Look at the visual things of beauty in the home, and how your own face is the most beautiful toy to a baby.

Think about the sense of touch and to bring different safe tactile experiences to your small child.

Think about how to bring lovely speech, songs and verses into your home.

Think about pets, gardening experiences and how to get outside in nature.

Give your child lots of chances to practice wiggling their limbs, moving to sit, manipulating objects with their hands,  crawling, balancing while walking on an even surface first and then uneven surfaces.

Let your child work with pouring water, playing with sand and dirt (supervise carefully that they don’t eat all the sand and dirt, of course).

These are just a few thoughts from a Waldorf perspective regarding childhood development and what you should be doing with your child to develop these things.

Nuno Wet Felting Tutorial

Please do check out this great tutorial from my friend Catherine (and she put it in English!  Thanks Catherine!!)

http://catherine-et-les-fees.blogspot.com/2009/01/nuno-felting-tutorial.html

You will enjoy seeing these creations come to life!

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Form Drawing for First Grade

Note:  If you have a Kindergartner, a child under the age of 7, form drawing is too awakening for your child.  They do not need to start form drawing until first grade when they are seven years old.  This post is for those parents who have children ages 7 and older, or for those parents who have a six-year-old and are trying to understand form drawing for the following year.

Form drawing is one of the those subjects that is very special to the Waldorf school and Waldorf homeschool environment and completely foreign to the public school environment.  I have had many Waldorf homeschooling mothers tell me they do not like form drawing and this is unfortunate because it is such an important subject.  In fact, I would like to convince you today that form drawing is so important there should be at least 2, but preferably 3 blocks of form drawing throughout your school year in grades one through four, and also continue form drawing once a week throughout some of your other blocks.  Form drawing and numeral literacy should be a large backbone of the early years.

From the book “Form Drawing: Grades One Through Four” by Laura Embrey-Stine and Ernst Schuberth: 

There are many sound reasons which support the feeling that form drawing is good for children.  The simplest and perhaps most straight-forward reason is that it develops the fine motor skills as a preparation, and later a support, for writing.  It strengthens eye-hand coordination, giving the eye practice at being a coachmen for the horses, the hands.  Form drawing also works in the other direction:  the movement of the hand also educates the brain.  Furthermore, it is part of the evolution of art and, as such, develops the aesthetic sense and a feeling for form.  It also teaches thinking but in a non-intellectual way; it trains the intelligence to be flexible, able to follow and understand a complicated line of thought.  The more human beings are trained to think flexibly, the greater the world is strengthened in intelligence.  Finally, form drawing really supports the development of the whole being of the child, guiding it in a healthy way with certain types of  forms brought to the child which are appropriate for his age in the various grades.

Form drawing should be very active – it is not about putting the form on paper at first, not until the very end; it is about getting the form into the child’s BODY.  The form should be expressed in an imaginative way through a small and simple story and then you do everything possible to get it into the child’s body – draw it in chalk on your driveway and walk it, hop it, skip it, walk it backwards, draw it on each other’s skin and guess which form it was, draw it in sand and in rice, draw it with both hands onto two sheets of paper taped down, draw it with a crayon between the big toes on a large piece of paper, shape it with beanbags and walk it on the floor, model it  in salt dough or sand or  beeswax, draw it in the air with your nose, toes, elbow or chin, build the form out of sticks if it is a form conducive to that.  Then, at the very end, have the child stand and draw the form.

We followed this progression of forms so far this year:

  • We started with a line and a curve the very first day of school as per Steiner’s indications and went throughout the entire month of September with forms made up of simple  lines and curves.
  • We did free hand drawing of geometric shapes within our math block as we learned about the qualities of numbers.  For example, for the number one we practiced drawing freehand circles.  For number two we practiced making a yin-yang symbol.  For number three we drew triangles within circles.  For number four we drew squares and rectangles.  For number five we drew pentagons inside circles and for number six hexagons inside circle.  For number five we also drew five –pointed stars and for number six we drew six-pointed stars.
  • We then moved on to more of the simple curved lines and into spirals.  I highly recommend the progression in the book I mentioned above.  I made a series of very short (one to two paragraph stories involving either a little girl walking a very large dog and their adventures or the animal characters and the Merry Little Breezes from Thornton Burgess’s work).  After the simple curves and three types of spirals, we moved on to more complex lines and curves and the lemniscate.
  • Our last bit of form drawing is going to include closed figures/shaded figures and how a figure undergoes transformation to become a different kind of figure altogether. 
  • We will then end first grade with a series of running forms.  I think one mistake people seem to  make includes jumping to running forms too soon without doing all of these other forms.  In my very humble opinion, the other forms really lay the foundation for the running forms.  We will start mirrored forms in grade two in the fall.

Form drawing is a great therapeutic activity and an important component of Waldorf education. Please consider bringing it to your homeschool.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Three Kings Day

I hope everyone had a wonderful Three Kings Day.  We had a terrific time finding gifts yesterday morning, having a storytelling session around the Coming of the Magi, making crowns, and having rice pudding with those secretly buried almonds for the kids to find!

My friend over at Nature’s Rhythm has this wonderful post up about their festivities, check it out and file the ideas away for next year!

http://naturesrhythm.blogspot.com/2009/01/sternsinger.html

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

When A Child Balks At Rhythm

Some mothers have asked me what to do when my child balks at our rhythm or a particular activity within our rhythm?  I have several thoughts about this subject,

First of all, in general, if rhythm is new to you, start small around mealtimes and sleeping times and build up from there.  It may be that your child is balking at the rhythm because there is just too much going on that is new and it is all taking place too fast.  It may take several months or longer to really get in a full rhythm of the day and the week.  Your seasonal rhythm may take even longer than that as you start small with festivals and then add things to each individual festival each year or even add festivals each year that you have never celebrated before.

As I mentioned above, some of this depends on age.  If your child is under the age of seven, I would respectfully ask that you look to yourself first.  Are you being rather ADHD about your rhythm and starting things and not finishing them before you are moving on to something else?  Is there one particular activity that is problematic and is this activity one you yourself enjoys or one that you secretly dread?  Your child can pick up on this feeling even if you do not verbalize it!  Is it the right season to be doing whatever activity you have planned – for example, many mothers have told me they do not like to knit in summer.  If this is you, it may be hard for you to teach knitting to your first grader in July!   Is the rhythm so complex that you can’t even carry it?   A rhythm is a gentle flow to the day of in-breath and out-breath activities.  This should include more of an order, blocks of time than a minute-by-minute, play-by-play kind of schedule.  So, the first place to start with a balking child is with yourself.

If your child is under the age of 7 and your child is balking about the rhythm, here are some ideas.  Parents have asked me, “ What do I do when it is gardening time, and my child just won’t get their shoes on to go outside?  They don’t want to garden then.” 

There are no blanket answers for this per say, but here are some ideas:

  • With a small child, the rhythm and the outcomes of things that happen within the rhythm are mainly carried by YOU.  So, if your child doesn’t want to garden, and he or she has gone to the bathroom and had a snack and is generally okay, perhaps YOU garden and they join in, or they just play while you garden.  You may only get a small amount of practical work in.  Rudolf Steiner said somewhere in his lectures that a child seeing even 15 minutes of quality work was worth this effort and time. 
  • The other question to this is:  have you built in time for preparing for the activity and cleaning up from the activity?  If we always put our gardening pants and shoes on while we sing a song about gardening, then it is habit to wear shoes.  Building up anticipation through preparation for a task, singing about the task, and  having an allotment of time to clean-up from a task  is just as important to the child as the task itself.
  • Also, try to look at your task from the child’s point of view.  Yes, the task is for you and being carried by you, but it should also include child-friendly elements.  For gardening, this might include watering, planting large seeds a child can handle, digging for worms.  There should be songs and stories!  The practical work of life should be fun!
  • A child under the age of 7 is at the height of imitation.  Imitate with happiness the task at hand, use songs and wonder, and the activity will be fun. If you start the activity by saying, “Now we will go garden,” and the child envisions hours of you pulling weeds, they may very well not want  to do it!
  • The other question that always begs to be asked is:  Does your rhythm need to be changed?  Maybe your child really wants a story before you go outside.  Can you make up a story about a worm, or a butterfly, or gnomes helping to put the seed babies to bed?  Maybe your child needs a game before they go outside or maybe a game once they are outside before they can settle down enough to do a small task at hand.  Go back again and think your in-breath and out-breath of activities.

For a child over the age of 7, I would think not only of these things, but also the worthiness of authority for this age group, as according to Steiner himself.  Your very gesture and mood permeate the task and the rhythm and sometimes the answer to this is just working with the child’s will to complete something.  This does not have to be as harsh as it sounds, but many seven and ten year olds will grumble at the prospect of doing work, but then are very proud of their accomplishments indeed if you can just help them persevere through it!

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Verses and Songs Throughout the Day

Many Waldorf mothers lament that while they know they should not use head-oriented commands with small children under the age of seven, they just are not sure how to get through the day without doing this.  One way to think about this is how you could use songs and verses throughout your day for transition points.  For example, instead of announcing all day long, “Now, little Jimmy, we are going to do XYZ”, you have a wonderful song or melody to do this that accompanies YOU starting to DO the physical activity.  (Having small children is not to be directed from the sofa!!)  Once you use the same song or verse for the same activity over and over, the child recognizes what goes with what melody. 

I kept track the other day, and here are some of the ones I use with my family that we enjoy, and maybe this will give you some ideas for your own family!  You will find the songs and verses that work for you!

For waking up in the morning, while I go around and open all the window shades:  The song “Good morning, good morning and how do you do?”  and also the song “Buenos Dias, Buenos Dias, como estas, como estas?”  (sung to the tune of “Where is Thumpkin?”)

For making beds:   The song “This is the way we make the beds, make the beds, make the beds, this is way we make the beds on a “XXXXXX” morning.”

For calling to breakfast and lunch – We sing the prayer “Thou Art Great and Thou Art Good”  from Shea Darien’s book Seven Times the Sun.

For washing dishes:  The song “This the way we wash the dishes, wash the dishes, wash the dishes” as above

For getting dressed:  The nursery rhyme Diddle Diddle Dumpling, My Son John

(I also make up songs sometimes for going potty, brushing teeth or brushing hair).

For being called to start homeschool:  I always call children with a made- up tune on the pennywhistle and then play whatever song is the song of the month.  For example, in November I played “The Pumpkin Pie” song and my kids learned it and sung it for everyone after Thanksgiving dinner while I played.  For this month we are learning the song from the play “The Snowmaiden” from “Little Plays for Puppets” book and also a song about dwarves.  After singing we have a candle-lighting verse and we also use the well-known  Waldorf verse that begins, “Good Morning Dear Earth, Good Morning Dear Sun.”

For quiet time:  We sing one of the quiet songs out of Shea Darien’s book Seven Times the Sun

For ending quiet time:  We use that wonderful folk song that begins, “Bluebird, bluebird (or whatever bird you want!)  fly through my window, bluebird, bluebird, fly through my window.”  It is on Pete Seeger’s CD of folk songs

Favorite verse for going outside:  The nursery rhyme that begins, “The grand old Duke of York, he had ten thousand men, he marched them up a hill and then he marched him down again.”

For practical work, I do have verses for wet on wet watercolor painting, baking, handwork, gardening and housekeeping that can be found in A Child’s Seasonal Treasury,

For dinner we rotate between these two prayers: 

Father, we thank thee for this food before us

Give us strength to do Thy Will

Guide and Protect Us in Your Heavenly Path

For Christ’s Sake, Amen.

or this one:

Bless this food to our use

And us to thy (continued) service

And make us ever mindful of thy blessings

Amen.

For Bathtime- Rub a Dub Dub, Three Men in a Tub

For Bedtime- Prayers (we say four prayers at night)

First we say “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep”

Then we say this one:

Matthew, Mark, Luke and John,

Bless this bed that we lie on,

Two at our head, two at our feet,

Protect us (bless us) while we are fast asleep.

Then we say a quick prayer to the archangels of St. Raphael, St. Gabriel, St. Michael and St. Uriel, (and we list what we are thankful for from the day)

And then at last we say “Our Father Who Art in Heaven”.

This is just a small sampling, and you can come up with traditional verses, songs and prayers that speak to your own spiritual/religious life.   I also make up many songs on the spot and sing.  My oldest thinks my voice is beautiful, which I assure you it is not, but the point is you do not have to be a great singer to do this!!  It is great fun, the kids learn all of this by heart easily, and it is so much better than walking around like a play-by-play football announcer each day.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.