This very short article by Betty Staley has so much truth in it that it should be required reading for all parents:
http://ijoanjaeckel.blogspot.com/2009/01/b-e-t-t-y-s-t-l-e-y-to-educate-future.html
Read and enjoy!!
This very short article by Betty Staley has so much truth in it that it should be required reading for all parents:
http://ijoanjaeckel.blogspot.com/2009/01/b-e-t-t-y-s-t-l-e-y-to-educate-future.html
Read and enjoy!!
La Leche League’s publication THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING sums up the fear that many mothers have when pregnant with her second child: “The mother who is expecting her second child sometimes finds it hard to imagine that she will feel as close to the new baby as she does to the little one who is already here. Can there be the same strong love the second time around? The miracle of mother love is that it increases with each new birth. It is not diminished, not limited. It is not a pie that must be sliced into smaller pieces to accommodate extra plates at the table. With the new baby comes a resurgence of love for the whole family.”
Attached parents often find that in addition to preparing ourselves for the major transition from more of focusing on one child to focusing on the needs of the family, they would like suggestions for how to help prepare the older child.
THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING states that “generous portions of love and reassurance will go a long way toward helping your older child, the ex-baby, accept the demands that the new baby is making on your time”. It talks a lot about the helplessness of the baby and acceptance of sacrifices within the family for the new baby.
“Encourage them (older children) to remember that the new baby will be the only member of the family who will be completely dependent on you-just as they were at that age. When thought of in this way, it’s easier for a young person to recognize (but not always accept) that baby’s needs must certainly come first.”
”Looking ahead, you’ll find that cheerfully putting the needs of the baby first, as a matter of course, is an example of caring for others that benefits everyone. It’s a good way to educate your children for their future roles as loving parents.
This can be a delicate balance, however. Some mothers have found that while she is the only one who can nurse the baby, the baby is more than agreeable to receiving diaper changes from daddy, and snuggling with an aunt or uncle after feeding, while a three or four year-old often has strong feelings and preferences as to which caregiver does what things. A point to consider is many things for a toddler or preschooler is the repetition of “this is who always does these things” so to consider every point within your rhythm and who could do what may be helpful. On the other hand, a three or four year old may protest, but sometimes a baby’s truly physiologic, biological need is to be with Mommy while the toddler or preschooler has an emotional need to be loved and wanted by Mommy. It is a balancing act, and everyone in the family has needs. Sometimes the needs of one child will take precedence first, sometimes not, but the children are always loved and the needs are met.
Advice for Preparing Your Child for Pregnancy and Birth:
The Gesell Institute books (Your One-Year-Old, Your-Two-Year Old, etc) discusses what children typically understand about pregnancy at the following ages (and it may be much less than you really think!)
The Gesell Institute offers this wise advise: “Unless the child asks questions, best delay the announcement till the last few months…The very young child has a very different sense of time from the adult.”
It can also be very surprising to mothers who thought their children really understood everything about the pregnancy and birth to find out as their children got more verbal several years later what they really understood and remembered from the pregnancy and birth!
What Wise Mothers Have Suggested:
Read On Mother’s Lap or Dr Sears’ Baby On The Way to older child
Call the newborn “our baby”
Point out breastfeeding babies and that babies need to nurse when you see them
Take the older child to prenatal visits
Tell the older child their own birth story
Point out older siblings who are helping younger siblings when you see them
Let Dad take over some of the routines for the older child before the baby arrives….Many mothers commented to me that the children that they waited to do this with until after the baby was born seemed to feel displaced and were not accepting of this change at first….Also harder on Dad, because Dad feels unwanted by the older child whom he is trying to help and assist.
If your child develops separation anxiety during the pregnancy, go with it
Some mothers have their children watch maternity/birth shows or videos – I personally have an issue with this, but that is just my own personal opinion….Please do consider your child’s age and temperament though!
If your child is still nursing, talk about that your milk may dry up during pregnancy but the baby will bring it back (make the baby a hero :))
What Mothers Say About Including Siblings at Birth:
Write down a birth plan and figure out what you are comfortable with
Prepare your children for the physicality of birth – some children are uncomfortable with the things that happen, even older children. such as 9 year olds. You must be prepared for not only what you have in mind, but your child’s needs regarding this.
Consider your child’s age
Have a back-up plan
Have drinks, snacks, toys at the ready
Some kids celebrate by baking a birthday cake while Mom is in labor
What Mothers and Other Sources Say About Adjusting As A Family
The Gesell Institute books say, “Downplay the baby. He or she absolutely will not care.”
THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING says:
Regarding Housework:
Regarding Meal Planning:
Regarding Laundry:
Regarding Time for Other Little Ones:
Typical Areas of Challenge in Meeting Family Needs:
And every family will come up with different ways to work with these challenges that work for them, but here is a list to get you thinking:
What Wise Mothers Say:
Advantages to Being the Number Two Child or more in a family from author Nancy Samalin in her book “Loving Each One Best: A Caring and Practical Approach to Raising Siblings”:
Parents are more experienced, less uptight
There are older siblings to teach you the ropes, be your playmate
Parents are less intense and can roll with the punches more
There is more activity and fun!
I personally truly believe that giving your child a sibling is the most wonderful gift you can ever give your child! Watch your family evolve with the addition of more children and, above all, have fun and LOVE each other!!
I received this wonderful book from my sister-in-law for Christmas; it was just what I wanted. This 404-paged book written by Betty Staley is a true gem and deserves to belong on every Waldorf educators’ bookshelf. It is worth every penny! The full title is “Hear the Voice of the Griot! A Guide to African Geography, History, and Culture.”
According to the Forward of the book, the “griot” of the title refers to the “storytellers of African culture who carried the responsibility of passing on traditions by word of mouth. They were the historians, the educators of moral behavior, who held the legacy of their people and captured the imaginations of the people in the villages.” In the Introduction, Betty Staley herself expands this idea further by saying, “African have a very strong connection to the Word, to that which passes from one person to another. The griot carried that responsibility. Because African cultures have been strongly oral, word of mouth provided the lifeline of the culture. The griots were oral historians who took responsibility for keeping alive all that had been known in the time before writing. They often accompanied their recitations with the music of stringed instruments or a drum. The griot was often part of a king’s or chief’s court and told stories as part of the historical record of the people. He passed on the culture from generation to generation. More than that, the griot passed on the deepest aspects of the spiritual history of the people.”
The book is divided into seven sections as follows:
Section One –Geography
Chapter One: Longing for the African Land, Chapter Two: The Baobab and the Acacia, and Chapter Three: The Cheetah, the Hippo, The Chimp and The Ostrich.
Section Two-African History
Africa-Its People and Its History, Chapter Four: Prehistoric Africa (including a biographical sketch of Louis Leakey); Chapter Five: History of Egypt and Ethiopia (including biographical sketches of Queen Hatshepsut, Piankhy, and Frumentius, Aedesius, and Ezana); Chapter Six: Great Kingdoms of West Africa (Ghana, Mali, Biographical Sketches of Sundiate and Mansa Musa, the Songhay Empire); Chapter Seven: Islam (including biographical sketches of Ibn Battuta and Ahmed Baba); Chapter Eight: Europeans in Africa (including biographical sketches of Shaka, Ann Nzinga, Cinque) and Chapter Nine: The Awakening of National Consciousness in the Twentieth Century, including a biographical sketch of Nelson Mandela.
Section Three -Regions of Africa
Chapter Ten: North Africa; Chapter Eleven: West Africa; Chapter Twelve: East Africa; Chapter Thirteen: Central Africa; Chapter Fourteen: Southern Africa
Section Four – The Inner Africa
Ancient African Spirituality; Chapter Fifteen: The San View of Spiritual Life; Chapter Sixteen: The Bantu View of Spiritual Life and Chapter Seventeen: Ethiopia, the Seed of the Grail Impulse in Africa
Section Five – Fairy Tales, Fables, Myths, and Poems
Introduction to Section Five; Chapter Eighteen: Fairy Tales; Chapter Nineteen: Stories of Monsters and Ogres; Chapter Twenty: Fables and Myths, including Anansi Spider Man stories from West Africa, Aesop’s Fables and Yoruba Myths; Chapter Twenty-One: More Stories; Chapter Twenty-Two: Counting Rhymes, Riddles, Proverbs, and Poems (including a biographical sketch of Wole Soyinka).
Section Six – Saints and Other Holy Figures
Introduction to Section Six; Chapter Twenty-Three: Holy Men and Women including Christian Saints, Islamic Saints, and A Holy Man From African Tradition.
Section Seven – Other Aspects of African Culture
Chapter Twenty-Four: Art of Africa,including Rock paintings, sculpture, masks, textiles, and African Art Experiences in the Classroom; Chapter Twenty-Five: Music of Africa; Chapter Twenty-Six: Songs of Africa; Chapter Twenty-Seven: Games; Chapter Twenty-Eight:African Foods.
This is just a fantastic resource for all ages. There are suggestions for the teacher with every section, and suggested ages/grades for the stories and activities.
Africa is a continent I want my children to know about. I want them to be able to name the countries and understand about the different cultural groups living there. I have African friends and enjoy them and the culture they bring to my life.
What are you doing in your homeschool to learn about the continent of Africa?
Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.
Candlemas is on February 2 and celebrates the beginning of the lengthening of the days, and in some traditions is considered the beginning of spring. It is my understanding that this day is also halfway between Winter Solstice and Spring Equinox. This festival began in pre-Christian times as a Celebration of Lights and of the Celtic goddess Brigit (February 1st). Candlemas takes its name from the blessing of the candles on this day for use in the church throughout the coming year. It is also a celebration within the church of the presentation of Jesus in the Temple to Simeon and the elderly widow Anna. In the Catholic Church, I believe this is also celebrated as the Feast of Purification (of Mary). This is now also a celebration of Saint Brigid and also a time where we look to the hibernating animals to come out and see if it is winter and whether or not we will have an early Spring. This is also a traditional time of preparation of the fields for later planting.
In the book “All Year Round” by Ann Druitt, Christine Fynes-Clinton and Marije Rowling it says, “At the beginning of February, when the infant light of spring is greeted thankfully by the hoary winter earth, it seems fitting that we should celebrate a candle Festival to remember that moment when the Light of the World was received into the Temple, when the old yielded to the new.”
For children under the age of 7, the celebration of the festivals is not in the verbal explanation of the day, but the doing. An answer to a very small child’s question of why we do this or that for many festivals is just that we do! As a child approaches seven, there can be more explanation for the reasons behind things, but please do not spoil the magic and mystery of the festival by all the history.
Here are some ways that Waldorf families celebrate Candlemas:
One would be to think of goals and things you would like to see happen in this New Year together, in this time of new beginnings, as the earth becomes Spring again and do something to celebrate that.
Of course, the major activity is usually candle-making in some form – rolling candles, candle dipping, making earth candles outside in the ground and lighting them. Some families have their candles blessed on this day.
Some families celebrate by tilling a garden plot for March planting.
You could have dinner in candlelight.
Marsha Johnson over at waldorfhomeeducators@yahoogroups.com recommends making and eating fresh bread, vegetable soup or vegetable chowder and baked custards as your Candlemas meal. Recipes can be found in the FILES section of her yahoo group.
We can also offer simply made stories and poems about our friends the bees and work with beeswax and honey in some way during this festival.
In the United States, this is also of course Groundhog Day and many families celebrate by going to a groundhog day event.
Some families tell stories about Brigid or read the picture book about Brigid and her cloak. You can also search for Brigid’s crosses on-line and make those as a craft; they are very distinctive-looking.
Some families have a bonfire on this day.
These are just some suggestions I have read or heard through other families. If you celebrate Candlemas in your family, please do leave a comment and tell everyone how you celebrate this day…Help someone new to this festival get started!
Steiner looked at the stages of childhood development through seven year cycles. He further divided the first seven year cycle into three parts consisting of the ages birth through age two and a half, two and half through age five, and age five to age seven.
Steiner writes about this importance in this passage from “Soul Economy” -(my note: for those of you not familiar with “Steiner – speak”, the ether body refers to the body that maintains your life functions. It is not visible and is not composed of matter but more encompasses life processes within the body. When the ether body dies, the result is that the physical body dies as well):
“What children learn during this first two-and-a-half-year period is extremely important for their whole life. They do so through an incoming activity and from what they have brought with them from prenatal existence. Just consider how children learn to speak and walk during this first short period. These are two human faculties that are closely connected with maintaining self-confidence, both from a personal and a social point of view. These two important faculties are being developed while the ether body is still engaged in shaping the brain and radiating into the rest of the organism.”
One of the principal thoughts for the Early Years from a Waldorf Perspective is that small children under the age of 7 should be in their bodies. We want to do this not through head oriented commands in the home environment or the head-oriented verbal commands of organized sports, but through movement couched in fantasy or shown and demonstrated through imitation.
So, without further ado, here are some suggestions. Please take what resonates with you and your family. The suggestions in this post are certainly not meant as medical advice or meant to substitute for individualized plans formed by you in conjunction with your baby’s doctor or therapist if your baby has developmental challenges. This post applies to those families with infants who are developing normally, whom do not have medical problems and who were not born prematurely. For further information regarding a Waldorf approach to children with special needs, please investigate Camphill through this link: http://www.camphill.org/
For Newborn Babies: This is not so much about getting your baby into its body, but protecting the baby’s body and the baby’s senses. Lois Cusick, in her lovely book “The Waldorf Parenting Handbook” ( a great read) says this of the child within the first three years: “Parents need to defend their helpless child from an over-stimulating environment, from too many sense perceptions. Their role is to supply a protecting, nourishing nest to replace the safe peace and quiet of the womb. Quiet, warmth and nourishing mother’s milk are what babies need most when they first enter earth life.”
For Babies Who Are Not Yet Crawling (About Six Weeks to Six or Seven Months):
For Babies Who Are Crawling, Pulling to Stand and Learning to Walk (About Six or Seven Months to One Year of Age):
For Toddlers (About a Year or a Year and A Half to Two and A Half Years of Age):
For Children of All Ages-
Most of all, protect your small child from overstimulation.
Look at the visual things of beauty in the home, and how your own face is the most beautiful toy to a baby.
Think about the sense of touch and to bring different safe tactile experiences to your small child.
Think about how to bring lovely speech, songs and verses into your home.
Think about pets, gardening experiences and how to get outside in nature.
Give your child lots of chances to practice wiggling their limbs, moving to sit, manipulating objects with their hands, crawling, balancing while walking on an even surface first and then uneven surfaces.
Let your child work with pouring water, playing with sand and dirt (supervise carefully that they don’t eat all the sand and dirt, of course).
These are just a few thoughts from a Waldorf perspective regarding childhood development and what you should be doing with your child to develop these things.
Please do check out this great tutorial from my friend Catherine (and she put it in English! Thanks Catherine!!)
http://catherine-et-les-fees.blogspot.com/2009/01/nuno-felting-tutorial.html
You will enjoy seeing these creations come to life!
Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.
Note: If you have a Kindergartner, a child under the age of 7, form drawing is too awakening for your child. They do not need to start form drawing until first grade when they are seven years old. This post is for those parents who have children ages 7 and older, or for those parents who have a six-year-old and are trying to understand form drawing for the following year.
Form drawing is one of the those subjects that is very special to the Waldorf school and Waldorf homeschool environment and completely foreign to the public school environment. I have had many Waldorf homeschooling mothers tell me they do not like form drawing and this is unfortunate because it is such an important subject. In fact, I would like to convince you today that form drawing is so important there should be at least 2, but preferably 3 blocks of form drawing throughout your school year in grades one through four, and also continue form drawing once a week throughout some of your other blocks. Form drawing and numeral literacy should be a large backbone of the early years.
From the book “Form Drawing: Grades One Through Four” by Laura Embrey-Stine and Ernst Schuberth:
There are many sound reasons which support the feeling that form drawing is good for children. The simplest and perhaps most straight-forward reason is that it develops the fine motor skills as a preparation, and later a support, for writing. It strengthens eye-hand coordination, giving the eye practice at being a coachmen for the horses, the hands. Form drawing also works in the other direction: the movement of the hand also educates the brain. Furthermore, it is part of the evolution of art and, as such, develops the aesthetic sense and a feeling for form. It also teaches thinking but in a non-intellectual way; it trains the intelligence to be flexible, able to follow and understand a complicated line of thought. The more human beings are trained to think flexibly, the greater the world is strengthened in intelligence. Finally, form drawing really supports the development of the whole being of the child, guiding it in a healthy way with certain types of forms brought to the child which are appropriate for his age in the various grades.
Form drawing should be very active – it is not about putting the form on paper at first, not until the very end; it is about getting the form into the child’s BODY. The form should be expressed in an imaginative way through a small and simple story and then you do everything possible to get it into the child’s body – draw it in chalk on your driveway and walk it, hop it, skip it, walk it backwards, draw it on each other’s skin and guess which form it was, draw it in sand and in rice, draw it with both hands onto two sheets of paper taped down, draw it with a crayon between the big toes on a large piece of paper, shape it with beanbags and walk it on the floor, model it in salt dough or sand or beeswax, draw it in the air with your nose, toes, elbow or chin, build the form out of sticks if it is a form conducive to that. Then, at the very end, have the child stand and draw the form.
We followed this progression of forms so far this year:
Form drawing is a great therapeutic activity and an important component of Waldorf education. Please consider bringing it to your homeschool.
Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.
I hope everyone had a wonderful Three Kings Day. We had a terrific time finding gifts yesterday morning, having a storytelling session around the Coming of the Magi, making crowns, and having rice pudding with those secretly buried almonds for the kids to find!
My friend over at Nature’s Rhythm has this wonderful post up about their festivities, check it out and file the ideas away for next year!
http://naturesrhythm.blogspot.com/2009/01/sternsinger.html
Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.
Some mothers have asked me what to do when my child balks at our rhythm or a particular activity within our rhythm? I have several thoughts about this subject,
First of all, in general, if rhythm is new to you, start small around mealtimes and sleeping times and build up from there. It may be that your child is balking at the rhythm because there is just too much going on that is new and it is all taking place too fast. It may take several months or longer to really get in a full rhythm of the day and the week. Your seasonal rhythm may take even longer than that as you start small with festivals and then add things to each individual festival each year or even add festivals each year that you have never celebrated before.
As I mentioned above, some of this depends on age. If your child is under the age of seven, I would respectfully ask that you look to yourself first. Are you being rather ADHD about your rhythm and starting things and not finishing them before you are moving on to something else? Is there one particular activity that is problematic and is this activity one you yourself enjoys or one that you secretly dread? Your child can pick up on this feeling even if you do not verbalize it! Is it the right season to be doing whatever activity you have planned – for example, many mothers have told me they do not like to knit in summer. If this is you, it may be hard for you to teach knitting to your first grader in July! Is the rhythm so complex that you can’t even carry it? A rhythm is a gentle flow to the day of in-breath and out-breath activities. This should include more of an order, blocks of time than a minute-by-minute, play-by-play kind of schedule. So, the first place to start with a balking child is with yourself.
If your child is under the age of 7 and your child is balking about the rhythm, here are some ideas. Parents have asked me, “ What do I do when it is gardening time, and my child just won’t get their shoes on to go outside? They don’t want to garden then.”
There are no blanket answers for this per say, but here are some ideas:
For a child over the age of 7, I would think not only of these things, but also the worthiness of authority for this age group, as according to Steiner himself. Your very gesture and mood permeate the task and the rhythm and sometimes the answer to this is just working with the child’s will to complete something. This does not have to be as harsh as it sounds, but many seven and ten year olds will grumble at the prospect of doing work, but then are very proud of their accomplishments indeed if you can just help them persevere through it!
Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.
Many Waldorf mothers lament that while they know they should not use head-oriented commands with small children under the age of seven, they just are not sure how to get through the day without doing this. One way to think about this is how you could use songs and verses throughout your day for transition points. For example, instead of announcing all day long, “Now, little Jimmy, we are going to do XYZ”, you have a wonderful song or melody to do this that accompanies YOU starting to DO the physical activity. (Having small children is not to be directed from the sofa!!) Once you use the same song or verse for the same activity over and over, the child recognizes what goes with what melody.
I kept track the other day, and here are some of the ones I use with my family that we enjoy, and maybe this will give you some ideas for your own family! You will find the songs and verses that work for you!
For waking up in the morning, while I go around and open all the window shades: The song “Good morning, good morning and how do you do?” and also the song “Buenos Dias, Buenos Dias, como estas, como estas?” (sung to the tune of “Where is Thumpkin?”)
For making beds: The song “This is the way we make the beds, make the beds, make the beds, this is way we make the beds on a “XXXXXX” morning.”
For calling to breakfast and lunch – We sing the prayer “Thou Art Great and Thou Art Good” from Shea Darien’s book Seven Times the Sun.
For washing dishes: The song “This the way we wash the dishes, wash the dishes, wash the dishes” as above
For getting dressed: The nursery rhyme Diddle Diddle Dumpling, My Son John
(I also make up songs sometimes for going potty, brushing teeth or brushing hair).
For being called to start homeschool: I always call children with a made- up tune on the pennywhistle and then play whatever song is the song of the month. For example, in November I played “The Pumpkin Pie” song and my kids learned it and sung it for everyone after Thanksgiving dinner while I played. For this month we are learning the song from the play “The Snowmaiden” from “Little Plays for Puppets” book and also a song about dwarves. After singing we have a candle-lighting verse and we also use the well-known Waldorf verse that begins, “Good Morning Dear Earth, Good Morning Dear Sun.”
For quiet time: We sing one of the quiet songs out of Shea Darien’s book Seven Times the Sun
For ending quiet time: We use that wonderful folk song that begins, “Bluebird, bluebird (or whatever bird you want!) fly through my window, bluebird, bluebird, fly through my window.” It is on Pete Seeger’s CD of folk songs
Favorite verse for going outside: The nursery rhyme that begins, “The grand old Duke of York, he had ten thousand men, he marched them up a hill and then he marched him down again.”
For practical work, I do have verses for wet on wet watercolor painting, baking, handwork, gardening and housekeeping that can be found in A Child’s Seasonal Treasury,
For dinner we rotate between these two prayers:
Father, we thank thee for this food before us
Give us strength to do Thy Will
Guide and Protect Us in Your Heavenly Path
For Christ’s Sake, Amen.
or this one:
Bless this food to our use
And us to thy (continued) service
And make us ever mindful of thy blessings
Amen.
For Bathtime- Rub a Dub Dub, Three Men in a Tub
For Bedtime- Prayers (we say four prayers at night)
First we say “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep”
Then we say this one:
Matthew, Mark, Luke and John,
Bless this bed that we lie on,
Two at our head, two at our feet,
Protect us (bless us) while we are fast asleep.
Then we say a quick prayer to the archangels of St. Raphael, St. Gabriel, St. Michael and St. Uriel, (and we list what we are thankful for from the day)
And then at last we say “Our Father Who Art in Heaven”.
This is just a small sampling, and you can come up with traditional verses, songs and prayers that speak to your own spiritual/religious life. I also make up many songs on the spot and sing. My oldest thinks my voice is beautiful, which I assure you it is not, but the point is you do not have to be a great singer to do this!! It is great fun, the kids learn all of this by heart easily, and it is so much better than walking around like a play-by-play football announcer each day.
Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.