The Seven to Fourteen Year Old

There is a time to treat children one way in Waldorf, and there is a time to adjust how you treat your children as they grow older.  This is part of the Waldorf way and view of childhood development.  The hallmarks of the early years are repetition, reverence, imitation and modeling, less words, protection of the child. 

Now I would like you to read what Steiner said about the seven to fourteen year old in the lectures compiled in “The Education of the Child”:  “The development of the ether body occurs in the period from the seventh year until the sixteenth year in boys, and until the fourteenth year in girls.  It is important for the rest of a person’s life that feeling of respect and veneration are fostered  during this period…..People around the children, with whom they have contact, must be their ideals; children must also choose such ideals from history and literature……This is the age when memory, habit and character must be established, and this is achieved through authority.  If the foundation of these traits is not laid during this period, it will result in behavioral shortcomings later. “

Steiner goes on to talk about what things influence the ether body – he discusses things that “promotes feelings of health and vigor” – he cites gymnastics (not the typical gymnastics, these gymnastics were a series of specially created exercises), art – especially vocal and instrumental music,  and “most important of all is religious instruction.  Images of things supersensible are deeply imprinted in the ether body.”

Steiner said, “The task to fulfill between the ages of seven and fourteen is to create a basic set of habits and to stimulate memory development…..We form a strong memory, not by explaining all the “whys” and “wherefores”, but through authority.”    He  page 151 of the lectures compiled in “Soul Economy”:  “This sense for authority in children between the change of teeth and puberty must be respected and nurtured, because it represents an inborn need at this age.  Before one can use freedom appropriately  in later life, one must have experienced shy reverence and a feeling for adult authority between the change of teeth and puberty.”

He also goes on to say that while imitation and example are the hallmark of the early years, the years of 7 to 14 are for discipleship and authority.  Note Steiner does not say this is the age for reasoning either, because logical thought does not come in until around the age of 14 years or older.

As part of your Holy Nights meditation, meditate and ponder on this: Am I using the right tools for my child, based upon their age?  Should their world be still completely closed or should it be opening up a bit? Am I putting the cart before the horse by using more grown-up tools with my four year old?  Am I instilling reverence and authority in my ten year old?  How am I doing, and what do I  need to do to feed my child’s soul?

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Why Waldorf Makes Sense – In Kids’ Own Words

On m daughter’s birthday,  I opened up the newspaper and there was an editorial entitled, “Why teens don’t read:  English teachers ruin it”  ( I think it was a little gift to me, little signs along the path that confirm things for me, LOL).

And part of this article really caught my eye and I want to share it with you all.

(The fast background to the writing below is the statement in the editorial that says,  “The percentage of 17 year olds who read nothing at all for pleasure has doubled in the past 20 years).  So glad our educational system is encouraging strong readers who love to read. 

This editorial, written by a high school AP English teacher, states:

“Every June, when I asked my students at a previous school to write about a favorite book of the year, they mostly gushed over two: J.D. Salinger’s “Catcher in the Rye” and F. Scott Fitzgerald’s “The Great Gatsby.” For years, “Catcher” was my successful icebreaker for my juniors. 

      So imagine my dismay when “Catcher” was demoted to the eighth or ninth grade.  Apparently it wasn’t sophisticated enough for 11th-graders.  That many 17-year-olds identify powerfully with Salinger’s 17-year-old protagonist was a fact cast by the wayside.

      But here’s what a former student wrote about this book, “To my 12-year-old self, the book didn’t seem to move anywhere.  I didn’t understand why Holden couldn’t just try a little harder at school.  By tenth grade, I had been drunk for the first time.  I knew rebellion against my parents, the fakeness of social interaction.  As a reader in the eleventh grade, I grew close to Holden; he was a friend who understood me.”

       In adults’ determination to create sophisticated teen readers, we sever them from potential fictional soul mates.”

While I don’t necessarily agree with the adult experiences this tenth grader was having (!), I do understand the thought that books that come along after you have experienced life can make more sense.  Why we are trying to shove sophisticated literature down a child’s throat when they have had no experiences to even relate to it, they are not close to the age of the protagonist, is just beyond me and I feel is a symptom of our education process in which doing everything early is better.

To me, this was really a supportive editorial for Waldorf education, as Waldorf  looks at everything in relation to soul development of the child and what the child will be like as an adult.  A six year old is still a kindergartener.  A third grader going through the nine year change needs to build houses, a home for himself on Earth, and learn about the Old Testament laws as an example of authority relationships.  A fifth grader in symmetry needs to look at the symmetry in nature of plants and the Greeks…..It goes on and on.

I don’t understand why Waldorf education is not much more prevalent when it makes so much sense.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

The Healing Art of Puppetry

Puppetry is one of the things that Steiner felt was so healing for children (and I think it is healing for  adults as well, look how entranced we all become when we go to the Waldorf holiday faires and see those beautiful archetypal images in the puppet shows?).  Puppetry, to me,  is something that is so over-looked most of the time, and can have such a dramatic impact on your storytelling for your children.

The first resource I think of regarding Waldorf puppetry is the wonderful Suzanne Down’s website at www.junipertreepuppets.com.  She has a wonderful newsletter that comes out with a seasonal story and a puppetry idea.  She has three books out: Autumn Tales, Spring Tales and a puppetry around the world kind of book.  I have all of them and love them.  These gentle seasonal tales are just right for children under the age of 7, especially for the children who love nature.    You can get these books through Suzanne, and also  through the Rudolf Steiner College Bookstore.  Suzanne also has wonderful wool roving and puppetry kits that are worth ordering from her and waiting for!  It is my dream to do some longer puppetry workshops with her.  I did take a workshop with her the last time she was here in town and it was so wonderful!

There are two other resources I really like for puppetry – one is the little booklet “Plays for Puppets” , which is a little book of typical Waldorf puppet plays and the other is  Christel Dhom’s “Making Magical Fairy-Tale Puppets.”  Also, the book “Toymaking with Children” has extensive instructions for making simple silk marionettes and simple marionettes for children to use.

You can use a silk on your lap for a  simple puppetry stage like Suzanne Down and many Waldorf Kindergarten teachers do, but honestly I would eventually like to have a small platform stage built with some mountains cut out of plywood attached to the back (that way I could throw silks over them or they could be mountains) for my own home puppet shows.   ( Uh, doesn’t every Waldorf household want one of these? LOL).

I also think a very indispensible part of puppetry is music, and I love the little book “Plays for Puppets” because most of those plays do feature music that comes into the story.  The music, along with the veils of color  the silks provide, is very important in its work for the child’s soul.

As you head into the contemplation that The Holy Nights gives us all as a gift, consider how you might bring more puppetry into your circle times, your verses and songs and your stories.  The feeding of your child’s soul is well worth this effort.

Perhaps you can come along with me and what I am doing in the New Year.  I am going to work toward making the puppets for “The Snow Maiden” from “Plays for Puppets” to put on at  the end of January.  Many of you probably know this Russian tale of the older childless couple who receives a snow daughter for a bit of time, a wonderful tale perfect for these long days of winter.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Planning For Your Waldorf Homeschooling Adventure

This post is for people who are planning for adventures in Waldorf Grades One through Eight with their children, children who are aged seven and older. If your child is under the age of seven, please do hit “rhythm” and those sorts of tags in the tag box on the right hand side of this page and start there.  There are also some separate posts on Waldorf Kindergarten on this blog that may be of interest to you.

Onward to the parents of grade-school children… Mel  over at http://lovey-land.blogspot.com/  and I were talking about the necessity of planning when you are a Waldorf homeschooling mother.  The Waldorf curriculum is very multi-layered, and very hands-on with skills that you will need to master ahead of time so you can show your child.  It seems that many people within the Waldorf community these days want a pre-planned, pre-done curriculum – you know, the open and go kind of thing.   I too, adore an open and go kind of thing!  The only thing I can share, however, is that my open and go curriculum is created by myself.  I believe this is a great privilege of homeschooling that I can create and use stories that will speak specifically to my child’s strengths and weaknesses and to our family’s values.   I do have many  different books, websites and Steiner’s lectures to draw on, and I start planning early so I have time to read everything I want and digest it and meditate on it and then create my own product.  In order to do this, I have to start early…I am reading second grade material now in order to be ready with a finished second grade curriculum by September 2009.

I first take a calendar and look at the 180 days we need in our state to fulfill homeschooling law.  I mark in when our vacations may be if I know that, and I also take note of each festival and count back anywhere from 1 to 3 weeks in order to start mapping out festival preparations.  I have a separate binder for festivals that has many recipes, plays, verses and craft ideas I have collected and have ordered by festival and date of the year.  This gives me a good jumping off point so I can plan what we will do each day leading up to a festival day.

Then I take a moment to dream, to really look at the big picture for the grade and what that grade means to me.  I go back to Steiner’s lectures and read about what he says for each grade and some of the indications he gives for teaching different subjects and try to get to the heart of the matter.  This is very important as many mothers who would like to homeschool using Waldorf methods have never actually read a lecture by Steiner. Please do, it will add such dimension and clarity to your understanding of the grades and your teaching.    I think about and create goals for my children based not only on all academic areas, but also in areas such as social, character development, religious/spiritual goals, practical life, music, handwork, art,  and foreign languages.  I write those down, and  I also create goals for myself of things I want to learn and work on, and write those down.

Then  I plan out the sequence of blocks and how that might flow best throughout the year – for example, I like to start with a month of form drawing so I usually start there but then I need to map out how many math blocks, how many language arts blocks, how many science blocks.  I decide on the blocks and on what main things I would like to bring to my child.  Remember, Steiner said in one of his lectures in the book “Soul Economy”, that “The aim of Waldorf education is to arrange all of the teaching so that within the shortest possible time the maximum amount of material can be presented to students by the simplest means possible.”  This means that you are choosing things for each block to light your child’s imagination and interest, you are choosing the events that best represent a historical time period, you are choosing the most important and wonderful things your child needs to know about this subject and presenting them in an active, no textbook kind of manner.

Then I take each individual block and start writing lesson plans for each day around our daily rhythm and the notion of Head, Heart, and Hands.  Head is  Circle and Main Lesson Work.  Heart is typically outside time, hiking, wet on wet watercolor painting, music, drawing, or when our tutors come for foreign language teaching.  Hands is typically our practical everyday work (baking, gardening, etc) and handwork.  I especially look for what is the ACTIVE part of each lesson, what is the piece I can pull out to really inspire my child and make her just be enthralled with this subject? 

I also look at the three day rhythm where Waldorf education uses the aid of sleep to really learn.  For example, if I tell a story in Grade One about one of the math gnomes, then we may sleep on it after the introduction.  The next day we will re-visit the story and then  paint, draw or model something from the story and play math games in a physical manner about whatever math process the story was about.  The third day we re-visit the same story again, and provide more practice with math and then draw problems in our main lesson book and a picture of the math sign (plus,  minus, times, division sign) – this is the academic piece that is always brought in on the third day.  You can fit in another three day rhythm for the week if you introduce a story after this work is done on the third day.

So I keep all that in mind and just write day by day until the month is done.

Once the yearly plan is in my computer by month, it is easy enough to adjust it if something comes up and we need to miss a day.  I try to schedule a reasonable amount of work for each day so there is plenty of time for play, dreaming and so if we do miss a day we can easily make it up.  I am still in the early grades and consider this to be very important that these early grades are the bridge to greater academic work and excellence later on..  I know this will shift about third grade or so.

At the start of every block during the school year, I review the plans and make sure I have all the materials I need and make sure it all still will speak to my child.  I have time to be able to tweak it as needed because I did it ahead of time.

I would love to hear how other folks plan, how far ahead you plan, what works best for you.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

Learning About NonViolent Communication

Please do consider taking advantage of this fabulous opportunity:  http://nvctraining.com/

The NVC Academy can help you learn NVC within your own home via telephone or computer.  You can also pick an NVC trainer from a list and have a personal session with them.

If there is not an NVC practice group near you, this would be an excellent place to start. 

I so hope this helps someone out there.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

The Value of Being A Stay At Home Mother

I started a few thoughts on this subject at Donna Simmons’ paid subscription discussion forum,  the Waldorf At Home forum.  Donna posed the question of what the true, real or hidden value of being a mother is and it really got me thinking. (To join in on the discussion please see  http://www.waldorf-at-home.com/forums/ ).

To me,  the utmost value that a stay at home mother can provide is first of all the ability to create peace within herself, her spouse and her children and then to bring that peace into all the areas in which the mother and family  impacts society.  Stay at home mothers provide a bulk of the volunteer force for schools, religious organizations, and other service organizations, so hopefully we become a model for peace within our own homes and within our own communities.  So many people live their lives and in their homes without ever thinking about the soul of that home – how does your home feel when you are in it?  How does your family feel? Is it a warm, relaxed, pleasant place where the respect and the dignity of all are honored or is it a place of strife, tension, and yelling?

Mothers ask me all the time how they can attain this invisible positive aura within their homes, and I always say the same thing:  It starts within you.  You cannot change your children or your spouse.  All you can do is be consistent and go inward and start with yourself.  (Assuming your spouse is not  physically or verbally abusive; in these cases I cannot presume to say that only modeling will help!)……..However, if your spouse  is unsure of how to  become a de-escalator of situations and attain peace, it may take time to see changes, but the home will become a more peaceful place as you model and create this magic within your own space.  The other two things I can highly suggest is to work on everyone in the family finding a sense of humor about things and I can advocate you contact the local NonViolent Communication Group in your area – see www.cnvc.org for further details regarding better communication skills between you and your partner.

I think the second thing that we show society, hopefully, is how to live in harmony with daily, weekly and yearly rhythms; how to really have a rhythmical manner within the flow of time.  The art of daily work, of being able to be productive with our hands, for really having and showing gratitude, for being able to live simply, for being able to slow down to really prepare for holidays and festivals in a meaningful way is becoming a lost art in our society.  Hopefully we can be a model for demonstrating ways to celebrate the beauty and reverence in daily life, in ordinary tasks,  besides the more celebratory occasions.

The third important thing I think we do is to show mothers that childhood can have a slower pace than what our society is currently making it and pushing it to be and that this is of benefit to the child and to society.  Many mothers I speak to today lament the early push on academics, they lament the lack of outside time their children are participating in due to their children getting home from school and having to do homework, they lament the lack of imaginative play within their children, but yet they shrug their shoulders and continue on.  “What are you going to do?” they say, as if this progress toward the rapidity of childhood and the speeding up of childhood is something that is normal and cannot be avoided.  Perhaps we can be the light that shows others how a slower childhood has benefits for the health of our children for the long run.

To all my stay at home mothers out there, I applaud the light you are shining into the darkness of the world in this season and in this time.  Blessings to you all for  your work.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

A Great Blog to Read

 

(Sorry everyone; as of 1/2011 this link may not be working — If you know of an Islamic Waldorf Homeschooling blog, please leave in the comments below!  Thank you).

My cyberfriend Shireen Pashdadi has a wonderful series of articles on an Islamic blog.  If you ever wondered about Waldorf from an Islamic perspective, please do check out my friend Shireen’s lucid, thought-provoking writing when you have a chance to sit down with a cup of tea.  The whole blog is entitled, “See! Hear!  Speak!” and you can can get to Shireen’s articles through this link:  http://www.seehearspeak.com/?cat=10

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

What Do You Deserve?

This came across a list I am on this morning and it is such a valuable perspective to offer that I wanted to share it with everyone.  This work has been credited to Louise L. Hayes.

Deservability Treatment

I am deserving.  I deserve all good.  Not some, not a little, but all good.

I now move past all negative, restricting thoughts.

I release and let go of the limitations of my family, friends, and co-workers.

I love them, and I go beyond them. I am not their negative opinions, nor their limiting beliefs.

I am not bound by any of the fears or prejudices of the current society I live in.

I no longer identify with limitation of any kind.

In my mind, I have total Freedom.  I now move into a new space of consciousness,

where I am willing to see myself differently.

I am willing to create new thoughts about myself and about my life.

My new thinking becomes new experiences.

I now know and affirm that I am at one with the prospering power of the universe. 

As such, I now prosper in a number of was.  The totality of possibilities lies before me.

I deserve a good life. I deserve love, an abundance of love.

I deserve good health.  I deserve to live comfortably and prosper.

I deserve joy and happiness. I deserve freedom to be all that I can be.

I deserve more than that. I deserve all good.

I accept this abundant life with joy, pleasures and gratitude.  For I am deserving.

I accept it; I know it to be true.

 

Hope this provides you some encouragement in this season of the year and in this season of your life.

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.

A Letter to All Those Dads Undecided About Homeschooling

This letter was written by my wonderful husband for all the dads who are feeling rather undecided about the whole homeschooling thing.  Maybe it will help provide some thoughts for your family.

Dear Undecided Dad,

Carrie asked me to talk about this since I had many of the same concerns you have about when talking to colleagues about homeschooling.   Having worked as a Director of IT and now working as a Senior Consultant at ABC Company (a large, global company),  I understand the hidden pressure when talking with colleagues and clients and the subject of kids and school.  At first, I was very hesitant about the conversation, but as time went on, I found that people were very interested in the subject.  I never felt judged.  Usually, the conversation went like this

Friend: My kids are at XYZ academy, how about you?

Me: Actually, my wife and I homeschool our two girls.

Friend: Really? How does that work?

Me:  It actually works very well.  My wife deserves all the credit, though.  She has spent hours researching and preparing curriculum and teaching class.   One of the things we realized was that in a “typical” school, the teachers are spending time with those who are at the bottom of the class educationally and expect the others to just follow along with workbooks.   We found that by homeschooling, we can tailor the environment and get great results.  Heck, my daughter  is  reading well along with working on both German and Spanish languages and has lots of time to play outside.  Her childhood is still there while she is learning a lot!

Friend:  What about the social aspect?  Don’t you worry about your kids socially (or some variation on “is your child going to be socially stunted by homeschooling”)

Me: Interestingly enough, my wife gets out with the kids quite a bit.  Because with homeschooling, you have a lot of flexibility, my wife meets with other homeschooling mothers.  Of course, it helps that Carrie also assists a homeschooling support group in our area, but there are quite a lot of interactions.

Basically, people begin to understand that we’re not “weird” and with the noticeable wins by homeschooled kids in things like the National Spelling bees, it’s becoming more common.  I always stress how much work my wife does, and how well she does it.  I also stress that my wife and I felt that having a parent at home with the kids is important for both of us.   That can give some people a “hidden guilt” because they’ve given that up and both parents work.  We, who have chosen to have a parent stay home,  have smaller houses, older cars etc, but in the end, hopefully we have kids who enjoy learning and who are strongly connected to their siblings and to the family.. ..That’s the legacy I want!

I think, Undecided Dad, you would be surprised how many people homeschool that you don’t know about, and how interested people are when you do.

Sincerely,

Carrie’s Husband

Carrie Here:  Thanks to my husband for putting this together for the Undecided Dad! 

Just a few thoughts from our little corner of the world.

Resources for “After Schooling” Waldorf First Grade

Julie recently wrote in a comment on one of my First Grade posts regarding her first grader who is in public school.  Her oldest had been in a Waldorf school, and the public school experience was going fairly well for her first grader, but as a parent she was missing some of the beauty and depth that Waldorf brings to the educational process.  She wondered what resources were available without buying an entire curriculum to bring some of the Waldorf magic into her home. This is a great question, Julie, and I am happy to be able to give some suggestions to you and everyone else out there wondering the same thing!

First of all, I think a place to start would actually be your physical space.  To me, if my child was in public school, I would want to make a big effort to have a very special Nature Table to celebrate the seasonal changes.  A little book that may give you some wonderful ideas is “The Nature Corner” by M v Leeuwen and J Moeskops.  The other thing I would consider is to have open-ended toys available for play.  Since a school environment is fairy directed, it will be important for your child to have time to just play.  Play is the work of every young child.  A good source of ideas and how-to’s for making some open ended toys is the classic, “Toymaking with Children”, by Freya Jaffke.

Secondly, I think festival preparation would be very important for your child’s soul life, so just figuring out what festivals you would want to celebrate, gathering ideas, and then sitting down with a calendar and counting two weeks or so before the festival and writing down what you would like to do each day to prepare to celebrate is something wonderful.  A good festival book such as “All Year Round”  or “Festivals, Families and Food”.    The Wynstones series of Autumn, Winter, Spring and Summer have great verses, poems and songs to learn.  They are available through www.wynstonespress.com or other Waldorf booksellers.  The book “Earthways” by Carol Petrash could also give you some excellent ideas for seasonal craft ideas that may fit into any festival celebration.

The heart and soul of Waldorf first grade is fairy tales, so a good book with all of the wonderful Grimm’s fairy tales may make for wonderful storytelling time.   I personally enjoy the Pantheon edition of Grimm’s fairy tales as my own resource for teaching.   You could also look for fairy tales from other cultures around the world at your local library.  Please see my blog post entitled,  Great Fairy Tales for Waldorf First Grade,  for suggestions of what fairy tales may be appropriate for a first grader.  Making up your own little stories and nature tales is also so important.

Some other typical Waldorf first grade experiences would be wet on wet watercolor painting, modeling, knitting and playing the recorder, pentatonic flute or pennywhistle.  Please be on the lookout for future posts of these subjects.   They are very important tasks for soul development and also for future academic success.

Last but not least, however, I would imagine with being in a school setting all day long, your child may just need time to be when she comes home so planning lots of free play in natural areas may be a very important thing to provide for her.  Please do see the posts entitled “Fostering Creative Play”, “More About Fostering Creative Play” and “Connecting Your Children to Nature” available on this blog.

Please do look for some future posts on wet on wet watercolor painting, modeling, knitting and music in the home.  These are the wonderful things that make the world go round.

If you have questions or topics you would like me to address, please do leave a comment in the comment section.  I am open to helping and encouraging you in any area you have doubts about!

Just a few thoughts from my little corner of the world.