You can only give people the amount of access to you that they have proven to be responsible with.

Read that again.

If someone is very irresponsible with your feelings, with your time, with your memories and stories, with how they treat your character and what they say about you when you are not together, then their access to you should be limited (or completely cut off).

If someone is truly caring and responsible with you, your feelings, your time, your memories and stories, with how they treat your character and what they say about you when you are not together, then their access to you is completely warranted.

Too many times we give away our power, our feelings, to people who really don’t deserve as much access to us as we thought they did. It is important to recognize that people are uniquely complicated, and they may have underlying motives that you know nothing about. This can include acquaintances and friends, but also family members.

Do not keep giving access of yourself to someone who makes you miserable, who makes you feel small, who makes you feel unworthy.

Find and surround yourself with people who love you, who understand you, who care about you, who lift you up and help you strive to be an even better version of yourself.

Accessibility and responsibility are equivalent. You deserve the very best, and it is out there for you.

Blessings and love,

Carrie