I had a dear friend the other day liken her year to being a “monsoon year.” I can relate to that – some years are like that, I have found and I really love that analogy of how just sometimes its overwhelming.
Some monsoon years our partners stand with us and help us find the sunshine in the monsoon. But, sometimes it is just enough to have a partner stand with us in the monsoon and know that honestly, there is no sunshine coming right now.
Sometimes a person helps us steer the boat in the monsoon and all we can do is just try to hang on through it, exhausted and tired.
Sometimes people jump out of the boat while we are in the monsoon, leaving us alone to come out through the trials and tribulations, but stronger on the other side.
Monsoon years can be hard.
They can be terrible, and feel never-ending.
They can be overwhelming even if they are not wholly terrible – sort of the “I am dancing as fast as I can” spot.
But I can tell you the one thing about monsoon years –
You come out different than you were.
You mature and gain some wisdom and some empathy for yourself and others, if you let yourself.
If you feel yourself growing bitter just because life has been unfair (it often is), you have to do the work, pull yourself up, because it’s probably time.
If someone left you in your time of need, know that there will be other people. Wonderful people. Know that love is there and around and on its way to you. Know also, that in long term relationships, marriages, partnerships, and parenting, rocky points happen. It’s fairly inevitable. The question is what you choose to do with it.
If you are having a monsoon year, I am sending you love. It’s hard, but it will end. It will get better and you are doing a great job with where you are right now in this moment.