When I came back from the Waldorf Homeschooling Conference, which was held March 8-9 in the Atlanta area, I wrote a post about owning it. I got some great feedback on that post, and families who are hungry to have a more peaceful life, a more satisfying homeschooling experience, a better outlook as a family are wondering HOW to do it.
These are the easiest ways I can think of to own your life
Figure out your goals. Sometimes this is easier said than done. If your goal is nebulous, like increased family peace, I think you need to think about what parts of the day are not peaceful? Which child is derailing the peace? Are you derailing the peace with your own reactions? If you can really break it down, then you can set goals to really address the smallest and easiest steps that would have the biggest impact.
Ask yourself, what is the ONE thing I can do today toward my goal? If you have a bigger, overarching goal, it may be that you can break it down into five baby steps and then you have five things you could do to address those baby steps – but most of us can’t do five things in one day! We can pick one thing and work towards that one thing, and then move on to another baby step and finally all the baby steps are conquered and the goal is within reach.
Check where you are. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I am exhausted from life and I need to be very careful about what goals I set, how I intend to address them, and the timing of everything. Sometimes I need to pick a different time to start or to give myself a lead in period to build up when to start the baby step for my goal.
Find accountability. If there is another adult in the house, maybe that person can be your accountability partner. If not, find a friend who will support you or someone also trying to accomplish the same type of goal. Check in with each other, and encourage each other!
You might need to put money in the game, and you will definitely need to put time in the game. That’s just the reality. I talk to parents all the time who want to improve their marriage, but they don’t want to spend money on counseling, dates, babysitting (but admit they are getting nowhere fast on their own without any of that), or homeschooling parents who want everything laid out for their homeschooling adventure but don’t want to spend any money on a consultation or resources. Not everything takes money but the reality is that some things do. Decide for yourself what you need to invest in, how much your investment should be or can be, and if it is an absolute and essential priority how you will get it done with the schedule you have today and the budget you have today or what you can change to meet your goal.
I love this season of renewal, and to me it is the jumping point for reaching some new goals – I would love to hear your goals around parenting and homeschooling. Let’s share and support each other!
Blessings and love,