So, one of the books I have been reading lately is “Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing The Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Are Meant To Be” by Rachel Hollis. In Chapter Two, entitled, “The Lie: I’ll Start Tomorrow,” the author writes that when we care about commitments, we do it when we said we would do it. She takes this scenario and talks about if you had a friend that constantly flaked ou on you, and never showed up when you made plans, or this friend started something new constantly but never followed through…well, you probably wouldn’t respect this person very much.
And yet, how often do we do this to ourselves? How often are we the first one to break our own promises to ourselves?
Yes, I promised myself I would go run today but the day is nuts and everyone needs me.
Yes, I promised myself I wouldn’t eat crazy around the holidays but there is so much good food and I am kind of stressed.
Yes, I promised myself I would get together with that friend just for adult-only coffee but now everything is so busy.
Yes, I promised myself I would start inner work and would meditate and pray but I just can’t get up early and do that and then there is no time.
Yes, I started exercising but I did it three days in a row and I can’t just continue.
This also applies to homeschooling. How many times have you said:
I don’t have time to plan.
I don’t have time to learn how to do that art stuff.
I don’t have time to be home and do all these little cooking and craft things for my Early Years children.
I can’t teach high school subjects.
I can’t teach mulitple children.
Accountability is a hard thing. Get a friend or your partner to be your accountability partner. Put your goals into writing. Set those simple subgoals and do them each day without fail. If it gets rough and you want to bail on yourself, call your accountability partner.
Show your children that you have discipline too. How can we expect our children to follow through and not be lazy when we never show them one personal goal that we have set and met? Older children love nothing more than cheering on their parents to accomplish great things!
But most of all, learn how to go through your roadblocks and keep going. Nearly everyone can start something, (or say they are going to start something!) but very few can finish it. In order to do this, you will need to SLOW DOWN on your outside commitments. Your own inner commitments come first, your family life at home comes next, and then whatever outside crazy there is.
And you might be saying, but Carrie, you don’t know my life.
Maybe not, but I sure know mine. Having teenagers in the house is the busiest season of all. Busier than the tiny stage. More emotionally draining. Planning on all levels is a MUST. If I don’t plan, I won’t make it. If I don’t set realistic goals and write it down, block out the time daily, talk to my accountability partner, and get going, it will never happen for me.
If you want to share what you are working on for you, please comment in the box below. Let’s all support each other! I will be cheering you on, and can’t wait to see you meet your goal!
Blessings and love,