Connection is the heart of what it means to be human. Connection is what enables us to know ourselves deeply and to live into our own needs and values. There can also be connection to a significant other ; connection to our children; connection to other family and friends in community; connection to nature and connection to the Creator and Creation.
So often this is the first thing that seems to get lost in the mad shuffle. It can be easy to disconnect from ourselves – people do it all the time with drugs and alcohol, screens, food, and sexual and other addictions. It can be easy to disconnect from our children as well. Some level of benign neglect is healthy, I think, but there also has to be where a child feels heard and understood and part of the family and that the child feels secure and stable so they can grow forth on their own journey from this stability. And stability comes from parents who address and heal their own wounds as well.
Sometimes people have asked me how to begin with these matters of the heart. They will ask what to do with Waldorf Education for their children because they don’t believe in God. I ask them what do they believe in, and how can they go from there? What do they truly know? One of the biggest tenets I think is that we cannot show our children that the world is a good place and that people are good if we ourselves do not believe that. There is a time and a place to understand the reality (and sometimes horrors of the world), but small children desperately need to know stability, love, connection, and goodness. They need to see the goodness of the world, however we find it, through our eyes.
And often, when we are in despair and in our darkest moments, we need to know about that goodness as well. That longing for goodness never disappears completely. Start small so we can bring that to the next generation for our world.