Is within your reach. Is not only possible and plausible, but waiting for you. It begins with you.
Peace begins with feeling physically, emotionally and spiritually strong. I see so many beautiful mothers who really neglect their health until something happens, and they know they HAVE to start making home cooking, menu planning, sleep, exercise, health appointments and other things necessary for them to enjoy good health because within it, their family cannot thrive! If you are homeschooling or have stay at home children, putting these things as part of the rhythm is so important , along with the “how” – who will watch the children whilst you cook 20 freezer meals? Who will watch your children if you go for a walk or do yoga, etc? The “how” is as important as the “when”.
So many mothers are running on empty emotional tanks or still working on their baggage from their own childhood and childhood memories. Parenting small children often brings these sorts of memories, feelings and triggers alive. You can learn how to handle your triggers – your anger or anxiety, your own sadness even at your childhood – and not bring that into another cycle of emotional challenge for your own children. I highly recommend family and marital counselors; many will work on a sliding scale. I also recommend finding what fills your tank outside and apart from parenting as investing even just a little time in this area will fulfill you in such strong ways. What is your dream? For some it is begin home with children. For some that is is not all of their dream, but certainly part of their dream. And the vision and dream can shift over the years – as we get older, into our later 40s and 50s – it seems to me that it becomes more important to have something to call our own as our own children grow up.
Spirituality is another area that many people seem to neglect or have little interest in…and yet the pull to the Divine Creator, I think is normally there and at some point this pull becomes a stronger and more intimate place than perhaps it had been before. Some people experience a spiritual crisis where their entire belief system changes. For some mothers, a belief system doesn’t have anything to do with religion, but it could.
When you are feeling on track yourself, you have the energy to deal with the things in your own home, and then you have the energy to deal with things outside of your home. It seems to move in concentric circles of influence, so to speak.
I would love to hear your plans for the New Year to begin with peace for you so it can extend into and weave throughout your whole family. Let me know what you are up to! What is your biggest priority for your own peace this year?