Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: constancy . Read on for more…
There are two ways I like to think of constancy in relation to discipline, and parents feeling even-keeled. One is the constancy of being together. One mother remarked the other day that since she pulled her child out of school and started homeschooling, they actually were getting along a lot better then they had before. There was a lot less yelling in their home. I think this is because constancy of the heart matters, and it is the heart of discipline and it is the heart of connecting and being together. You don’t have to yell if you are relaxed and feeling joyful and as if things are going well. These feelings come from being connected to those in your family, and I think yelling is actually a sign to pull our children in, to focus on our homes instead of the typical reaction of pushing away.
The other way I like to think of constancy is in how consistent we are being with following through. Many mothers get upset and say they end up yelling because they asked the first five times and no one appeared to listen. If you want to make a request, be constant in the follow through of walking up to your child, getting down and looking in your child’s eyes, and talking softly and respectfully. That is constancy in communication at its best.