We are continuing our exploration of Elizabeth Pantley’s “The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrum or Tears.” Pick up a copy at the library or your local bookseller and follow along!
I know many gentle parents who wouldn’t love this first sentence of the section “Building A Strong Foundation”: “This book is about how to live everyday life with your children in a controlled yet loving and joyous manner.”
Control, and anything that smacks of authority can be really difficult for parents to accept these days. I think if it helps you, I consider the author’s use of the word “controlling” more akin to discovering the values that make your family unique and reflecting those values in the limits you set as parents to make your home a harmonious one. We had a series of fruitful back discussion on authority some time ago, and I link here for you to review: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/12/02/re-claiming-authority-part-one/ and here: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/12/05/re-claiming-authority-part-two/
One of the main concepts from this chapter to take away is “The Big Picture is More Important Than Any One Action”. If we have over 100,000 hours to connect and love our children before they are off living their own lives, then all of these hours are not going to be blissful and peaceful, but there should be a sense of joy and love and delight for our children. Continue reading