Finding Center

I am busy reading “A Beginner’s Guide to Constructing The Universe:  The Mathematical Archetypes of Nature, Art, And Science” by Michael S. Schneider.  This is a fabulous read, especially for those of you homeschooling fifth graders and up in the Waldorf tradition, where the child moves from movement and form drawing to freehand geometry into geometry with tools.

I was re-reading the first section of the book, on the circle and the number one, and came across this passage:

“Nothing exists without a center around which it revolves, whether the nucleus of an atom, the heart of our body, hearth of the home, capital of a nation, sun in the solar system, or black hole at the core of a galaxy.  When the center does not hold, the entire affair collapses.  An idea or conversation is considered “pointless” not because it leads nowhere but because it has no center holding it together.”

I think parenting is learning how to revolve around our center, and how to find our center again if we loose it.  If our center is kindness, gentleness and self-control, then we have a center to return to in the moment (  We also then have a center to set our long-term vision around in terms of what drives the decisions in our family.

However, there is another very real and important reason to find our center:   If what we do and say becomes the inner voice of our children as adults, why not practice now?

Say these critical things to your child:

You are so strong.

You are so helpful.

I love you.

Thank you.

I know you can do this.

I am proud of you.

More importantly, show your child that they belong in your family.  That they make you laugh.  That they make you happy and make you  feel joyous.  Give them a smile, a hug, a kiss.  Tell them they are a precious treasure.  Because they are.

And you are too. If you are feeling dragged down, and lower than low about your parenting, your mothering, your life, please fight against those thoughts.  Some of the Early Church fathers had an idea about thoughts such as these; they called them logismi in Greek.  Thoughts that are not beautiful or joyous , helpful or kind are not from the Divine Source.  Don’t let them take you over.  Don’t wallow in them.

Find your center, find your joy again.  Work is a huge help in this.  Meaningful work for ourselves, our children.   A huge part of the Waldorf curriculum, outside of the art and the movement, is work.  Within Waldorf homeschooling, we learn practical skills,  we learn how to do things with our hands to help our family and to help our neighbor.

Find your center of kindness.  Your children can help you work and nurture your home, they can work and help make something for a member of your community who needs it.

You are so strong.

You are so kind.

You are such a good mother.

You make great decisions for your family.

You bring joy to those around you.



16 thoughts on “Finding Center

  1. Your notes are so filled with grace and love – Thank you.
    I am always excited to integrate what you share with my family.

  2. Thanks for the thoughts about this book. It’s been on my amazon wishlist, but I haven’t heard/read anything about it from anyone, really. Thanks for the input!

  3. I love reading your posts….always so timely and exactly what I need!!! Thank you for your thoughts and inspiration.

  4. Thank you for this: ” Thoughts that are not beautiful or joyous , helpful or kind are not from the Divine Source. Don’t let them take you over. Don’t wallow in them.” I really needed to hear that right now.

  5. I have read this entry 4 times already. Thank you very much, your words have travelled quite far and has made all the difference. God bless.

  6. Hi Carrie. This isn’t related to this post but that’s exactly the point. I can’t find a post of yours that had a link to another blog. The post was about the nurturing arts. One of the things that I remember besides the beautiful photographs was that the woman had a child and also took care of 1 or 2 children. She had a little trick to get the kids to cooperate during hand washing: magic drops which were actually lavender oil. Does this ring a bell. I loved the post and thought I saved it but can’t find it.

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  8. Hi Carrie! I love the idea of having a “center.” Thank you for these thoughts, and thank you for the book recommendation. I had not heard of it. XXOO Rachel

    • Rachel, I read your geometry post as well….this book may be helpful, as well as the children’s picture book, What’s Your Angle Pythagoras?

      thinking of other resources for you…

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