In Part Five of this series on rhythm, we looked at the number one challenge toward establishing rhythm: going out too much and saying “yes” to too many things outside the home. Today, I want to tell you THE SECRET about having a successful rhythm.
It is getting out of your own way.
Release your anxiety and your fears. Parent after parent after parent that I talk to who have homeschooled children who have graduated from homeschool say their children were well-prepared for college and for life, no matter what method the parent chose to homeschool! Amazing and true! I see so many mothers who are worried, anxious and joyless in their parenting and homeschooling, and this is what the children see! Don’t be wishy -washy and uncertain; fearful and scared!
Take the bull by the horns! Be confident! Get your ho-hum on, and jump in where you are! If you “fall off the routine bandwagon” jump back on where you are that moment. It takes time to get a rhythm that works. Commit to it as a forty day project.
Your parenting may not be perfect! Your homeschooling may not be perfect! Mine isn’t; I make so many mistakes and things could always be done differently – but you know what? I have an overall sense that my children are going to be JUST FINE.
And in my weak moments, where I feel like something is not going to turn out well, or I start coming from a place of fear, I get down on my knees and pray. And after I do that, I call a friend when my children are not around to overhear, and get a well –deserved pep talk. I talk to my supportive spouse and surround myself with positive thinkers.
But most of all, become a positive thinker yourself. Your children need to see that mistakes do not define who you are; they are only gateways and doorways to improvement and understanding.
There are no guarantees in parenting or homeschooling; you do what you can do. Have some fun and act confident. Make decisions, stick to them, change what is not working, quit talking so much and DO.
Many blessings on your journey toward rhythm as a basis of joy in your home,