Life can be downright busy, no matter how simple we want it to be. No matter how simple we try to make it, the more people one has in a household, the more pets one has, the more community and obligations one has, the busier it can become.
And you can still love every minute of it and thrive in it.
My life, as many of you who personally know me, can get rather busy. Sometimes it is my life that needs to be de-cluttered, not my things! I fully admit to having a hard time saying no to things at church, or to friends who need something, or to my neighbors. But the older I get, the more I realize how much I love community, how much I enjoy gathering those I love together and connecting those who I think really ought to meet each other for this reason or that. And, the older I get, I get better at setting limits and seeing how things balance out.
It all can’t be perfect. One cannot homeschool well, have the house be spotless, cook every single thing perfectly, have all the errands done, have a social life, have the children do things, and all the other things on the list. It just can’t happen, and I think we could all end up having nervous breakdowns trying to do it all…
So, I try to remind myself about seasons, in both the literal and more symbolic sense. In a very literal way, I tend to have a busier autumn, a calmer winter, and a bit of a step up in activity from winter to spring. I try to keep summer pretty calm in keeping with the sultry heat! This year my oldest daughter will have rhythmic gymnastics through the Winter, and we won’t be stopping, so it may not be as calm as in previous years…I shall see what that will bring!
And some seasons do last for years. The season of small children lasts for years, but really is a short time. We always joke (and are half serious as well) in Waldorf Education that the “pink bubble” of kindergarten only lasts for those early years and then off we go! The seasons of not sleeping through the night, nursing, and all those things only last a bit.
The way we connect to our family, the way we guide our children – well, those things last throughout a lifetime and leave a legacy.
Every family has choices – choices about activities, about how they speak to one another, how they show care and nurturing for each other – no matter how busy things are. We can take the larger picture of life and see that seasons really can balance each other out, whether it is busy and calm seasons of the year or the small dependent child and the older more independent adolescent.
Every child brings surprises in personality, temperament, gifts.
There are moves.
There are changes in career.
We grow and change ourselves. Thank goodness for that!
Keeping that big picture in mind as we dance to find the mid-point,