Love Is A Verb

I am sure you have all heard this notion before:  that love is often more an action than a feeling.  To be loving, even to be “in love”,  we have to act loving and then the feeling of love comes.

How are you putting love into action in your home?

Love is picking up and soothing that infant for the millionth time when you really wish they would just go to sleep.

Love is being kind to your child even though they just answered you flippantly.

Love is making time to spend with your spouse at the end of a long day even though you are tired.

Love is being patient when you don’t feel like being patient, and being kind when you don’t feel like being kind.  How you do this in your home really influences the tone of your home and the behavior of the small child who not only imitates you, but looks to you to see how you react when things are not going well.

How do you react when you make a mistake?

How do you react when someone is behaving poorly?  Not doing what you want them to do?  Are you the person who escalates things or de-escalates things in stressful situations?

How do you calm things down and make things more peaceful than when you found them?

How do you leave your little corner of the world better than it was before?

It is hard work, but the wonder of it all is in the striving.  It is truly not about being perfect.  There is no perfect mother, no perfect home, no perfect road to success,  no perfect way.  There is only a loving mother, a nurturing home, a middle road, and a thoughtful way. 

Many blessings,



12 thoughts on “Love Is A Verb

  1. “There is no perfect mother, no perfect home, no perfect road to success, no perfect way. There is only a loving mother, a nurturing home, a middle road, and a thoughtful way.”

    Oh, Carrie, you are so right. Thank you for sharing this today – I have a feeling many moms are going to be encouraged by these words today. I know that I am 🙂

  2. leaving my corner of the world better than it was before…what a lovely thought and inspiration for my day…


    i have an unrelated question:
    my husband and i are discussing important subjects to emphasize with our six and half year old this summer (he’s in public school and has had a terrific teacher this year). my husband always just says “reading” and i find myself getting really riled up about it as our son already reads well above his grade level. i think there are other areas that are as beneficial if not more to build up in him this summer during the school break.

    and as i myself try to more clearly put into words what those things are in this continued discussion with my husband, i thought i’d ask for your input. surely you have some thoughts on this.

    thanks:). blessings back to you,

  3. Amy-
    Oh goodness, I am not certain my answer will please anyone, LOL! In Waldorf Education and I think in this day and age where we put much accelerated academics on children, I think it is vitally important to take summers OFF. I actually think his academic skills will grow leaps and bounds if you let him swim, take him berry picking and can a few things, hike, go places, build, ..yes, read to him, let him read to you, let him count out how many napkins at dinner, roller skate, get him rolling down hills and looking for worms, garden — all those hands-on experiences that will make not only academics but the family unit and bonding richer, all those experiences that give meaning to the ones we read about in books. All those experiences that end up leading to common sense than just book smarts..
    Just a few thoughts and many blessings to you and your family,
    Carrie 🙂

  4. Hi Carrie

    First, I sooo agree with your answer to Amy.
    And thanks for the lovely post. I have seen the difference in my house when I am lovingly patient and calm, it does deescalate a situation. And so much to reflect on leaving my little corner of the world better than it was before.

  5. hi carrie,
    i have been reading your blog for a little while now and just want to express how grateful i am to you for sharing your wisdom. i have learned so much, deepened my understanding of waldorf homeschooling and received much to meditate on in my own inner work. thank you so much! you have an uncanny way of posting something that is always *just* what i need after a challenging day at home with my 3 busy boys.
    many blessings~

  6. I have been reading your lovely blog for a while now.
    Your insightful posts always give me something to ponder on.
    It is so true that children imitate us. How we react to lifes ups and downs will impact our children’s own coping mechanisms.
    They will always do what we do more than they will ever do what we say 🙂
    As a family we bond through shared experiences and relationships, thanks for the inspiration to make those experiences and relationships richer and more rewarding.

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