Hoo-boy, don’t you hate it when you see titles like this in a magazine and you read it and think, “Yeah, right! Some pithy little piece that will never change my life!”
I think those things as well when I see titles like these, so I cannot believe I am embarking on a series like this as well! Interestingly enough, this blog has MANY new readers (hi there, new readers!) In fact, this blog is getting anywhere from 650-800 hits a day now, which is really amazing to me. I feel very humble about the whole thing, how this has grown from a tiny little thing just about a year ago to now! Thank you to all of you! I so enjoy hearing from all of you and your thoughts, and walking with you. You all know my theory that as mothers we should not have to re-invent the wheel and walk this path alone!
So, in that spirit, I would like to offer you the next 20 days to round-up some of the fundamental things I believe about childhood development, realistic expectations, inner work, spiritual homemaking and Waldorf. I hope it will be fun for all of us!
So, without further ado, let’s dive into Day Number One: Inner Work. (I hear the groans; you all just KNEW I was going to say that, didn’t you??)
So, for the next 20 days, I want you to commit with me that you will start some form of inner work for yourself for ten minutes a day.
In the past we have looked at Family Mission Statements here: https://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/05/08/creating-a-family-mission-statement/
but what I was thinking about in this part is that perhaps some of you would be interested in creating Your Very Own Personal Mission Statement as part of this daily time. Grab some paper and a pencil and jot down some answers to these questions:
What do you feel called to do and to be?
What are you passionate about?
What were you passionate about before you had kids?
What are two strengths that you have?
How could you use these two strengths?
How does your homemaking and raising a beautiful family fit into doing something for the rest of the world?
What are the things you model for your children that you are most proud of?
If you had to name three things that are your top values, what would they be? Here is a pretty long list of different values to choose from: http://www.timethoughts.com/goalsetting/ListOfSampleValues.htm
Stephen Covey is well-known for his approach to personal, family and business management through mission statements. Here is a link to his website: https://www.stephencovey.com/mission-statements.php
Of course, inner work can also be seen from a different view than just mission statements. Many people consider inner work to be the work that increases their sense of calmness, centeredness, peacefulness. For some people this means living in the moment without judgment as to their own feelings, for some people this includes meditation practices, yoga, tai chi, walking or developing their inner life through art. Many families find increased personal development through a specific religious path and prayer.
There are several other things often mentioned with inner work. One of these is the concept of self-forgiveness and forgiveness in general and the other is meditating on the child. I think these are important as well, and will include these in later blog posts for a complete focus.
The other piece of inner work to mention is the work one does with one’s own spirituality. Many people these days do not seem to have strong religious or spiritual beliefs. I heard some statistics somewhere, I cannot remember where at this point, that stated approximately 15 percent of the US population now has no religious affiliation at all, and almost 2 percent of the US population is now atheist. I am sure if one looked at people who said they believed in something higher than themselves but had no structured religious or spiritual practice, the number would be high.
I encourage you as part of your inner work during the next 20 days to explore where spirituality, religion and your beliefs in these areas come into play in your life and in what you model for your children. Many children come into wanting answers regarding something higher than themselves around the age of nine or ten year, and demonstrate wanting to be a different religion than what they are or wanting to experience something religious or spiritual if that has not been a part of their upbringing. These are questions to think about now so you can provide the best guidance for your child during these times.
That completes some thoughts for Day Number One!
Happy pondering, and most of all, happy DOING! Make your commitment, pick a time of the day and stick to it! I will be waiting to hear your progress!