What Are The Benefits of Rhythm In The Home?

I am getting ready to give a talk next Saturday regarding a peaceful family life as supported by rhythm, and today I wanted to highlight this portion for all of my readers near and far to meditate upon:

What Are The Benefits of Rhythm In The Home?

· Gives children a sense of security

· Rhythm can calm a high-needs, anxious, nervous or difficult child

· Children can see the tasks of daily life as process from beginning to end

· Once children have external rhythms, they then develop internal rhythms for eating, sleeping

· Helps the child focus their energy on play and growth and balance as opposed to wondering when the next snack time will be or when bedtime is

· Rhythm helps maintain a person or child’s strength for daily tasks

· Connects a child to nature

· Provides a structure for a child that is neither boring nor over-stimulating; provides a balance

· A True Help in Loving Guidance – because children are so centered in their physical bodies and in imitation, rhythm becomes a real help in avoiding arguments

· Helps children become helpers in the home and in life by building in times for setting up and cleaning up activities within the rhythm; this helps calm nervous and difficult children

· Rhythm helps the adults of the family build up their own self-discipline so we can model this to our children

· A rhythm helps a child feel certain that their needs will be met

· A rhythm is a vital piece in establishing for young children that there is a time for all things

· Rhythm helps parents not only with self-discipline but with enabling the energy of the house to flow smoothly and to support the needs of everyone in the entire family, not just one child or the children

· A disorganized life is not truly free!

I encourage you all to think and meditate on this; start small!  The day starts with the night before, so perhaps thinking about bedtime would be a good place to begin.

Many blessings,

Carrie

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11 thoughts on “What Are The Benefits of Rhythm In The Home?

  1. i completely agree with the thoughts you voice. well said – however, i face challenges creating this in our lives – my husband works shift work (for a newspaper) that changes weekly, daily – we often never know even up to a day in advance whether he’ll be working day or night shift – (so some days he sleeps in, some days his alarms wake us all up) – and dinner always is a different time… we have a nice bedtime routine, but struggle with anything resembling a daily or weekly schedule beyond that (as the lack of weekend, and alternating days off) challenges me as well. any advice?

  2. Lately I’ve found that my boys actually seem a little confused on weekends. We have a very regular daily and weekly rhythm that we all thrive on, but weekends are different. I’m working on incorporating a few more “rituals” to prepare them for the weekend transition, but it’s a little challenging because our weekends are different – sometimes we’re hiking, sometimes we’re home, sometimes we have family staying with us, sometimes we’re doing projects in the house, those kinds of things.

  3. Thank you for all these lovely reminders, I think you are spot on! I also find that rhythm helps ME to feel more calm and present with the kids. If I know when it is time to play and when it is time to clean, etc., I can relax into the day and really BE with my children. It’s a work in progress, though! :)

  4. Carrie, I originally found your blog by putting “rhythm and waldorf” into my search engine. It was last February and rhythm has continued to be a theme for our family, and for me as the one who really sets the rhythm. This doesn’t come naturally to me, but I find I crave it. The whole notion of rhythm is just more complete than a schedule or to-do list, which just never worked well for me. And all the benefits you list here are spot on…at least in our experience. So, thanks! I’m still working on it, but little by little, more peace is coming into our home and each of our lives.

    oh, and I struggle too with the weekends. we all seem a bit off kilter, so I have also been working on that issue.

    blessings, amy

  5. I keep thinking on this topic, and for me, rhythm is whole and balanced and is so opposite from being tied to the clock and having only so many minutes to do any one task, rushing always from one thing to the next. Considering my day as a rhythm and my weeks and the months centers me. We’re reading Farmer Boy right now at night, by Laura Ingles Wilder, and I can’t help but yearn for the stability that my boys and I seem to feel even through the pages of the rhythm of their lives. It was very connected to the work of their hands and not to shopping endlessly in stores, driving in cars, working on computers. It is giving me much to think and chew on as I so very much do live in the land of cars and computers and in a city for heaven’s sake!

  6. I’m a little bit uncertain about how to develop a post pre-school rhythm for my four 1/2 year old and myself. Mostly we come home and play, go for a wallk, dinner, etc. Sometimes we have play dates. How specific should it be? Do i tell my child at breakfast how that day what is planned? What if she objects?
    Thanks,
    Beth

    • Hi Beth,
      Rhythm is not normally announced, but the child absorbs it because it is the same every day or the same that day of the week. You can use a song, an action, a verse as a transition.
      You may want to have a weekly rhythm for playdates and otherwise the adventure for the afternoon is outside play.
      Does that help or make it clear as mud?
      Many blessings,
      Carrie

  7. I like this post because it affirms for me how important the rhythm we have come to subconsciously expect really and truly works for our family. I put a lot of effort into making a rhythmic day, week and season for my three children. It allows my children the ability to anticipate endings and ease into the next activity with little or no difficulty. Also, I find that I am such a creature of habit that I thrive on rhythm. Our household is a busy one and if I have things organized and planned, with room for flexibility, then we are a happier household. Yes, Carrie, rhythm is so important and stabilizing, and doesn’t have to be rigid. Thank you for this post!

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