The winters of 2012-2013 and the 2013-2014 could be particularly frigid, according to some reports. (Here is one I was looking at: http://www.accuweather.com/en/weather-news/combination-of-factors-could-m/36990).
This is also the time of year when many mothers, especially homeschooling mothers, find themselves in the throws of trying to homeschool, bake, cook, craft, make gifts, visit family and travel…and essentially overextend themselves and get sick on top of all the holiday bustle! Many homeschooling mothers I know seem to have long-term health issues that affect their immune systems, which really doesn’t help as well!
One of the first things that I find helpful is to make sure warmth becomes a priority. I love Green Mountain Organics, and I notice they are having a 10 percent off sale on all their warm woolens. http://www.facebook.com/notes/green-mountain-organics/winter-woolen-sale/166623896683512. If you are unfamiliar with the importance of warmth, this back post may be helpful to you: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/12/06/warmth-strength-and-freedom-by-mary-kelly-sutton/
Rest is another huge priority; and I think rest extends even past going to bed every night at a decent hour. I think it also requires Continue reading
I absolutely love the book, “Connecting With Young Children: Educating The Will”, by Master Waldorf Kindergarten teacher Stephen Spitalny. (If you have not read this book, I really think you should. Here is the link for it: http://www.amazon.com/Connecting-With-Young-Children-Educating/dp/1105320820/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1351371198&sr=8-1&keywords=connecting+with+young+children+educating+the+will. It is chock full of wonderful thoughts for the self development of the adult, how to guide small children, and yes, how to work with and shape the will forces of the young child.)
Mr. Spitalny begins his book with this paragraph: Continue reading
I talk to mothers every, every day who are just plain overwhelmed. They are single or their partners travel, they don’t have a community to lean on, their children are small, they are juggling so many things.
And when you are overwhelmed, you constantly feel scattered. Disorganized. Like there is not enough time. Perhaps you feel enmeshed with one particular child and out of balance in dealing with the needs of all of your multiple children.
I can only write these things as I have lived these things. Life is not perfect, and parenting small children is not for the faint of heart.
The place to start, is yourself. You are the key to your own overwhelm! Continue reading
We must love our children enough to do what is right for them. This includes our own ability to control ourselves, to display our own self-discipline, our own evenness in times of stress, our own self-equilibrium.
Working on your own emotional boundaries is so important. Continue reading
One of the other topics that I have sincerely thought and pondered during this move is that of the overwhelmed mother. Not the mother who is experiencing chronic anger (which I have written about before ), but the mother who is just overwhelmed. Continue reading
I wrote a variation on this post for my homeschooling group list, but thought the topic was important enough to share, so here are some of my thoughts on this topic for my readers here at The Parenting Passageway…
Many of us are attracted to Waldorf Education because we ourselves are in need of healing, and also because we want our children to have childhoods that they do not have to recover from. (Sometimes, in my darkest moments, I fear for our nation because I worry the next generation will be too busy healing from their own childhoods and their own troubles and will not be strong enough to tackle the problems of the “other” within their communities—if we can only take care of ourselves, how can we hope to help with issues of peace, justice, education and more? Just an aside note and digression…)
Sometimes we come to Waldorf Education with things that have helped buffer us against the world in the past: sharp words, quick and sarcastic wit, a “I will get them before they get me” kind of attitude, our misguided attempts at communicating whilst still protecting our own woundedness from the possibility from any further assault….
And then we enter the world of Waldorf Education; this beautiful lazured land of natural toys, gorgeous handwork, learning how to live a practical life, how to bring things in at the right time for our children. We work and strive toward rhythm: toward having calm and steady days.
But there is more, and that piece is ourselves. Rudolf Steiner wrote that children respond not just to our teaching, but to WHO we are. Who we are is precious, and in order to see that, sometimes we have to strip away some of the rough exterior buffers we have built up over the years, because the very way we carry ourselves, dress ourselves, speak to our children and to others matters distinctly. We then can notice things in the world of Waldorf Education and wonder… Continue reading
One of the most important things Waldorf teachers do in their teacher training is to look at their own biographies. It is a vital step, because children respond to not just WHAT we teach, but WHO we are. This is true in parenting as well.
I am in my second year of Foundation Studies in Anthroposophy and the Arts, and we are doing some biography work. It is very interesting, and I wanted to share some of the resources and exercises as we go along for those of you who are interested in this kind of work for your own personal development in teaching and parenting.
Many of you know that Rudolf Steiner looked at the human lifespan on earth as working in seven year cycles ( although he was not the only one who looked at the human lifespan through seven year cycles). He saw the human being as a threefold human being, so when we look at biography we must consider the physical body, the soul (Bernard Lievegoed refers to this as the psyche in his book, “Phases: The Spiritual Rhythms of Adult Life” http://www.amazon.com/Phases-Spiritual-Rhythms-Adult-Life/dp/1855840561/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346523969&sr=8-1&keywords=phases+by+bernard+lievegoed) and the spirit (which, again Bernard Lievegoed refers to as the “biographical skeleton” in his book).
One of the first exercises we did in class was to take an index card and write one word or phrase that describes our physical body in the upper left hand corner and in the right hand corner we were to write down several “themes” that one could see at work in our life. In the center of the index card, we had to make a list of important events in our life. We had about five minutes to do this, so you could not sit and think for too long… (If you are going to do this, please grab an index card and do it before you read the next SPOILER part!!)
It was interesting to see how some people wrote down lots and lots from their childhood, and how some wrote almost nothing from their childhood but a lot from their adult life. Some people put things in their biography like when they learned to ride a bike without training wheels and some put in their college degrees….
One of the major resources I like for understanding the human life span is Betty Staley’s, “Tapestries” – I went through this book chapter by chapter and you can see those posts here: http://theparentingpassageway.com/category/book-reviews/tapestries/
In our course we are referring to Bernard Lievegoed’s work, which I like, and also this book, which is out of print: “The Human Life” by George and Gisela O’Neil: http://www.amazon.com/Human-Life-George-ONeil/dp/092997901X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1346524057&sr=1-1&keywords=the+human+life+george+oneil
Food for thought this Labor Day weekend,