Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: struggle. Read on for more…
One thing I have noticed lately, being forty three and all, is that life just seems to get messier and messier. When I was in my twenties and thirties, I had this vision that things would be “settled” when I was in my forties, and all should be well by then.
All things are well, but perhaps not in the same way I was thinking back then. Because as one ages, and as one’s children ages, I think life gets even messier. And mess is a good thing. It is the genesis of growth, of wisdom, of humility.
Struggle is a part of our biography as human beings who develop throughout the life span, and if parenting is part of that development, you can bet that struggle will be involved. Whether this is figuring how to cultivate certain inner qualities within yourself, or help guide your children toward adulthood, or figure out what your family’s values really are, life has a way of being a struggle and sometimes a muddle before things become crystal clear.
Being okay with struggle is part of rising up above parenting. I think an essential tool toward regaining your inner rhythm of your heart is to be able to sit in silence and try to be peaceful with the struggle. The struggle will pass, and all shall be well.