Our 31 days to the inner rhythm of the heart, the root foundation of a house of peace, is in progress. In the vein of those who are setting a New Year’s intention with “one word”, I offer the word of today to you: steady. Read on for more…
So far, our words to help us on a journey to a calmer, more peaceful home include open, reconciliation, attentiveness, reverence, courage, love, relentless, unity, building, time and haven . Today we are considering the word steady in creating a peaceful relationship with our children.
Steadiness is an amazing attribute in parenting. Someone told me the other day that parenting teenagers was not for the faint of heart. I think I would say that for all ages.
Parenting brings so many opportunities for change and for growth in almost every stage of the child’s being and our journey with that child.
From the birth or breastfeeding experience we never expected, to the complete love we feel for our children, to the things we agonize over, and yes, even to the irrational anger we can feel over a child or teenager’s actions, we need steadiness.
Steadiness is what I call “getting my ho-hum” on. It means holding the space, and not getting emotionally sucked into an argument or having a temper tantrum with my child. It means holding a steadiness even when a child is doing something that we recognize triggers our own emotions in some way. We can use our steady to embrace being the loving, kind adult who is ready to help a child who is feeling not so loving, not so kind.
This is a lively back post about being the rock that moss grows on (really! ): http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/12/02/re-claiming-authority-part-one/