We are continuing our look chapter-by-chapter through Elizabeth Pantley’s wonderful book about gentle discipline entitled, “The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums and Tears.”
On page 49, Elizabeth writes, “Children are joy. We love them with every cell of our being, and we can’t imagine what our world would be like without them. Yet, everyday life with our children can be challenging, frustrating, and exhausting……You may want to focus your decisions on creating joy, achieving your goals, and seeing the big picture of your child’s future, but you can’t even begin to see that big picture because there are so many little pictures in the way. Who would have ever thought that simple tasks, such as putting on shoes, brushing teeth, or giving a bath would require so much preparation, negotiation, and emotion? And who would have thought that raising one tiny child could bring so many frustrating everyday challenges?”
She goes on to write that many behaviors are immediately improved when we, as parents,improve the way we interact and communicate with our children. I don’t know how many of you remember this post, but it was one that resonated with many parents on this topic: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/23/changing-our-parenting-language/
Our communication methods have to be as varied as our children – children grow and change, and different ways of things work better at different stages, and children also have different temperaments.
In the chapter entitled, “First, Solve The Problem”, the author walks us through some typical parenting scenarios including tiredness, hunger, frustration, boredom, overstimulation, fear, feeling powerless, and confusion all with detailed solution.
Grab a copy of this book from your local bookseller or library and read along with us! I would love to hear your comments!