Our fragility is part of our humanity. The fact that our bodies can be so easily broken, our hearts broken, our emotions torn apart, is testament to this fact. The feeling of emptiness, of wanting and longing, is as natural a part of being human as the tide rolling in to greet the shore.
Authentic experiences, no matter how difficult or heart-wrenching, often provide the impetus for change. A new beginning. A chance to say “I’m sorry.” A chance to do something better. A chance to re-imagine, re-invigorate, re-vitalize. Authenticity is a wonderful gift to give, especially when one can share it on equal terms with other adults in intimate relationships.
If feelings of fragility become overwhelming, they can often be calmed this time of year (in the Northern Hemisphere at least), because the views of the expansive and never ending sky and the heat that goes on forever often draws us to water.
In particular, I do love the ocean. Its unceasing tides and waves and currents reminds us of the steadiness that we all carry and hold within us as part of a grander cosmic and spiritual rhythm. Steady, strong, ever able to be calm, ever able to soothe chaos and expansiveness into tranquility. This is what our children need from us as they learn to balance their own strength and fragility in an authentic way.