Okay, today I am less in encouraging mode and more in rant-y mode, so if you are not in the mood for a kick in the pants kind of post, do feel absolutely free to check back in tomorrow. That’s the disclaimer. And here it is, bluntly:
Folks, I want you all to stop researching, and start making some decisions and DOING. If what you decide doesn’t work out the way you want, you can tweak things. You can change your mind, if it is something to do with parenting or discipline. If it is something to do with curriculum choices for homeschooling, you can jump off the pages and make it more your own, if it is a curriculum you bought - bring it alive for your child (or re-sell the darn thing!) Make a decision, stick to it and give it some time, and then tweak or change. You can do this! Get out of your own way! Do what your heart is calling you to do, without fear! I am less interested in why something WON’T work then how to MAKE it work. Try it!
I am meeting more and more mothers lately who are so lovely and sweet but they seem so driven by pure and utter fear. Fear of being judged of others. Fear of “since I can’t do it 150 percent “right” –whatever that is- I won’t do it at all!” Fear of failure. Fear of making a commitment, even though they keep circling back around to the same things over and over.
If fear, negativity and anxiety are fueling you, no wonder you feel paralyzed in making decisions!! The more you get used to doing a REASONABLE amount of looking at the issues and making a decision and moving forward, the more you will get used to ACTION.
Action takes practice. It doesn’t always feel “safe”. But everything in life has pros and cons, polarities. There is no 100 percent failsafe. Have courage, have joy, take action and move forward! It only takes baby steps and dipping a toe in, not this headlong dive into perfection and dogmatic thinking – and that is whether it is homeschooling, positive discipline or attachment parenting. Be proud of the small successes and keep moving forward.
Create an action plan for whatever challenge you are facing. And part of your action plan should be to do something small for yourself everyday. Some of the mothers I meet I think are partially paralyzed because there is nothing for them at all, they are pouring everything into their children, and they are harried, hurried and worn-out.
Help yourself out by taking on only what you can handle! Are you rushing around every morning and afternoon and squishing homeschooling in around all that? Where is your time for your action plan if you are not home? I had a dear, dear friend say to me several weekends ago, ‘You know, Carrie, I cannot hear that still small voice of God, I cannot find and listen to my own intuition, if I am just rushing around.”
YES, dear sweet friend, YES.
Take care of business first; discern what is essential, create an action plan, and each day do something small to help you reach your goal. Start somewhere. No one will fault you for being where you are, but now is the time to move forward! Make decisions, take time to see how things work out, and then tweak or change. But move forward, and quit swimming in circles over fear, judgment, negativity, semantics, or pressure.
It is spring, there is new growth and change in the air, and a perfect time to start getting ready for fall school!
There, was that so bad?