Just a few little musings that came to me this morning…
Is your parenting helpful or is it honestly hindering your child from unfolding and being who they are, is it helping them learn to take responsibility over themselves or treating them as smaller and younger than they are, is your parenting helping your children rise up or holding then back?
For those of you with children ages birth through 7…
Are you showing your child that the world is a good place through your own kindness, your own self-control?
Are you giving your children enough time in development and not expecting your small children to be miniature adults? And conversely, a six year old is not a two year old. Are you holding them back?
Are you helping your children to be part of a loving community outside of the four walls of your home?
Are you giving your children enough space? We see a baby who struggles to attain crawling or an upright position, and sometimes we see the preschool or kindergarten aged children struggle with certain tasks. Are we being supportive, but also giving them enough space? It is not your job to solve your six- year old’s boredom, or to “solve” the temper tantrum of a four-year-old, but to provide space and support.
Are you keeping calm and carrying on?
Are you spending time in nature? Are your children getting dirty in the mud every day? Stretching their bodies in physical activity?
Are you protecting your children’s senses?
Are you making home the bedrock of your day and of your week?
Are you talking and explaining way too much? Are you approaching things in a more sideways manner and in imagery?
How is your rhythm? Do you have a daily, weekly and yearly rhythm?
Do your children work around the home? What is their responsibility?
What is the role of spirituality and religion, of awe and wonder in your child’s life?
For those of you with children in the developmental leaps that occur around six and seven, how are you showing your child authority in a kind, hold the space kind of way? Are your rules clear and consistent? How does the child make restitution for breaking those rules?
For those of you with children ages 7-10….
Are you expecting too much? Or are you treating them as smaller than they are?
Are you holding the space and showing your child true leadership and authority in a kind and consistent way?
Are you home? Are you scheduling too many things?
Do you have a strong rhythm to your day, week and year?
Are you giving your child ample opportunities in the arts to enliven their soul?
Are you giving your child time to rest, to dream, to just be, to work on what they have passion for?
Are you part of a community? Does your child have friends outside the family?
What do you do as a family to help others?
What work and responsibility does your child have around your home?
Does your child still spend time in nature, still plays, still gets out and moves their body and yes, even sweats, every day?
Are there other adults in your child’s life that your child looks up to?
Does your child still have wonder? What makes them awed?
What beautiful things does your child see every day? Every week?
Are you helping your children to grow up and be healthy adults?