The Antidote To The Overwhelming Year

Some of you may well recall my previous post regarding “The Overwhelming Year” here:  http://theparentingpassageway.com/2011/02/23/the-overwhelming-year/   In part I wrote:

“In spite of times that are sometimes overwhelming, I  do not wish to  have a simple life.  I doubt my life will ever be simple; I am too enmeshed with raising small children and  helping mothers and  a myriad of other things for life to be simple.  Sometimes I  wish for balance, I always hope and look  for connection, but I do not  wish for things to be so simple that there is not striving.

If you are experiencing a complex year, an overwhelming year, I encourage you not to find the nearest exit and crawl out, but to work and strive to let these times mold you and shape you.  I encourage you to find humor, joy, truthfulness goodness and beauty.  I encourage you to find support in real-life people, not just the Internet.  I encourage you to become the expert on what YOU need and to become the expert regarding your own family and your own life.”

So, if you are experiencing an overwhelming year, a year of striving, a year of challenge, I thought I would share with you a few tactics I have been taking lately in order to move forward:

1.  Acknowledgement that you really cannot do it all, nor should you, and why would you want to?  I have spent the past several months cutting back on commitments outside my home the best that I could and that has helped me immensely.

2.  Don’t forget the physical body.  I am a big believer in the non-traditional things such as  homeopathy and using  flower essences but also in the traditional things such as eating and drinking enough, exercising, getting enough sleep in order to really recuperate.  I once read in reference to really exhausted and depleted Waldorf Teachers that perhaps the teacher would  need three or four months of really good sleep to fully recover.  Doesn’t that give you pause for a moment and an idea to put sleep as a priority?   A good complete physical by a conventional doctor is typically not a bad idea as well!

3.  Order your outer life so you can order your inner life.  I saw this principle profoundly and beautifully expressed here:  http://www.studyinbrown.com/writing/2011/3/22/order-and-routine-making-straight-paths-for-peace-part-2.html

Go read this, it will give you a lump in your throat  because it is that wonderful.

4.  Prayer, prayer, prayer.  Mothers who read this blog who do not have a spiritual life, a religious tradition, a prayer life, probably get tired of reading this suggestion on my blog.  But, I ask you, how do you intend to do all this business of raising a family, setting the tone in your home, all the things that family entails without these pieces?

5.  Art is life.  Paint, sculpt, write, read, play music.  I have heard it said that art sends light into the soul, need I say more?

Many blessings on your striving,

Carrie

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8 thoughts on “The Antidote To The Overwhelming Year

  1. Re: Number 4, I never get tired of this suggestion Carrie. As a mother who does not necessarily have a spiritual life, a religious tradition or a prayer life, this suggestion does give me pause each time. I’ve incorporated so much of what you’ve written into my life and that of my family’s. Religion is a journey I’m still on, and haven’t yet reached my destination. Reading your suggestions on prayer allows me a type of spiritual meditation to connect with that tells me I’ll get there soon-when I’m ready-but not to feel guilty about not being there yet.

    Thank you for all you do.

  2. You have no idea how this has come at the exact moment I needed it! I don’t believe in coincidence. I am certain I was led to read this today. (I don’t read all my favorite blogs every day-I rotate.) Thank you.

  3. Hi Carrie,

    I like your blog and get a lot out of reading it. However, you tend to refer only to mothers. You should know that there are many fathers out here who can benefit from your words, me being one of them. Please consider being more inclusive in your blogs to include us!

    Thanks for your wonderful posts.

    Scott

    • Scott, Thank you for reading this blog. I do love my dad readers, and I do know you all are there despite the lack of frequency with which dads comment! LOL.
      Thank you for the reminder!
      Blessings,
      Carrie

  4. Thank you.

    While my precious children are grown now, I’ve enjoyed reading your thoughts. This post, though, was so needed. I’ve had an overwhelming couple of years, in so many ways. Your reminders, particularly prayer (my word for this year!), are such a soothing balm on this day when the challenges of the last months are weighing on me.

    Again, thank you.

  5. Ah sleep. A precious commodity indeed. I struggle with my need to attachment parent my 9-month & 4 year old to sleep and my recognition of my own needs particularly as I think that my PND is largely sleep deprivation in action. Yet, I can’t MAKE my boy sleep more than 2 hours at a time at night. Nor can I MAKE my 4 yr old sleep in her own bed at night without coming into ours for a ‘snuggle’. So what do I do? I do without sleep but function poorly as a parent. The sound of four months of sleep sounds wonderful about now!
    Art and beauty are so important. Without them I think I would sink.

  6. Pingback: The Sacred Art of Self-Care | The Parenting Passageway

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