Some of you may well recall my previous post regarding “The Overwhelming Year” here: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2011/02/23/the-overwhelming-year/ In part I wrote:
“In spite of times that are sometimes overwhelming, I do not wish to have a simple life. I doubt my life will ever be simple; I am too enmeshed with raising small children and helping mothers and a myriad of other things for life to be simple. Sometimes I wish for balance, I always hope and look for connection, but I do not wish for things to be so simple that there is not striving.
If you are experiencing a complex year, an overwhelming year, I encourage you not to find the nearest exit and crawl out, but to work and strive to let these times mold you and shape you. I encourage you to find humor, joy, truthfulness goodness and beauty. I encourage you to find support in real-life people, not just the Internet. I encourage you to become the expert on what YOU need and to become the expert regarding your own family and your own life.”
So, if you are experiencing an overwhelming year, a year of striving, a year of challenge, I thought I would share with you a few tactics I have been taking lately in order to move forward:
1. Acknowledgement that you really cannot do it all, nor should you, and why would you want to? I have spent the past several months cutting back on commitments outside my home the best that I could and that has helped me immensely.
2. Don’t forget the physical body. I am a big believer in the non-traditional things such as homeopathy and using flower essences but also in the traditional things such as eating and drinking enough, exercising, getting enough sleep in order to really recuperate. I once read in reference to really exhausted and depleted Waldorf Teachers that perhaps the teacher would need three or four months of really good sleep to fully recover. Doesn’t that give you pause for a moment and an idea to put sleep as a priority? A good complete physical by a conventional doctor is typically not a bad idea as well!
3. Order your outer life so you can order your inner life. I saw this principle profoundly and beautifully expressed here: http://www.studyinbrown.com/writing/2011/3/22/order-and-routine-making-straight-paths-for-peace-part-2.html
Go read this, it will give you a lump in your throat because it is that wonderful.
4. Prayer, prayer, prayer. Mothers who read this blog who do not have a spiritual life, a religious tradition, a prayer life, probably get tired of reading this suggestion on my blog. But, I ask you, how do you intend to do all this business of raising a family, setting the tone in your home, all the things that family entails without these pieces?
5. Art is life. Paint, sculpt, write, read, play music. I have heard it said that art sends light into the soul, need I say more?
Many blessings on your striving,