To Those Of You Contemplating Homeschooling

This is the time of year when some families are deciding to just not send their children back to school after the Holiday Break and are getting started homeschooling.  Have hope!

I have heard from parents who have taken the child they had the most difficult relationship with and brought that child home (and many parents with this same situation in the past have told me this brought the most wonderful changes and a forging of a close, intimate and healthy parent-child relationship).   Have hope!

I have heard from parents who want to switch to Waldorf homeschooling from another method of homeschooling.  The number one complaint I hear is that the other methods are “so dry”.  Have hope!

I have heard from parents who want to switch to Waldorf homeschooling because they felt some of the methods they used in the past really pushed their early grades child and now at age 9 or 10 their child is completely burned out.  Have hope!

I have heard from parents who have not yet pulled their children out of school but really, really want to.  They have collected curriculum and just need to find the confidence to get started!  Have hope!

If any of the above scenarios represent YOU and your family today, I have good news for you!

This is the good news:  you CAN do this, you will be successful, it will be okay.  Your family relationship will be stronger.  You will grow as a mother and as a human being. You will discover your children are lovely to be around.  Your family will also grow in grace and love!

This is not to say there will not be growing pains, or days of wondering why you decided to do this.  This is not say that you will not have to WORK – work in planning for your school days, work in planning how to do school and housecleaning, and this is not to say there will not be time when you have to make hard decisions about extra-curricular activities….but I am here to let you know that these growing pains will be worth it.  Completely and utterly worth it!

Have the courage to pull your children out of school, or to switch methods if that is what your family needs.

If you have been collecting curriculum, sit down and plan out a rhythm for a week and get started!  Your curriculum does no good at all sitting on a shelf.

Here are a few of my tips to get started:

  • Start with planning for this week – many of you are just waiting for the right moment to start homeschooling.  There is no right moment, you must jump in and do it.  Plan a week, then plan two weeks, then plan a month.  Just get started!  I like to plan day by day for my year over the Summer, so I start early, but mothers do it all different ways.  Find the way that works for you (but in order to do this you must start somewhere!).  You are not re-creating school in your home, here is a lovely article by Donna Simmons about the bringing Waldorf Education into the home: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/08/25/bringing-waldorf-to-homeschooling-by-donna-simmons/
  • Plan that your children may need up to a whole school year to really settle in.  Many mothers have told me that after they pulled their child from school the first year was just hard.  Don’t be discouraged.   Keep reminding yourself that what you are doing is enough:  http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/08/05/do-you-ever-worry-your-homeschool-teaching-is-not-enough/  Homeschooling is first and foremost about family!
  • Do have a support system for those hard days that you can call on (people who will NOT tell you the answer is to put your child back into school!)  Be careful what you can share with who.  Sometimes if you complain too much to family members, they lose confidence homeschooling is the right choice for your family and will start to pressure you about putting your children back in  school.  Know who you can trust with what information!
  • Figure out about life and homeschooling, smaller children — errands, cleaning, meals.  How and when is this going to happen?  What will the smaller children be doing whilst you work with your older child?  How can you balance needs within your family?
  • Work on YOURSELF.  I see so many mothers carrying around these really negative images of themselves – I am so disorganized, I can’t get up, I can’t stick to a schedule, ….What do you need to do to forgive yourself, to celebrate yourself, to lift yourself up?  http://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/11/27/forgiving-ourselves/ 
  • What is your spiritual path and what are you doing for spiritual work and personal development?  Some mothers I know found success with this little book, I gave out several copies at Christmas because I personally liked it so much (Christian perspective, but okay for those raised in Christian faith and wanting a little jump start back into something spiritual): http://www.amazon.com/Moments-Peace-Presence-God-Morning/dp/0764207768/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1294856068&sr=8-1
  • If you are Waldorf homeschooling, I encourage you to actually read some Steiner.  Kingdom of Childhood is a good place to start, very accessible.  Here it is for free:  http://steinerbooks.org/research/archive/kingdom_of_childhood/kingdom_of_childhood.pdf  You don’t have to agree with Steiner’s personal worldview to use Waldorf Education; you can bring Waldorf elements to your homeschool no matter what methods you use. (Here is a post on infusing Waldorf methods into Christian homeschooling:  http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/20/infusing-waldorf-elements-into-your-christian-homeschool/)  You take what resonates with you and leave the rest behind, but I think Steiner  fleshes out a curriculum so in synch with the developmental stages that also mesh with what psychologists such as Gesell and Piaget have said of the child people are foolhardy to ignore this system of education.  You can read why I personally like Waldorf Education here: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2008/11/06/wonderful-waldorf/
  • Here is a whole post that rounds up some of the back posts on coming to Waldorf late:   http://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/12/03/coming-to-waldorf-late-2/
  • Get help!  If you need help, how about using a Waldorf consultant? 

Just jump in and get started, you will be so glad you did!

Many blessings,

Carrie

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8 thoughts on “To Those Of You Contemplating Homeschooling

  1. Such perfect timing! I just got an email from one of my childcare mamas about this. I’ll have to show her this post when she stops in to chat about this.

  2. I just pulled my son out of public school (first grade) at Thanksgiving time. We’d been talking about it since before he was born, and problems at school seemed to be snowballing. I hemmed and hawed for so long, I had so much doubt, but every homeschooler I spoke to (after I talked their ear off and sucked as much information as I could out of them!) every homeschooler told me, if you’re thinking about it, just do it. Do it NOW! So we did! I am still trying to figure it out, to find a new rhythm, but life at home is so much more peaceful now. I am taking it easy on him, not too much. Much less than they were doing at school. And he still resists some of it. I just have to hope that one day he will “forget” how it was at school, and enjoy learning. Maybe even have fun with it! Thanks for your recent words on homeschooling. They are giving me confidence.

  3. Thank you for your comments, Carrie. I am hoping to homeschool my children (ages 11 months and 2.5 years). The 2-year-old is a very high needs child and always has been (colicky for 6 months, wants CONSTANT interaction from Mama & Papa, does not play alone, very emotionally sensitive). I am just hoping I have the stamina to homeschool her — I get VERY tired staying at home with her all day. Your posts give me confidence and inspiration.

  4. Hi Carrie,

    Thanks so much for this. I have a 21/2 year old and a 5 month old and am still in love with the idea of homeschooling, at least for ‘preschool/kindergaarten’ and then to go from there. I just truly believe that I am here to teach them and give to them and I want to keep our family bonds strong, never feel alienated from my children. It will be a hard sell for my parents-in-law and even my husband but I think if I can do a good enough job early on they will see the magic involved in homeschooling. Do you have any tips on what resources to use to teach ages 3-5 with a Waldorf based curriculum?

    Thanks, Meagan.

  5. SO my friend had just read your post and that’s why she called. She now has a little reading list and I have instructions to post more for her on my blog to follow up with.

  6. so much to think about…I have a 4 1/2 year old who I contemplate homeschooling w Waldorf method (well, on good days anyway) although I have visited a local Waldorf school and LOVED it and feel it would be so hard to recreate that peaceful lovely environment – especially without group play circle time type options (I only have a 4 1/2 year old and a 2 year old) What do you recommend for preschool years? finding a likeminded group to be involved with? I see all the drama and heartache of finding the right school and getting your child started into K and it really worries me. I dont want to put my child through that (especially as he is already a “spirited/sensitive” child) I was homeschooled myself but not until gradeschool, and while I have many younger siblings we were not homeschooled with Waldorf ideas…
    Thanks for any input on getting the ball rolling…(or not starting yet? I dont know what to do! He is bright, very imaginative, plays well and all but do I need structured “school” things??)
    Anyway. Thanks. Your blog is a lifeline to sane parenting!!

  7. Hi Carrie! Thank you so much for your inspirational guidance. My question…what is your take on homeschooling an only child (boy)? I would love to homeschool him in the next year or so (he’s three now). It really feels right for me as we have no Waldorf school close by and I have so many reservations about the public school system. But I find myself worrying that he will be isolated socially, even if he’s involved in other activities such as sports and music. What is your take on this? I really value your opinion. Thanks!

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