The Beginning Is Now

The phone has been ringing off the hook this week for my volunteer work as a breastfeeding support counselor.  I have been one busy person fielding calls!

These calls are all related to breastfeeding, but many times the crux of the matter I find  is more related to parenting than breastfeeding. 

  • How do we let our expectations go and respond to our babies and children from our hearts?
  • How do we learn to trust our own intuition in parenting over what “the books” say or what we “think” our version of society is saying?
  • How do we learn that  we can listen to different viewpoints and that it is okay if we do not take those viewpoints into our family life?
  • How do we set boundaries with the people we love?
  • How do we slow down to the pace of a small infant?  This seems to be a genuine problem.  We are often working full-time during pregnancy, possibly even working up to or on our due date, when we are suddenly plunged into a world of slower time  after an infant is born.  This takes true adjustment.
  • How do we develop a parenting pathway that is right for us?
  • How do we handle having a positive attitude in parenting?
  • How do we learn to ask for help when we need it?
  • How do we learn how to support others in a respectful way?

Parenting starts here, with the infant, learning to trust, learning to love, learning to know what is right for our own families and our own children.  No one can forge the parenting path for your  family except for you.  It takes time, but you will find what works best for you and your family.  You will be able to take what resonates with you and leave the rest behind.  You are the expert on your own family.  You can gather wonderful suggestions and support from other people – I do all the time!-  but ultimately the work of parenting is a path that each one of us must develop for ourselves.  This is a mindful journey that you can start today; the beginning is now!

Many blessings today!

Carrie

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2 thoughts on “The Beginning Is Now

  1. I know what you mean– I also work as a bfing peer counselor at our local WIC agency….there are so many underlying issues you can try to counsel…sometimes it is hard for me to keep the #1 task in mind…I try to be a good model; breastfeed while chatting, make it seem like “the norm”, eye contact with baby, etc. I find, as well, that so many mama’s have trouble learning to trust their baby. It is a journey, and you are forever changed, day by day. Mother-to-mother support is so important, esp. in those first few weeks when BFing can be a bit tough. Are you a LLL leader, as well? :)

  2. Hi Carrie
    I wish I started my journey when I was pregnant with my firstborn. I had to learn so much (make so many mistakes) to get on the road I am on now. It has taken me/us a long time to learn what is right for our family. Thanks to wonderful people like yourself who take the time to write and share your experience this journey to being a mindful parent is a little bit easier. Blessing and wishing you a restfull weekend

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