Comments on: Effective Use of the Temperaments in Education and Discipline http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/ Peaceful Parenting for a Hectic World Sun, 27 May 2012 06:57:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Renee http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3914 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 20:13:10 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3914 Thanks Carrie. You did answer for me what I knew in my heart– that I can’t fix things for my sister. She is on her own path and needs to want to change herself. Maybe I can make subtle suggestions about working with others? ;-)

And it’s good to know that temperament is still developing. My son went through an extremely shy phase between 2-4 (almost debilitating). It was hard for me socially. And as a mom, I worried so much about his ability to have and make friends. But, he seems to be coming out of it bit by bit.

I guess my lesson today is that each and every one of us has our own path!

]]> By: Carrie http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3905 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 01:13:10 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3905 Thank you so much, earthboys mama!
Many blessings,
Carrie

]]> By: earthboys http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3903 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 00:22:21 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3903 I enjoyed reading this post. I see a little sanguine in my house, my 7 year old son finds beauty and awe in every little treasure he finds and always collecting and admiring flowers especially for me. Such a romantic, he loves to build and create for hours but when it comes to doing some writing, 5 mins is too much. Since we live on a farm there are so many exciting things going on.
Lovely blog, I forward it to many moms, an inspiration to all.

]]> By: Carrie http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3900 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:05:22 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3900 Hi renee,
Yes, I think that is the hard thing when we see people whose temperaments are not in harmony and things are not in balance..it can be really hard to watch and listen to..I have some VERY phlegmatic people in my family and it is hard for me too! For melancholics, I think if they could at all get involved in caring for other people in need or in caring for animals..that is the hard thing though, they have to come up with this and want to do it themselves and recognize it in themselves…You cannot fix it for her, as much as you would like. :)
Your little tiny four year old – you cannot tell temperament yet and the introvert/extravert thing you will not see until after the nine year change…some young children (ie, ages 7-9) are really shy but then open up after the nine year change (or even the 12 year change)…so just hold on to the information for later..:)
Blessings,
Carrie

]]> By: Renee http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3899 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 16:02:30 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3899 This is helpful Carrie. It is nice to think of my own temperament and how to find balance rather than feeling as if my temperament is negative in some way!

Any suggestions on how to help an adult who is melancholic to find balance? My sister is extremely melancholic. She is 33 years old and still reacts to every single event in her life as a “rip off” and as if she is the only one who has to endure such hardships. It’s hard to just listen and be supportive. Truthfully though, I get tired of hearing the same old thing.

And to clarify, I shouldn’t be trying to fit my 4 1/2 year old into any of these categories or intro/extraversion until he is older than 7?

Thanks,
Renee

]]> By: Carrie http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3896 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 13:00:18 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3896 Sarah- I agree with care of something other than themselves for the introverted melancholic….That is so excellent you were able to respond to her in that way and fill her needs!
Blessings,
Carrie

]]> By: Carrie http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3895 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 12:59:30 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3895 Eva, This link is AWESOME! Thank you for sharing it with us!!
Many, many blessings!
Carrie

]]> By: sarah http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3894 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 10:27:15 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3894 My oldest (14) is an introverted melancholic. Over the years she has responded best when she is given the opportunity to care for others. She loves gardening, caring for animals, and babysitting. I can’t peg my youngest.

]]> By: Eva http://theparentingpassageway.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3890 Tue, 01 Jun 2010 02:30:04 +0000 https://dendtler.wordpress.com/2010/05/31/effective-use-of-the-temperaments-in-education-and-discipline/#comment-3890 Carrie, I love the concept of temperaments and own some German Waldorf books on them. I thought you might be interested in a link from Holly Pierlot (http://www.mothersruleoflife.com) to a Christian (Catholic) description of them. So here you go:

http://mothersruleoflife.com/free/Understanding%20Our%20Temperaments.pdf

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