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By: Lisa Boisvert Mackenzie

Lisa Boisvert Mackenzie — Fri, 28 May 2010 10:46:00 +0000

PS Carrie, Most importantly, Thank you for another warm and comapssionate approach to an important and hard topic for all of us.

Warmly ,
Lisa

By: Lisa Boisvert Mackenzie

Lisa Boisvert Mackenzie — Fri, 28 May 2010 10:44:02 +0000

It’s our inner work that heals our pain and anger and releases it, or at leasts helps us to recognize it when it raises its firey head. Children bring the gift of poking into all those tender places of our own lives, places that are shadowed and quiet. When we recognize them and heal them, they loose the charge, the anger dissipates, we can heal the anger and hold the space for our children to be who they are, for us to be free of reactions from events buried deep in our pasts and for our children to free of them too.

Warmly,
Lisa

By: Carrie

Carrie — Wed, 26 May 2010 22:15:20 +0000

Jen – I don’t know as quiet equates to peaceful; seems it could also be everyone holding everything as well…loud can be happy!
Hugs,
Carrie

By: jennifer

jennifer — Wed, 26 May 2010 20:49:42 +0000

i also speak LOUDLY especially when I’m excited

so does my 3 year old…LOL

we don’t have what you would call a “peaceful” home LOL

By: Stella

Stella — Wed, 26 May 2010 07:56:42 +0000

*sheepishly admitting Norwegian heritage here*

I don’t have a nonviolent communication group anywhere near me, but I do read the book at least once a year. I think a natural next step would be trying to find a more practical approach – I’m very theoretical, and we do need more practice around here, not just theory.

I had a long talk with my eldest child yesterday. I am so happy to see that he is able to express anger much more freely than I. I don’t know if this is useful or very related, but when he was 4 he had his first “phase” of often feeling frustrated and angry. He started spitting at us – and that would make us – the adults – really angry too. We made a list, “Anger Helpers”, where he listed things that would help him feel angry, let us know he was angry, and not hurt himself or us. #1 was jumping on the bed, #2 racing around the yard – great stuff!

By: Carrie

Carrie — Tue, 25 May 2010 12:55:16 +0000

I LOVE this Federica – I grew up in a German/French family, my other side of the family was Norwegian/Polish and so quiet in comparision! Fascinating stuff!
You know I love all the cross-cultural stuff!
Blessings,
Carrie

By: Federica

Federica — Tue, 25 May 2010 12:44:34 +0000

I think there are also some cultural aspects. Italians do shout a lot compared to Britons but it’s nothing when I compare it to Greeks for example. My culture is one where feelings are mostly shown and expressed even exagerated (like in the opera!).
English moms living here in Italy always tell me me that children and kindergarten here “are so loud”!
Italian moms shout even when they are not angry. Italian moms do speak a lot almost overspeaking but we are really talkative people in every situation.

Not to say it’s ok, I personally don’t like myself when I’m shouting or yelling to my little daughter.
Just wanted to bring the attention on the macro-cultural context.

ciao
Federica

By: Noelle

Noelle — Tue, 25 May 2010 12:00:58 +0000

thank you Carrie. thank you. I feel like I stuff so much down and feel exhausted as a result. You are right – I need to practice showing I am angry and healthy ways to resolve anger. I don’t want my children to grow up repressing their feelings as I have had to do.
thank you again.