This is the time of renewal, this sacred and new time between Easter and Ascension. This is a great time to take stock and start planning; plan for your personal development; plan for homeschooling (Waldorf mothers who are homeschooling the grades – have you ordered your materials yet? Have you started laying out a flow to your blocks for the fall?); plan for what you would like to see happen between now and fall.
You are the architect, you are the designer, you are the artist of your life and the lives of your children. If things are overwhelming right now,it is okay to say no to things. It is okay to set boundaries. It is okay to be real and authentic and honest about what you can and cannot handle!
One thing that always helps me is to go back to our Family Mission Statement. Here is a back post about writing a family mission statement, you can see that here: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/05/08/creating-a-family-mission-statement/ Once you have this piece of paper, please do make sure to review it, use it, keep it in your mind as you make decisions. It should be like a guiding compass for your family and the things you choose to do as a family.
The other thing that can keep you centered is to have your own Personal Mission Statement or what some people call a Personal Vision Statement. The more you can develop yourself, learn about yourself, and calm and center yourself (which means actually figuring out what makes you feel calm and centered to begin with :)), your family will absolutely benefit. Children want a mother that is calmly in control of things and can be a resource, a guide, a boundary, a wall to bounce off if need be – but a gentle, calm and nurturing presence. What children don’t want is out- of- control, screaming and yelling parents where the whole atmosphere of the house feels stressed and falling apart. You can get to the first thing, but you have to stop and think.
- Think about what would make the biggest difference in your life to make yourself more calm.
- Think about what your priorities really are, and how your life could reflect that.
- How could your marriage be a priority? What would that look like?
- If your children are small, they must be a priority. They are depending upon you to guide them and to love them and to teach them.
- What do you want your homeschooling adventure to look like? Have you assessed your child and know what they need to work on – not just “skill-wise” but also emotionally, physically, spiritually? What do they need to develop into “whole” human beings? What would your homeschooling look like to reflect that? Now is the time to assess for next year’s planning. You cannot figure out what you are going to do in homeschooling next year unless you have assessed where your child is right now, and some of the biggest homeschooling lessons have nothing to do with academic skills at all.
Just a few thoughts for today.
Many blessings to you,