Peaceful March!

Have I got a treat for you this month, and I am so excited to write these series and bring it to you all!  I was thinking about this month, the month of March, the month of Lent and the month of St. Patrick and it really led me to meditate on peace and  what peace means within the context of homemaking, parenting and creating a family culture.

What does it mean to have a peaceful home?  Is it the absence of conflict?  Actually, for me, it is not the absence of conflict.  I do not count it as a good day when there is no temper tantrum, no yelling, no fighting per se (of course that is nice when those days happen!)  But I guess what I am saying is that for me, peace is the ability to maintain my center whilst these things are happening.  Does that resonate with anyone out there? 

I got this cute email from a mother who said something to the effect that I seemed calm and centered and asked how she could attain that.  I chuckled, because I remember when my oldest was two and a half (and also heading into those three’s!) and I didn’t feel calm or centered.  I remember being unsure of how to handle two children.  I remember all those feelings, and  I remember feeling as if I had very little support.  That is why I started to write this blog because now I am at the point where I feel I do have something to give back. I have figured out some things and for the most part, I feel  do feel centered and calm, at least with the parenting part.    This doesn’t mean yelling never happens, anger never happens, or I never feel as if there isn’t enough of me to go around.  It doesn’t mean I don’t worry about my children, or sometimes wonder if the job I am doing is “enough”.  But what it means is that for the most part, I can take that and work with those feelings in a more positive way than I ever could before.  And you will be able to as well!  Come follow along with me this month and let’s talk about these issues!

One thing you may want to have for this month is just a blank Main Lesson book or a sketch pad or just blank paper and some art materials that you like, whether that is colored pencils or other things, just so you can jot down questions and your ideas.

For today, I want you to really think about how you feel about peace.

  • What would a peaceful home look like to you?  What would it sound like?  What would it smell like?  What does a peaceful home mean to your spouse?  Can you talk about this together?
  • Is peace for you the absence of conflict? Is it never having a raised voice? How can you look at peace from different angles or viewpoints?
  • What makes you feel centered and peaceful?  Is it reading, art, painting, knitting, exercising?  I see attached mothers who feel guilty about taking any time “alone”, and sometimes we can feel “alone” with a sleeping baby on our back :), but it is not wrong for you to need an hour to do something that nourishes you!
  • Where is your prayer and meditation time?  Whether your path is Christian, Jewish, Islamic or other spiritual traditions, I urge you to carefully think about creating a path this month that will nourish your soul.  If you are atheist, how do you work with this within your beliefs?  Can you draw or journal about this?  Pull out a calendar and put time in every day to do these spiritual things. Make that date to go check out a place of worship if that speaks to you.  Find the tradition and path that moves you!
  • Living with small children is physically demanding, it is repetitive.  Children are immature, they cry,they are noisy, they do things!  On the other hand, children bring a lot of joy, much laughter, they say and do funny things.  How can you reconcile these things to have peace in the midst of the noise and mess?

In parting for today, in  honor of St. Patrick’s day, let us remember the prayer attributed to him:

May the Strength of God guide us.
May the Power of God preserve us.
May the Wisdom of God instruct us.
May the Hand of God protect us.
May the Way of God direct us.
May the Shield of God defend us.
May the Angels of God guard us.
- Against the snares of the evil one.
May Christ be with us!
May Christ be before us!
May Christ be in us,
Christ be over all!
May Thy Grace, Lord,
Always be ours,
This day, O Lord, and forevermore. Amen.

Peaceful days and many blessings,

Carrie

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10 thoughts on “Peaceful March!

  1. oy…peace…my daughter was making me CRAZY this weekend…and I found myself saying under my breath, “peace and patience”

    And it really does help to speak to oneself inwardly, then you are able to handle the situation with grace LOL

  2. Not too long ago I introduced the word Peacemaker to my 4 1/2 yr old using our Christian beliefs and referencing Jesus as an example (history gives us many great other examples too). It really struck a cord with her as she uses the phrase a lot and reminds me of it too. With a 2 and 4 year old there are always those little squalls of disagreement and emotion, but to me it is how we resolve conflict and mend our relationships that create peace.

  3. Oh Carrie
    What a wonderful idea, I am so excited to follow you this month.
    I realise that I have to do a lot of work on my idea of a peaceful home. I have had a very unpeaceful childhood and have been trying to create the ideal peaceful home for my children. Meaning my unrealistic ideal of no fighting, tantrums etc. And because I can’t deliver on this ideal I often felt overwhelmed.
    And thanks for the words of encouragements and stating that you also have difficult moments. It would be good to feel for the most part an inner peace, confidence in what I am doing and that it is enough.

  4. This is a great post, Carrie. I’m struggling with a 1 and a 2 year old right now, and often wonder if I’ll get through it. I’m actually starting to see gray hairs appear on my head, which makes me think this truly is a challenging time for me.

    Thank you for helping me think about peace. Now if I could figure out how to be peaceful inside, when everything on the outside is chaos. The prayer is perfect. Looking forward to the March posts!

  5. I am so looking forward to this month now! Seriously, this is something I’ve been needing. Life has been a struggle with my 2 year old and 9 month old and I feel myself being angry inside so much of the time. I feel sad about this and know I need to change….so thank you for your insight and for giving us tools to help us create a more peaceful home. :)

  6. We’re working on this concept…what a great reminder! As an Agnostic (with an Atheist partner) we find ourselves turning to nature for peace. (Since you asked)

    This means spending time outside, even in bad weather. Or, bringing the outside in. I’m starting a project this week to create a “seed starting rack” for the growing season. My almost 4-year old is involved in the entire process, which makes it extra challenging, but very rewarding.

    Also, I find de-cluttering and “Spring Cleaning” activities to bring me a good sense of inner peace and forward thinking. I do whatever it takes to get through the winter season. I miss my garden:(

    • Thanks for sharing Shannon, there are a few ideas along your suggestions in the Lent post as well…Don’t know if you read that one or not..
      Blessings,
      Carrie

  7. Hello Carrie,
    I’m sequentially making my way through all your posts – starting with your first one – all those years ago – and there are so many pearls of wisdom here.

    I love this post for the questions you’ve raised. Amidst all the clutter in my mind – it gives me clarity.

    For me peace at home would mean my child allowed to be a child – tantrums and all – and us adults (especially me) being adults, and being able to handle everything in a nurturing and gentle way – and being on top of things.
    Thank you for letting me have that insight.

    • Divya,
      How wonderful! There are a lot of posts, aren’t there? LOL. I am so glad you are here and working with things for your own family!
      Blessings,
      Carrie

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